34Wiesbaden, Germany
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My self-summary
Part-time Tyler Durden who thinks being extremely comfortable can be an equally good and bad thing.

Loyal to a fault: I'm probably tagged on my friends' phones as the person to call when they need to hide a body and/or in case of eventual Soviet invasion (I half-apologize for this joke having gotten less funny lately).

"Bleiben will ich, wo ich nie gewesen bin."
What I’m doing with my life
Exploring and surprising myself with where I have wandered culturally, physically, and in professionally. Literally have saved a life or two but I still blush when my secretary says "My Hero!" (she takes a certain pleasure out of torturing me like that which, come to think of it, is probably why we get along so swimmingly).

Triathlons, Thai Food, and Tough Mudder

Practicing being really bad at calligraphy

... but simultaneously being grown-up kid who will build a tower of Legos, smash it down, and build it all over again... all with equal gusto.
I’m really good at
Adapting to the cards I am dealt. If my fate is to be lost in China, riding camel-back into the Sahara without water, or getting caught in the middle of a thunderstorm in rural Romania with no tent (during a full moon to boot) I just roll with the punches...shivering, but rolling nonetheless.


Drinking home-distilled St. Petersburg-style vodka and taste-testing for my friend's brewery... it's a hard life sometimes.

Almost never letting my canoe tip over... almost never
The first things people usually notice about me
Bright blue eyes and white teeth for those with superficial tastes is what gets said the most. Otherwise I'm usually the first to jump in when there is something to physically occupy myself with, anything from cattle herding to waiting tables.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

Definitely Eckhart Tolle, Robert Jordan, Douglas Adams, Thoreau and my former sorta-neighbor Chuck Palahniuk.

'Freakonomics' and 'The World in Six Songs'...basically anything that expands my worldview. Or just blazing through a fun read like Fear and Loathing...

'Don Quixote', 'Do Travel Writers Go to Hell?', and 'The Forest People' make my feet itchy.

I have geeked out on fantasy lit at times but lately have been on a history kick.

I think it is fair to include good comics in this list of print media so I'll start with a mandatory Calvin and Hobbes as well as XKCD, SMBC, and Perry Bible Fellowship to represent the interwebs.


I love Tarantino flicks, Kubrick classics, and am developing my Kurosawa palate. Nolan, Ritchie, and other mind-stretchers are all amazing people. Wes Anderson is interesting as well, and while Rushmore is among my favorites the gold and silver of his work has to go to the much-maligned Life Aquatic and Fantastic Mr. Fox. Why these are my favorites makes for a great, if longer, conversation starter.

Pixar puts out solid films that ensure I will never grow up too much...also Studio Ghibli.

City of God has me in awe. Sure, there are plenty of similar movies about struggle; this one just resonates the deepest.

Major bonus points to anyone who has ever seen World Safari (the ones with Alby and John)!!


I eat anything a fevered culinary mind can cook up. MY fevered culinary mind wants to cook more Thai and seafood, and my coworker's homemade Indian (Malayali) is to die for, but I still need to build up my tolerance to spice :-P

Lately also been making more flatbreads, especially Naan, and coming up with new hummus recipes.
Six things I could never do without
--Friends who you can not speak to for months, but act like you've never left

-Family who accept me even when I am not yet the person I see myself becoming

-One biannual river canoeing trip with my best friend to restore my sanity

-Running, working, or just moving to let my body buzz with life

-A horseback ride across Mongolia

-Having access to a dog even when I can't realistically have one myself.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
States of mind and perspectives I've experienced and how to revisit them... how to discover brand new ones

Aligning human nature more closely with cultural practice while still pushing ourselves beyond petty instincts.

Dancing and how ridiculous I look doing it
On a typical Friday night I am
Training for Tough-Mudder

Crushing contenders at bubble soccer
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am a sucker for getting pampered at a spa, although I take some sort of sick pleasure in the miserable mishaps I've had in life as well. WanderMasochist is the closest description I have yet to find.

I've also written some, ahem, "well-received" erotica.
You should message me if
Just because... but especially if you:

-Overuse parentheses or ellipses... (like I do)

-You have a go-bag and are equally ready for urban exploration or outdoor adventures

-I have something to teach you, or you have something to teach me
The two of us