48West Bloomfield Township, United States
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My self-summary
I'm usually somewhat shy or even awkward right out if the gate but its just a defense mechanism that disappears rather quickly as I get to know you. I'm very open and honest about myself, my past and my present even though I wish some of it wasn't my past or present ;). I expect the same of you, minus the nerdy/quiet part - that's not required but it's understandable and acceptable - lol.

I'm seeing lately a lot of paradoxes in my life that aren't me but ARE part of me. I'm very methodical but often scatter-brained. I'm very patient but often want things NOW. ;) I'm very opinionated but also accepting of contrary viewpoints. I think I NEED a lot things that are really just things I want that I hope will make me happy YET..... I know happiness is object-based and usually fleeting whereas peace and joy tend to stick but are a purely internal job.

I have a close relationship with a God of my own understanding - making me quite spiritual but not very religious at all. I'm more interested in what's really happening and what I'm/we're doing about it than what "should be happening" based upon something we read in a book one time.

I've been a very avid and active golf nut but over the past couple years mountain and road bicycling has been my passion. I typically ride 3 a 7x per week summer and winter.

It would be great if you have similar interests but MOST importantly - you need to be your own woman. If its my job or roll to complete you or fix you, I'm not your guy.

I've been divorced since 2005 and I have no kids but I dig 'em (i have a super cool dog too). It's totally cool if you do have children.
What I’m doing with my life
I recently ended a 18 year career that, while the pay was great, my passion for it had run its course. for now, I've got a simple little job that's fun but fiscally challenging. Lol. Not sure I'm going to stay with it but we'll see. I'm still on the hunt for something where I get both - my old income + my current enjoyment. I'm contemplating heading back to school to pursue something totally different but haven't pulled the trigger.... yet.
I’m really good at
Remaining calm and balanced.
Seeing multiple sides of an argument or
situation .
Putting the needs of others ahead of my personal "wants." - eh, maybe not so good at it yet but working on it.
I'm a damn good golfer but haven't been able to play much in the past couple years (hoping to change that soon).
I'm a great friend - if I do say so myself.
I love deep / philosophical conversations.
The first things people usually notice about me
My platinum hair (unless i have it cut really short) and blue eyes - thanks mom for both.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Sermon on the Mount, The Power of Now (and several other Tolle books I'm working on), Osho - Love, Freedom and Aloneness. Really, anything by Bill Wilson, John Bradshaw, John Powell, or Emmet Fox will capture and hold my attention. The Lords of Discipline & The Inner Game of Golf are two others that I'll read somewhat regularly.

Full Metal Jacket, Wall Street, Boiler Room, The Godfather (all of them), Casino, Heat, Inception, Meet the Parents, Saving Private Ryan, Scarface, Rudy, Harry Potter, Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, 4 Christmases, JFK. Jackass as well as a foreign dramatic picture.

Metal - Pantera, White Zombie, Five Finger Death Punch, Ministry, Metallica and more

Rock - Van Halen, Alice in Chains, Joe Satriani, Soundgarden, Audioslave, Chris Cornell, Rush, AC/DC, Zeppelin, The Who, Pearl Jam, Foreigner, Nirvana, Rush, Rage Against the Machine, Ozzy, Deep Purple, Pearl Jam and Jimmy Hendrix.

Techno - (styles......not going to list all my fav artists) - Tech-House, House, Deep Techno, Minimal, Detroit Techno. NO trance......NO happy-hardcore.

Pop and others - Sinatra, Harry Connick Jr, Michael Jackson, Christina Aguilera, Whitney Houston, Anita Baker, Luther Vandross, The Cure, Run DMC, Eminem, NWA, & Sade
Six things I could never do without
I doubt there's anything I could NEVER do without......but there are things I'd rather not do without:

My dog Ramsay

A warm bed with crisp clean sheets

The ability to make friends

A great hug from someone I care for

My bikes

I'd like to say "less delusional thinking" but I usually enjoy it, resist growing out of it, am usually convinced those silly old ideas "willlllll work this time," but once I'm free of it I usually wonder what took me so long and swear I'll surrender to the experience sooner the next time. Hahaha
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Where and how I need to improve or just alter my angle of approach to enjoy a less stressful and more pleasant life. I'm really into personal and emotional growth (though at times you'd never know it by my actions- lol) and hope to find someone who's equally open and honest, excited by new experiences, has similar core beliefs, is awake and secure enough to see their own failings but ambitious enough to not always just settle for what they've got.
On a typical Friday night I am
Meh, could be anything from out getting a workout in on my bike, sitting in front of the computer monitor, out with my buddies, home reading a book or out playing with my dog. Friday nights aren't the magically special day I used to think they had to be. :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm pretty damn open......but not posting it here and now. ;) just ask, you'll be pleasantly surprised at how open I am.
You should message me if
If I've piqued your curiosity and/or if you're looking to meet someone who's intelligent, occasionally mature (lol) and pretty damn fun to be around.
The two of us