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My self-summary
*Victorian Pointy Finger Hand With Cuff To Indicate Significance, Relevance and Importance*

Somehow, despite my many and manifold failings, I'm ethically non-monogamously non-exclusively married to someone I love deeply. And here I am, still on OKC, staying in touch with friends and meeting new people with whom to go out and stay in. As is the excellent woman I'm married to. Should you find this state of affairs unacceptable then surely I can be of no interest or use. If your personal code remains inviolate, then Hello.

I'm a mainly civilised liberal artsy-bookish writer somehow lodged in new media thing, interested in what you have to say and how you feel, looking for allies to steal horses with. That's a metaphor. Horse crime is bad. Together we can stamp it out. I can keep up one end of a conversation, but two seems excessive. House-trained, and I leave both the seat and the lid down. I offer both Tea & Sympathy and, if your co-workers or family provoke you sufficiently, Coffee & Frowning. Let's get out and do stuff, and occasionally just stay home and hide.

In retrospect, this will all seem like a Plan.

I don't have "A Type". Who you are is vastly more important that what you do or where you're from. Rational self-confidence beats attitude, and character beats looks. I admire people who are good at being themselves and aspire to enjoy their lives without being self-centred. I value kindness very highly. You don't have to be bookish or artsy or expensively educated, but it'll help a lot if you're curious: interested people always seem to be more interesting.

I brush up well, am slightly handy, and lightly musical. I'm at least a bit interested in nearly everything. I don't look that much like my photos in real life, but they are at least all actually of me. I am roughly human-shaped, and theoretically likable.

I'm looking for fun, smart, sexy, mainly sane friends and more-than-friends to go out/stay in with. Have you any opinions or curiosities about the above? Then apply within...
What I’m doing with my life
Learning new stuff, working on the old stuff, trying to be generally of more use and whenever possible misbehaving in an unabashed and cheery fashion in excellent company.
I’m really good at
I seem to be able to make people laugh if I have anything in common with them. Also, I am entirely unshockable. I mean I'm as startle-able as the next chap, fling something at me suddenly and I'll flinch, shrieking (but in a manly way, you understand). But judging people for what they are or do, or were, or have done, not so much. Now that sounds like I have an enormously mysterious and shameful past. Not yet, but I'm working on it.
The first things people usually notice about me
I talk softly and don't carry any sort of stick. Also, no one can work out what colour my eyes are.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Right now off the top of my head? Anna Karenina, Singin' In The Rain, Sherlock, Kirsty McColl and an even halfway decent Beef Rendang.
Six things I could never do without
Friends, books, films, mobile internet-capable phone-thing, a certain smile, decent coffee.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I spend a lot of time thinking about writing, and not enough time writing. However, I also learned to leaven that with more time actually getting stuff done. Partial victory, there.
On a typical Friday night I am
Snug at home, with a book, or with friends, not with a book. Either way, I try to perform all my most disgraceful in-town acts earlier in the week so as to avoid the crowds.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Private? On a public internet site? Oh bless your quaint notions. Ask and I'll tell you.
You should message me if
You feel so inclined.
The two of us