54Londonderry, United States
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My self-summary
I am honest, strong, direct, caring, warm, accepting, intelligent, easy to talk to, open and open-minded.

I read quite a bit. I listen to friends who need someone to listen. I like board games and role-playing games such as Dugeons&Dragons. I like to swim.

I'm a computer nerd.

Fred Small songs touch me deeply.

I believe in the one-ness of the world, and that what one does can have impact well into the future.

I rarely watch TV.

I love music. I contra dance, albeit not as often as I would like. I do try hard to get to NEFFA every year, though. And I try to get to at least one or two dances a month. Note that just because I contra dance doesn't mean I need any future relationship partners to do so. It'd be nice, but as long as you don't get jealous of *me* dancing...

I like walking and hiking, but only get to hike once in awhile, so mainly do short hikes at the moment.

I work in my garden when I can.

I take responsibility for my actions. I don't smoke or do drugs.

I enjoy learning new things, and think the day is a better day if I learn something new that day.

Family is very important to me.
What I’m doing with my life
Being there for my friends and family.

I am a software contractor and do web-design and web-hosting on the side.

I try to help the earth in little ways. I try to help people in little ways. I garden.

I think maybe I'll write some books some day. I try to enjoy what life has to offer. I am involved with a few social groups.

With all the craziness in the world today, I am trying to figure out if I should invest my time into helping it become less crazy, and if so, where would I start?
I’m really good at
I think I sing well and I'm a great software engineer. I am very good at listening and understanding.
Being aware and present. Clarifying what people are saying to each other, if I notice a misunderstanding beginning to brew.
The first things people usually notice about me
I think people look at me and make judgements about me based on my looks. I think it takes awhile before people actually see *me*. When they do, they often notice that they are comfortable talking to me about almost anything.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies: The Big Chill, Pirates of the Caribbean, Dead Poets Society, Lord of the Rings, I'm sure there are others

Food: Pizza, asparagus, some mexican. After a number of years of being vegetarian, I have become vegan. I am a member of a CSA and have a lot of fun experimenting with new recipes, to use the varied assortment of veggies I get throughout the summer.

Music: I like most music, although am not really into elevator or rap. I do like celtic quite a bit, rock (some soft, some hard), classical, jazz fusion...) don't ask me to remember who does what though! Some of the favorites I've had over the years are: Styx, Kansas, Moody Blues, John Denver, Enya, Jean Luc Ponty, ABBA, Bruce Springstien, Emerson Bruford Wakeman and Howe, Pendragon (the ones from RI who do celtic....I think there might be more than one Pendragon...) Fred Small

Books: how can I chose a favorite? there are so many! I read a lot. I do read a lot of fantasy. Both fiction and non-fiction are interesting. At any given time, I'm likely to be partway through 3-5 books. I also like some comic books (the kind that are collections of newspaper strips), for when I am winding down or need to give my brain a rest without getting lost too deeply into something. Historical fiction and mysteries can be fun. Lately I've been reading a lot of mysteries. Some really good books by people I know or knew, which I should go look up and put a plug in here for them...

smells: lime, lemon, cinnamon, baking bread
Six things I could never do without
touch, friends, my mind, music, plants, my conscience
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My garden, work, friends, family, books, ideas.

The world seems to be heading full-tilt into craziness. I think about that a lot, trying to determine what, if anything I can do about it, and what if anything I should do in reaction to that.

If someone does something rather unexpected, I'm likely to spend a lot of time trying to figure out what caused them to act that way, if it is not obvious.

Sometimes I think about prejudice, especially little subtleties that people don't notice as easily, and how to address these things.

I've also noticed lately that I have a lot of *things* that are no longer used. I have been gathering them up, and trying to find places/people who want or need them.
On a typical Friday night I am
Once or twice a month I play D&D on Friday night. Sometimes I am just reading a book. Sometimes I am preparing for the weekend. Generally at least one Friday a month I go contra dancing. Sometimes I'm out somewhere, sometimes I'm in. When work is stressful, I might just be recovering from the week!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Get to know me, then ask things if you want to know them. Don't ask unless you really want to know the answer, as it is highly likely I will answer.
You should message me if
I seem interesting to you, and you don't smoke or do drugs.
It would be good if you can deal with casual touch in public. If honesty in a relationship is important to you.
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