I have an intimate knowledge of a woman's body and a woman's heart. They can not be embraced separately without some dishonor. And I delight in embracing both.
I'm a systems thinker and work in technology management, but I use both sides of my brain. I've experienced deep connection with emotional honesty, and I want that again. Integrity, curiosity and belly-laughter are essential to me. Romance, playfulness, and authentic communication are vital to my well-being. I laugh a lot, especially at myself. People are so complex and fascinating, how can you not?
I'm a long-time student of sensual presence, and that's what I bring into a relationship. I developed a work(play)shop for couples to help them connect more profoundly through conscious touch.
I work as a technology entrepreneur, currently as a management consultant in accounting software and starting a venture to sell solar-generated electricity at a utility scale. Early in my career, with 3 partners, I started one of the most successful accounting software companies and sold it in 1983.
I love to travel -- anywhere.
I get my news from NPR and Comedy Central. I get my comedy from Fox News.
I'm fascinated by evolution: natural, cultural, personal and spiritual. Personal growth and energy awareness have been central in my interests. I've received training in Transcendental Meditation, Yoga (as a teacher), Tantra, massage, Orgasmic Meditation (OM), Reiki, Hands of Light, Voice Dialogue (as a facilitator), Avatar, The Work of Byron Katie, Compassionate Communication, Honesty Salon, and other spiritual disciplines. My spiritual focus since 1988 has been Tantra, the ancient wisdom of experiencing the divine in everything as it is, without resistance. Tantra embraces every part of being human. To me, it's about accessing my senses and awareness to experience and express love -- to honor my partner in every way we connect. I appreciate Yin (Feminine) energy at every level, within myself and in others.
I get a large charge from giving a one-hour foot massage while watching a movie or just talking.
I swim for fitness 3+ days per week and do yoga in the steam room beforehand. I'm passionate about skiing in the winter, virtually every weekend. Playing music and singing feed my soul. I play guitar (Celtic, folk, pop, rock) and hand drums. Until a few years ago, I accompanied many of Aleili's bellydance classes and performances. (She moved to Hawaii.)
My perfect partner is sensuous, intelligent, curious, fit, and has a healthy libido. She's independent, affectionate, grounded, authentic, courageous in communicating how she feels and what she wants, youthful, athletic, strong, playful, and laughs with me in the morning. She embraces values of her choosing and lives with intention. And nobody's perfect.
You get extra credit for playful banter during the day by e-mail or text messages.
With the following traits, we could co-create a long-term relationship:
1) You're insightful about your sensations and what you want. You don't simply go along with what I want to appease me.
2) You have the courage to communicate in real time how you feel and what you want.
3) You accept responsibility for your own experiences and feelings.
4) You're curious and compassionate about how I feel and what I want.
5) You have the courage to make difficult decisions and the discipline to follow through.
"Your task is not to seek for love but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." --Rumi
ABOUT THE DATING PROCESS:
I've learned from online dating that there's a wide variation in the assumptions people make about "the rules" in the dating process. For example, some women only want to date a man who is not meeting or dating any other women but them while they're "going out". Other women are open to a dating process that moves toward commitment to a relationship more slowly. As an example, one woman told me this: "A guy wrote me, 'I am a one-woman man.' That's the last thing a woman wants to hear from a man in the beginning." (I think she was telling me something about herself, not about women in general. ;-) Another woman told me, "I don't want to over-think it. I want us to figure it out as we go along."
This wide variation in the assumptions people make (without communicating them) leaves open a chasm for potential misunderstanding and unexpected disappointments.
So as we dance, at precisely the right moments, let's talk about what we want during the dating process and perhaps share stories that have been instructive about ourselves. That could start an engaging conversation to learn more about each other, yes? I will answer any question you want to ask me, with 100% honesty, about anything. And, like here in OKC, I'll ask you to answer the same question first. ;-)
2. Listening for understanding, even when the message raises some vulnerability
3. Systems thinking -- seeing the big, big picture and how things are related
4. Experiencing something from another person's perspective
5. Downhill skiing
Don Juan DeMarco
Head in the Clouds
Pride & Prejudice
TED Talks -- Ideas worth spreading (TED.com)
Loving What Is (Byron Katie)
The Believing Brain -- How We Construct Beliefs and Reinforce Them as Truths (Michael Shermer)
Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm (Nicole Daedone) -- defines the practice of Orgasmic Meditation
A New Earth (Eckhart Tolle)
Intimate Communion (David Deida)
The Way of the Superior Man (David Deida)
The Seven Levels of Intimacy (Matthew Kelly)
The Four Agreements (Don Miguel Ruiz)