32 Turners Falls, United States
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My self-summary
Neuroqueer male-assigned Ashkenanzi-white human. They/them pronouns.

Non-monogamous (Relationship anarchy - yay!). Too bond-forming for strictly casual sex and not interested in purely monogamous connections. Open to many arrangements other than those.

Enjoyer of digital media and being outdoors.

Writer who hasn't written much lately.

I value mutuality, transparency, honesty and consent.

I am neurodivergent (Atypical autism. Several, but definitely not all, of these apply to me: and a trauma survivor and chronically ill.

Living with multiple invisible disabilities, I manage to do a whole lot within my capacity and am pretty happy being me.

I meditate, journal, self-educate and work on my own healing and liberation in a regular way. Love finding ways to be clearer, kinder, and changing thoughts that are not serving me/others.
What I’m doing with my life
Writing songs to myself that no one else will ever hear

Eating things that don't make me feel terrible.

Moving my body around at the gym.

Settling into some amazing communities of people.

Supporting racial justice happenings.

Hanging out and holding mutual support space with the Western Mass Recovery Learning Community.

Fixing, carrying or banging on things.

Writing, dancing, and playing music. Maybe.

Fantasizing about going on an art and study retreat.
I’m really good at
Observing sunsets and other events in the sky.

Fixing things and solving puzzles.

Teaching a group of people about something.

Being tired and watching tv.


Turning children upside-down.

Wearing sweatpants.

The first things people usually notice about me
Probably tall, white, bearded.

From there either gentle and friendly or socially awkward depending on whether I have recently run out of spoons?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Generally a big mythology/fantasy/sci-fi and justice nerd.

I read stuff about racism, gender, and wellness, mostly by POC and/or gender-noncomforming folks.

Making my way slowly through Octavia Butler's works right now

Lots and lots of things. Creative dramas, superheroes, cartoons, anime, sci-fi... Favs are Avatar: The Last Airbender and, currently, Steven Universe.

creative folk, pop rock, dancable-but-not-too-repetitive electronic music, and political hip-hop.

Restricted diet basically just meat eggs, greens, and certain roots (alas, no more onions or garlic). Am learning to love simplicity after being a creative cook for many years.

Complicated Board Games, Hearthstone, League of Legends, various RPGs, rougelikes, puzzlers, and indie thingies.
The six things I could never do without
Nourishing Food
Vibrant Green Places
Moving Water
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What is the deal with why I have these difficult thoughts.

The damage done by white supremacy/colonialism.

How people make meaning around health, justice, community, and spirituality.

Writing. Projects. Unfinished tasks.
On a typical Friday night I am
Cooking. Maybe lighting candles. Resting.
You should message me if
Please do. Most strong connections I've had on here have been from the other person messaging me first.

You actively oppose the capitalist imperalist ableist white supremacist cisheteropatriarchy.

You want someone to walk in the woods or cook or dance or notice things, or laugh or see movies or meditate or wax philosophic or make art or play games with.