31 San Jose, United States
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My self-summary
Quiet until talkative, sometimes hyperactive, socially awkward programmer. I tend towards being idealistic. I try to stay methodical and focus on just one thing at a time, as I'm otherwise easily distracted. I still enjoy writing in a paper journal.

I live with and am in a polyamorous relationship with Sidneysgreen.
What I’m doing with my life
I am a software engineer for a tech company. I relocated here from Washington, DC in 2014. I am gradually trying to improve myself personally and professionally in a number of ways, as well as spend time with those I care about and enjoy being around. I hope to further pursue my passions and help make the world a better place. I try to stay hopeful and optimistic.

I'm enjoying the closest thing to an urban environment that I know of in South Bay. I never bothered to get my driver's license, and since moving to the Bay Area, I have become increasingly determined to make daily living work without a car. I think dense, diverse cities with good public transit are a large part of a sustainable and enjoyable future.
I’m really good at
Nitpicking. Recording things in writing under certain conditions.
The first things people usually notice about me
I think I am initially seen as quiet/shy. I have a tendency to speak too quietly for people to hear me.

I sometimes don't know when, exactly, a conversation is supposed to end.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't read as many books as I probably should; I usually read a mix of fiction and nonfiction.

I enjoy mostly electronic music, especially music that sounds like it belongs in a videogame. There is something that I like about sounds that obviously were synthesized.

I try to avoid eating meat, with the exception of seafood. I usually like pickle-ish, vinegary, garlicy, or spicy (ie: from hot sauce) things. I also enjoy vegetarian breakfast food and wish that more restaurants served it into the afternoon or all day.

Some form of coffee drink is a staple of most days. (I'm also coming to enjoy boba tea in place of or as a supplement to this, on weekends.)

Videogame-wise, I used to be an addict, but midway through college, I realized what a time sink they were and started setting quotas on time spent. For a while, I didn't play, though I nowadays play them on and off as time allows. (Raystorm is one of my favorites; I tend to like scrolling shooters for some reason.) I wish I could make games, and I appreciate them as art forms.
The six things I could never do without
-some sort of structure in my life
-friends & loved ones
-a computer
-a journal of some form
-hope in the future
-hormone replacement therapy (well, I have, but I was pretty miserable)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Though I think computing technology can dramatically improve our lives, I also believe it can imprison us if we're not careful. To this end and others, I believe that the hardware and software of personal computing devices ought to be fully open, reasonably modifiable, and designed to be a faithful agent of the end user.

-How I am going to spend my time--how to prioritize it between various categories of interests.
-How I am being perceived by others at a given instant.
-The details of past experiences, feelings, and interactions--especially recent ones--with others (I tend to write as much as I can about the ones I wish to remember.)
-How to stem the proliferation of kipple in my personal space without losing important information. (The working definition of "important" occasionally is revised.)
-What the scrolling spaceship shooter videogame I (hopefully) make someday will be like.
-Economic, environmental, and social fairness and sustainability.
-Gender in society.
-Public transit.
On a typical Friday night I am
Working late or crashing. Sometimes I treat myself to videogames on a Friday evening, though I'm often too tired to be very good. (Later in the weekend usually works better).
You should message me if
You'd like to and/or you think we have common interests... and, preferably, we have a fairly high match score. (There are a handful of questions that seem pretty crucial for determining if we might get along enough to interact much.) We may be especially compatible in conversation if you enjoy non-redundantly exploring multitudes of sometimes minute details about given topics of mutual interest...as time allows.

Also, I think it'd be neat to explore San Jose or surrounding areas by public transit with someone.

I am a trans woman; someone who messages me ought to be comfortable with this.

I'm bad at writing first messages, myself, though I want to get better. (I'm not very proactive, in general.)