43Southwark, United Kingdom
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My self-summary
A teaser, not a pleaser. I'm more likely to want to talk to a pretty girl, than jump into bed with her: I need a firm emotional relationship as a prerequisite. This isn't a preference, it's a requirement. Sorry. I come across as quiet, but I generally speak my mind. Also, I'm taller than a door. (Look at height box to the right. :-P)
What I’m doing with my life
A suave software developer working in London. Professionally, I split my life between London and Norwich. Personally, I split it between Newcastle (seeing my two kids) and the Lake District.

I love cooking for groups of people. I run a movie club in my spare time, visiting various independent cinema in London. I'm also working on a few software/social media projects at the moment.
I’m really good at
I'm a good listener and equally good at writing. I believe that everyone can be happy, you just have to find the way. I'm also really good at dancing badly.
The first things people usually notice about me
I make people feel short for some reason, my green eyes/how very short sighted I am, my mischievous laugh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favourite books: I'm more likely to be reading computer science textbooks than pulp fiction, but if you have to ask it's "A song of Ice and Fire" books by G.R.R. Martin.

Favourite movie: The Matrix (Sorry, just love that film)

Favourite show: Ash vs. evil dead.

Favourite music: Into electronic/90s techno like system 7.

Favourite food: Due to sizeable food intolerances, I make most of my meals from scratch. I make a mean lamb bolognese with rice. Happy to share recipes!
Six things I could never do without
My kids
My friends
A positive outlook
Mental/Social stimulation
Chocolate (sorry just love it too much)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How impressive and sexy I am. Why so many people struggle to identify their impressiveness and sexiness.

All the changes in my life I've made. Used to be quite depressed, but life is pretty good due good friends and a good job. I might tell you about it sometime.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am very very slightly kinky. (Basically, I like spanking.)

I am more dominant than submissive, more sadist than masochist. Actually, I consider dominant/submissive as a scale - just as much as homo/hetero. Some people generalise with the "everyone is bisexual" blanket statement; I perceive sexuality as a scale, where being at either extreme is quite rare.

I secretly enjoy girls asking me about my height. :-D

Also, I get very frustrated with short people that think they're tall. My concept of "tall" begins at 6ft. However, the shortest girl I ever dated was 5ft.
You should message me if
you want to speak to me; I rarely send the first message. (But more than just "Hi," please!) Also, I'm not looking for casual sex, I'm looking for a deep relationship with someone that gets me (so no more crazy emails asking me for sex please, it's creepy.)
The two of us