48Manhattan, United States
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My self-summary
I grew up in a rural upstate NY town but for the last 20 years or so, I've been making my way in Gotham and discovering its random bits of wonderful. Kayaking on the Hudson, bocce ball, Carnegie Hall, BAM, the Apollo, biking on Randall's Island, miniature golf on Governor's Island. Jimmy Stewart at Bryant Park, graffiti exhibit at the Museum of the City of NY, making gingerbread houses, opera, tango on a Hudson River pier. I make an effort to stay fit, aspire to be outdoorsy and have had a blast rediscovering cross-country skiing.

Honestly, the laundry list of activities and interests doesn't matter so much. What I really hope to share are values like kindness, passion, community, hard work, curiosity and integrity.

My age and photos are accurate.
What I’m doing with my life
Mothering two brilliant and lovely girls (ages 10 & 14), who primarily live with me.

I transitioned a few years ago to my DREAM job. While I can't say that I'm saving the world, it's WAY more satisfying and less intense than my former life in big law.
I’m really good at
Cooking, but no delusions about opening a restaurant or getting on the Food Network.

Being a fierce advocate.

Figuring things out and getting things done.
The first things people usually notice about me
The wild and (increasingly) gray-streaked hair. The green eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like culture and we all need to eat!
A sampling:

It's a Wonderful Life, The Red Balloon, The Thin Man series, Do the Right Thing, Philadelphia.

Pink makes me shake my booty; John Legend makes me swoon. Liking Alabama Shakes. Braved the blizzard last winter to see Alejandro Escavedo at City Winery and the humidity last summer to catch Violent Femmes in Prospect Park. Enjoyed my first opera a couple years ago. Hope to get back to Mamou, Louisiana on a Saturday morning to hear the house band and dance with the crawfish farmers. Mostly, I'm listening to public radio (WNYC, WFUV, WBGO).

Rachel Maddow, The Good Wife, Top Chef, Jon Stewart AND Trevor Noah. Was a fan of Weeds, The Wire, and Homicide.

Savory over sweet. Red over white. Tap over bottled. Cooking for others over going out (usually).
Six things I could never do without
My girls
Old friends
Chef's knife
Potato chips (sometimes, dark chocolate)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My to-do list. Menu planning. Nonprofit infrastructure.
On a typical Friday night I am
It could be anything. I like Friday nights -- they've always struck me as the time of the week with the most possibility.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I was on the math team in high school.

Despite my bravado, sometimes I get weary and need a little tenderness. As the kids say, bonus points if you know the reference.
You should message me if
You've got old school manners, progressive politics, common sense and a little enthusiasm. Maybe, like me, you're a self-made professional.

You're interested in a meaningful relationship with a woman of substance.

You're the kind of man who says what you mean and means what you say.
The two of us