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My self-summary
[In an effort to be more clear, I am in an open relationship. It's not necessarily the most visible over there in the Details box, and it feels like SLIGHTLY pertinent information.]

I make an effort to be a well-rounded person. I would describe myself as a hybrid nerd/jock. I make puns frequently, and I apologize for none of them. I stay active, am currently in a massage therapy program, am a judge for and participated in a modeling competition.

I didn't really believe in the Meyers-Briggs test (and I am still skeptical), but ESFP feels pretty accurate so I'm going to include it

What I do isn't as important to me as who I do it with. I think I'm a pretty mellow guy, I can get along with most people I think. So hit me up if you'd like to chat or meet up sometime!

Oh, and I think I'm smoother than I probably am. Whenever I talk to someone, I always have these cheesy lines in my head. I almost never use them (and when I do it's usually in jest) so as not to be "that guy". Very self conscious to not be the person I loathed in high school. But if you want me to turn on the charm ("charm") then tell me to go for it :P
What I’m doing with my life
Massage therapy program. Touch people, make them feel better. Basically my life already, except soon I'll get paid for it. I hope.
I’m really good at
Back rubs, for real. I'm sometimes asked if I'm a professional masseur...I'm not....yet. Cooking my signature dishes (fried rice, spaghetti, broccoli+cheese+rice casserole, taco salad...and I make good sandwiches and hamburgers too).

But my main specialty is embarrassing myself.
The first things people usually notice about me
I get the most comments on my eyes, but I can't speak for you.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Machine of Death ((please talk to me about this book, it's fantastic)), Ender's Game, Harry Potter, Brent Weeks' Night Angel Trilogy, The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo series

Movies: Clue, Big Fish, Spirited Away, Perks of Being a Wallflower, Mean Girls, Starship Troopers, Cloud Atlas, Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist, Scott Pilgrim, Juno, Hard Candy, Inception

Shows: America's Next Top Model, Breaking Bad, Survivor, Rupaul's Drag Race, Dexter

Food: I have three food dislikes. Two are straight forward. I dislike mushrooms and gelatin based products (jello, gummy worms, gummy bears, etc). The last is weird. I like spaghetti, angel hair and vermicelli. Most other pastas I can't eat. It's a texture thing or something. No lasagna, macaroni, penne, udon, etc.
Six things I could never do without
I'll list some things besides i) food air water shelter and ii) friends family because everyone loves and needs those, but they don't provide much insight.

1) internet
2) singing
3) sex/porn+masturbation (if you don't like this and say it's three things, then call it "getting off")
4) staying active...either through the gym or sports or just jogging around with my sister
5) taking self portraits and then posting them online so people tell me I'm handsome.
6) Monday Night games night. Beating up on my friends at board games or killing their characters as Dungeon Master.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The definition of masculine/masculinity.

If someone asks me whether I'm masculine or feminine, I have some choices. I can say that I'm masculine, which is true enough. The meaning of masculinity has been distorted a bit, I feel. When someone says they're masculine or "straight acting" (lol...), I get the feeling that what they're trying to say is that they're "macho". Masculine for me doesn't equal macho.

I'm just myself. I'm a guy, I don't feel like my personality is very flamboyant. There's nothing wrong with feminine guys though, and I would definitely smooch a handsome one. To say I'm straight acting is stupid. I'm very much a gay guy. I act like a gay guy...because however I carry myself, I'm still gay.

I feel like I'm talking in circles now...clearly eloquence isn't my forte.

Some thoughts about monogamy:

- A majority of people need/want it.
- Some people don't.

I don't personally need my partner to be "faithful" in the traditional sense. What I need is my partner to practice safe sex, and (should we agree on it) to talk about having sex outside our relationship beforehand. I get some pangs of jealousy, but I can deal with jealousy. What I want out of a relationship is someone I can love, and trust, and be free with. Sleep next to. Wake up next to. I want to spend my time with someone because that's who I want most to be with. If I want to spend an evening away from my partner, or if my partner wants to spend an evening away from me, I don't feel like that depreciates how we feel about one another. I want my love and relationship to be unrestricted.

I don't expect most people to agree with that, though.
On a typical Friday night I am
Living the dream.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Let's play a game of "Two Truths and a Lie"

- I've never been drunk, smoked weed, or done illegal drugs
- I'm only out to a few close friends (...and OKCupid, I guess)
- I lost a hundred pounds after highschool

The first things I do when I visit a profile are
1) Look at your pictures
2) Read your Self-Summary
3) Look at your OKCupid stats
4) Check your answers to see if you've answered what sexual position you prefer in bed.

Based on those 4 steps, I generally decide whether I care enough to read the rest of your profile.
You should message me if
I enjoy receiving messages. So long as you're not overtly creepy I am likely to take the time to respond. I use the "like" system, but rarely send the first message. If I like you, just say hi and we'll go from there.
The two of us