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My self-summary
**Note**: As of right now (7/18/2017), I am not actively looking for any new relationships. I'm not opposed to a relationship if I should meet someone I really click with, but it's not a huge priority in my life.

I am in a polyamorous, open relationship with BardicKitten, Cyn (can't find her OkC profile at this time), and Aylias, all of whom I love deeply. If open relationships scare you, then I might not be the guy for you. Otherwise, please read on...

I think that a relationship should be something that grows organically. I tend to start things off casual and easygoing and see where it evolves from there. I find it's not a good idea to try to lump relationships into categories, especially early on - you're still trying to figure out how well you work with each other.

Physical stuff definitely interests me, but I'm certainly open to a relationship evolving beyond that. I'm not looking for a one-night stand, but at the same time I'd be lying if I said that sex wasn't important to me. I believe it's necessary to build the intimacy needed to form a healthy relationship.

In other words, I have no idea where any new relationship will lead. I don't know if it'll be serious and long-term or not. I'm certainly not opposed to it becoming serious. But I do believe that for a relationship to become serious, physical intimacy is a must.

Also, I am a part of the local BDSM community as a Dominant (You can see my Fetlife Profile at ). I am capable of being gentle or rough, depending on the needs of my partner. Let me know what you like, and I'll make it my goal to cater to those needs...


As for me in my everyday life? Well, I'm an office worker by day, and to relax I like movies and videogames (but don't play them obsessively), and love to share good ones with someone I think will appreciate them.

I tend to be more of an "indoor" person, although I'm not opposed to the occasional outdoor adventure - I'm not a shut-in, just a homebody. ;-) I've actually planned quite a few really fantastic outdoor excursions, actually. Previously, I've planned outings to view the Perseid meteor shower (a yearly favorite of mine), as well as a trip to Yosemite. And last year BardicKitten and her husband took me fishing for the first time in my life! I didn’t catch anything… but it was still fun.

However, I'm even more proud of some of the parties I've planned with BardicKitten. Just off the top of my head, we had an Iron Man party with Martinis and schwarma, a Tron black light party, a fancy French seven-course meal for a group of close friends, and a Lord of the Rings marathon with three full meals throughout the day. Suffice it to say, the parties we've thrown have been some of the best parties I've ever been to.


As for politics, I'm politically liberal, and try to follow politics fairly closely. I'm not thrilled with everything Obama has done during his term, but I think overall he's been a pretty good president, especially given the sort of opposition he's been facing.

I believe in gender and racial equality, as well as the equal treatment for LGBT folks. I also believe in equality for poly and BDSM relationships, but that’s a bit more complicated and something our culture is farther away from in terms of mass acceptance.

Religiously, I'm an agnostic, which I firmly feel is different than being atheist, and not just "indecisive" as a lot of people seem to think.
What I’m doing with my life
Right now I'm an office technician working for the State (not an exciting job, but it pays the bills), and in evenings I'm socializing with friends and participating in the local kink scene.
I’m really good at
I really go out of my way to make a girl happy. As long as you let me know what you like, I'm usually pretty good at it, too. I try to learn what I can about a girl so that gifts are meaningful, and so that she's hopefully enjoying my company as much as I'm enjoying hers.

Also, as I mentioned earlier, I have a knack for throwing spectacular parties.

I suppose I should also mention, I've been told by multiple people that I'm particularly good at fingering. If that's the sort of thing that interests you...
The first things people usually notice about me
My long red hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
For movies, I like almost anything as long as it's good. Everything from timeless films like The Princess Bride, Ghostbusters and To Kill a Mockingbird to more recent films like Mad Max: Fury Road and Inside-Out

I love recommending great movies to someone who's never seen them before - let me know what type of movies you like and we'll see if I can find something you haven't seen before that you'll love. Even better if we can watch it together!

As for books, there's no one specific genre that I read, although I do have quite a lot of fantasy novels (Terry Pratchett in particular). But I also enjoy the Sherlock Holmes novels and the Harry Potter books, and probably my three favorite books of all time are To Kill a Mockingbird, Huckleberry Finn and Ender's Game.

I should also note that I am a huge fan of a few web fictions - notably, Worm and Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality. For those not familiar, Worm is a story about a bullied girl who gets superpowers (and gradually becomes much, much more), and Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality is a fanfic that proves that not all fanfics are crap - this one asks the question "What if Harry Potter was raised as a firm believer in rational logic and the scientific method?".

I love pretty much any videogame that's good, though Rock Band is a favorite I often come back to (I suck at it, but who cares? It's fun!). Even if you don't play videogames, I'd still love you to grab a microphone and sing while I jam on the plastic axe. As for other games I've liked lately, the big ones that come to mind are Pokemon, Minecraft, and Smash Bros. (I can play most characters, but do especially well with Ike in Brawl and Rosalina in Smash 4). I also enjoy card and board games, particularly Settlers of Catan and Dominion. I used to be big into Magic: The Gathering, but I haven't played in a long time.

As for food, my tastes are varied, though you can't go wrong with Italian food. I also love sushi, Mongolian BBQ, and Korean BBQ. As it happens, I know quite a few good restaurants around town, so I'd love to hear your favorite type of food. I also have a few good recipes that I think are pretty impressive, and even though I'm no professional cook, you may be able to convince me to cook you something nice sometime...
Six things I could never do without
Good movies, good videogames, good food, good conversation, good company, and... well, good sex.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I'm running a film-lovers group for the local kinky community, so I'm often thinking about the next movie-themed event I'm throwing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Relaxing after long work week, probably chilling on Reddit or Watching Netflix. I don't really do the whole "Netflix and chill" thing though - when I'm watching a movie, I tend to want to focus on the movie, and when I'm getting physical with a girl, I prefer to focus on that. Trying to do both at the same time seems like a good way to make sure that neither is done well. :-P
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I think I've been pretty candid through the rest of this page, don't you? If you have any questions, please feel free to ask.
You should message me if
You should message me if you're interested. :-)

In particular, I'd love to hear from a girl who's a sub, or who is interested in exploring her submissive side. However, this isn't a requirement.

Other traits I value in a girl include honesty, openness, an ability to communicate, emotional maturity, patience, attentiveness, and... well, frankly, an active sex drive. I want someone who is capable of surprising me every now and then, reminding me that she's not just following my lead, but someone who's always thinking of new and creative ways to show me she's just as interested in making me happy as I am in making her happy (and I am *very* interested in making any girl I'm with happy).
The two of us