Ok, so those are mostly labels on what kind of consumer I am, what kind of cultures I spend money affirming, internalizing, and propagating. That only goes part of the way. What am I doing here though, instead of out in the streets waving anti-Trump signs or in bed nursing a vodka tonic with my eightieth read-through of The Deathly Hallows?
Well, there's basically an unspoken assumption on OKC (and in online dating in general) that everyone you meet is disposable until proven otherwise, and usually still is even then. I don't really know how else to explain why most profiles (including mine, if we're being honest) read less as an honest search for compatible personalities to share time and space and futures with, and more as a detailed humblebrag of how complete and sufficient we are without anyone else in the way fucking it up.
I'm looking for people as tired of that as I am. People who want a partner, people who want a best friend, people who want a platonic soulmate, people who either have a friend-circle and want to expand it or people who don't have a friend-circle and want to create one, people who make time to maintain their relationships instead of making relationships just to pass time. My ideal friendship is along the lines of Calvin and Hobbes, and my ideal relationship is along the lines of Morticia and Gomez Addams.
If that sounds too serious or too high-stakes for you, then by all means swipe left or hit the back arrow or whatever, because these are the same demands I make of myself when maintaining my friendships/partnerships and I don't have time for people who would rather ghost out than have the decency to meet halfway. Life is more fulfilling when you don't just treat people as single-serving friends and random encounters, and I am enough of a hedonist at this point to not only aim for it myself but then find other people worth sharing that intensity with as well.
If any of that sounds interesting, desirable, or at least not entirely offensive, then I'm your man.
Except I won't grow a beard for you. They itch. Sorry.
"What do you do?" is invariably interpreted to, "How do you sell your labor?" I work in aerospace in a company I love but in a position that I despise, so it kind of evens out. I'm working on making myself more useful though, and my boss and I are trying to shoehorn me into more interesting internal affairs, so I really just bide my time, teach myself stuff, and pay the bills. It's much less interesting in practice than the canned description I have of what I actually do.
Otherwise, I have a wide variety of interests that are split relatively neatly between technology, gaming, civil/labor rights, church-state separation, and their related ongoing political discussions. Church-state separation is my "pet" issue as it were, and I help build a small community of activists for this cause and coordinate our movements around the greater Seattle area. Doing things with friends pretty reliably eats up my weekends, and most of it's either activism or community building, but they're rarely set in stone to the point where I can't take a raincheck in favor of quality time with someone important.
I also do video games and a bunch of online classes. Data science is fascinating from what little I know of it at this point. Also I play D&D semi-regularly with friends and am usually taking notes or doing reading on how to be a better DM. The common link between the two is coming up with a narrative and presenting it to people in a clear and interactive manner, and I'm honestly way more interested in learning to do that better than even in playing the game itself. Everyone has a different win condition, I guess.
I'm also slowly teaching myself to cook real food. You should send me your favorite recipes, especially if they involve pasta or sweet potatoes.
Oh, also I like singing. Take me karaoke'ing pls
3) Love of pasta and food in general. It fills the empty spot where a sense of shame should hypothetically be.
4) Terrible music/literature/game references
5) I fidget a lot.
Some people tell me that I intimidate them. I don't do it on purpose, I promise. I'm a teddy bear. Or possibly a slightly hairier version of Marvin the Paranoid Android.
I read a lot of political history and social issue books these days. I'm very much pro-labor and anti-(oppressive structure of your choice).
I'm spending 2017 making a lot more time to read than I have been before, because collecting books without reading them is just embarrassing. I was doing a book-a-week challenge, but I got distracted by an existential crisis and it kind of fell behind. But I read more often than I used to, which is something, I guess? Talk books with me, talk stories with me, talk about your favorite narratives/tropes/motifs with me.
Most of the Forgotten Realms series by RA Salvatore
Ready Player One
A Clockwork Orange
The Harry Potter series
A Canticle For Leibowitz
World War Z (no really, my last tattoo is a quote from this)
Random stuff by HP Lovecraft
Anything by Mira Grant
I have a bad habit of buying large numbers of books at Value Village because of their damn "Buy 4, get the 5th free!" deal. So I collect classics, tech manuals, whatever - but I've been trying to refresh and expand my fantasy and scifi tastes more recently. Name me an author! (I love homages to Lovecraft and classic mythology)
Stuff I listen to:
My taste in music defaults to, "What, at this moment, will do the best job of keeping me awake at work until the caffeine kicks in from the shitty office coffee?" I play hopskotch across all genres and I can't vouch for the quality of my taste at all. I'm just as likely to listen to Tchaikovsky as Ke$ha.
I default to classic rock/hair metal because Joan Jett is the sexiest woman alive and probably will be even if she lives to be a hundred. Also electronica/trance. I'm especially huge on Ghost, Iron Maiden, and Infected Mushroom. Also, I live for mashups. One of my favorites right now is this mix of Justin Bieber and Slipknot. I would call it a guilty pleasure, but I don't believe in feeling guilt over knowing how to take pleasure. Or guilt in general, really. Exceptions apply, but not many.
I also listen to a lot of standup these days, thanks to Pandora and Netflix. I love Louis CK, saw Hannibal Buress live, and have a huge crush on Iliza Shlesinger.
Stuff I Watch:
Lot of sci-fi/fantasy stuff, mostly, and TED talks.
Rick and Morty
Person of Interest
It's Always Sunny
I also have a tradition of watching Colbert's White House Correspondents' Dinner speech on a semi-regular basis, because the shit-eating grin on W's face will never get old.
I'm generally addicted to older Disney movies, because the soundtrack for The Hunchback of Notre Dame is absolutely amazing and never gets old. But I like pretty much any kind of movie if it's done well (but I have a soft spot for zombie movies regardless of quality). Most of my movies are sci-fi, action-drama, and Pixar. Lord of the Rings marathon, anyone? Or a marathon of the MCU movies, because Iron Man is my spirit animal.
Stuff I eat:
I eat basically everything that either isn't miso soup or doesn't have olives or mushrooms in it. Preferably pasta. You could bribe me with lasagna or Nutella, and possibly even with Nutella-covered lasagna. I love the royal hell out of BBQ anything, though. Also I really like curry. And most other ethnic foods, come to think of it. Variety is the spice of life. And so are actual spices.
Also, Chicago-style pizza > all other types. Fight me.
A plan (with or without the canal: Panama!)
An internet connection
A quick one-liner
Oh, and I take fun seriously. Like, it's a very close second to my actual political cause of church-state separation in terms of how important it is. We have a finite amount of time every week, and we have a moral obligation to ourselves to maximize the amount of time we spend actually enjoying it. Even moreso when it regards tabletop RPGs, MMOs, and other forms of social gaming, in which case maximizing the fun that everyone else has, as a return on their investment in sharing time with me, becomes basically a religious calling to me. :P On a related note, actively working on being more GGG whenever possible.
If I've visited/starred you and haven't said anything, it's because I'm terrible at introductions. So, yeah, go nuts. Also include your favorite type of cheese, because I'm going to ask you that sooner or later anyway. CHEESE FOR EVERYONE!