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My self-summary
It's almost guaranteed that I will not message you first. There are a variety of reasons behind this, but the primary one is that I'm tired of listening to my friends complain about guys messaging them (often rudely) on sites such as this. And I just don't want to be associated with that. Even benignly.

Additionally I seem to have the worst possible instincts in how and whom I try to message or "chat up" to steal the English slang term. Amazingly bad... For scale think Jeff from "Coupling"; although I've never told somebody I have a fake leg.

Other than that...

I derive intense enjoyment out of making oblique puns and references to the fringes of pop culture to see who catches on and who just stands to the side and misses the point.

I am currently in a relationship. Both of us have spent too much of the last few years in relative social isolation and meeting new people is something we're working on.
What I’m doing with my life
Breaking the habits of the past decade and replacing them with healthier, or at least more interesting ones.
I’m really good at
Overcompensating for things I don't need to compensate for. Like tipping a bit extra because I thought my voice was a tad on the terse side when ordering a latte.
The first things people usually notice about me
I tend to occupy the space that I am in.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Currently reading a lot of sci-fi and fantasy. Mostly because when the authors I like start to get heavy handed with the "This is a metaphor for social issue #17" type stuff they can go "And JETPACKS!!!". It just helps to take the edge off.

Again, heavy on the Sci-fi Fantasy stuff for movies as that is where I'm seeing the best character work. Most dramas and comedies that are billed as such recently have had very flat banal characters. Even the movie adaptation of "Choke" which could have been immensely dark and twisted still took the wonderfully flawed and nuanced characters from the book and reduced them to one or at most two aspects of those characters so that the "average audience" will understand it. But RDJ gets to play all of the nuances of Tony Stark because the "average audience" for comic book films expects it after Toby Macguire played Peter Parker, and Heath Ledger made the Nolan Trilogy Watchable.

I don't miss having cable since I do have netflix. Mythbusters, Walking Dead, Historical documentaries, and Dr. Who are pretty much the core of what I've watched TV wise for the past few years.

For live shows: Even shows i don't like I still tend to enjoy as I will analyze them for production/ character ideas. you don't have to ask twice.

Musically my collection is all over the place, although the growth has been hindered over the past few years by a combination of economy and not hearing a whole lot that I actually liked. (Auto -tune as a standard just makes me cringe).
Six things I could never do without
Books, I usually read at least 2 a week. Although I recently sold almost all of the books I owned in anticipation of a move that didn't happen.

My guitars, although I have been picking them up less often recently

Music From various genres. If I had to pick just one genre to get by on I'd be in trouble.

Oxygen and carbon. (there had to be one obvious trite one)

Art in general, although leaning more towards performing arts. I tend to dislike museums because everything in them feels dead to me. Art needs to be in a human environment. Otherwise it's just pretty pictures of flowers and nekkid people.

Computer based entertainment...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Sex, politics, gods, comedy, and music...

In no particular order and in multiple combinations.
On a typical Friday night I am
Virtually relaxing talking to some friends I don't see enough face to face.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I need to be the "Ugly one" in my relationships. Not saying I'm only attracted to people "out of my league". It just helps balance my worldview.
You should message me if
You are an obscenely wealthy person who wants to give the illusion of having an affair by meeting me someplace discreet, and then paying me a large amount of "hush money". (it's worth a shot)

You want to.

You think I should have messaged you first.
The two of us