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My self-summary
Hello, and welcome to my cheerfully rambling introduction.

I am Rob. It's possibly clearer to start by telling you what I am not :-)
I am not: what I wear; what I drive; what I do for a living; where I live; or what I own. I do not have to change my behaviour depending on who I am with because I am always Rob (what you see IS what you get).

Loyalty, honesty and integrity are extremely important to me. I am naturally curious. I like new places, new sights, and new experiences. I am very sociable. I like a challenge and I have a sense of adventure. I am attracted to people who have these qualities. I am a very tactile and passionate person, I would hope that you will be as well.

I am brave: I stand my ground, defend my family, confront my opponents and face my fears. The secret to not feeling guilty afterwards is to not do it in the first place. The secret of success is that you can't fail as long as you don't give up (so don't give up).

I enjoy making people laugh. In my experience it doesn't do to take yourself too seriously, my best laughs come from laughing at myself.

I love being alive. I like being me and I like who I am but I miss companionship and would like to find a like minded person with whom to share this interesting journey.

I want to get to know you and I would like to be able to share your thoughts.

I'm looking for friendship first. If that leads to companionship or more then great. I am looking to get out and meet people, date, take things one day at a time, and see where it goes. The first step is to find that elusive spark... do you have it?.
What I’m doing with my life
I separated from my wife in Jan 2013 and divorced in July 2015. My two boys (14 & 16) live with me.
We all returned to the UK in August 2012 having spent 8 years abroad (in the US, then in Prague and then back in the US - my employer is more like my travel agent). We had many great experiences but I have promised the boys to keep them in the same school system until they leave school so I'm going to be in the Derby area for a few years.
I work for Rolls-Royce (I think most people in Derby do)!
I get out walking or cycling several times a week (I'm not a fitness freak but I do enjoy fresh air). I like visiting castles and ruins. The boys take me to the skate park a fair bit and I get to take them swimming. We all love the seaside.
My older daughter and her young family live in Burton and I see them at least once a week.
I’m really good at
Surviving (what doesn't kill you makes you stronger). I am very confident - the reason I got to travel so much is that when a project goes "bad", my employer asks for volunteers to fix them. They usually get one volunteer... I don't need to say who, do I? I generally start out not knowing how I am going to fix it, but I know that I will... and I do.
I'm really good at listening. I have an anecdote for almost every occasion. I can tie my own shoelaces (that was a big deal when I was five). I'm really good at caring for the people around me (I want what's best for them, even though it is not always best for me). I can touch my nose with my tongue, although I've yet to find a practical use for this talent.
The first things people usually notice about me
My second head, my flaming eyeballs, and the way my feet don't quite touch the floor.
Oh yes, and my smile.
When I was working abroad, a lot of people would talk to me just to hear my British accent so I suspect people notice the way I speak as well.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: anything by Terry Pratchett; American Gods (and most other books by Neil Gaiman); more to follow.
Movies: LOTR, Terry Gilliam films, The Lover, Red Cliff (Chinese version), Madagascar 4, Despicable Me, in fact most recent kids animated films, Avator, Chinese / Hong Kong / French cinema generally (in original language), Casablanca, Blade Runner, most romantic comedies, Superman - Man of Steel (loved the relentless soundtrack), Black Hawk Down, Bigfish.
Music: Mark Knopfler / Dire Staits, Pink Floyd, Peter Gabriel, Kate Bush, Leonard Cohen, violin and cello concertoes, Kevin Chesney / Brad Paisley (modern Country in general), Spiegel im Spiegel (by Arvo Pärt) (possibly the saddest piece of music ever written), Annie Lennox, Ellie Goulding, Sinead O'Connor...
Food: Thai, Indian, Italian, French, my cooking, popcorn, Chinese, cheese. Let's face it... I eat pretty much anything.
Coffee: double espresso or double ristretto.
Six things I could never do without
My boys.

That's it. There are lots of things I really enjoy having but nothing I could never do with out.

OK, most internal organs are pretty crucial and if I lost one all of a sudden then the chances are that I probably wouldn't have much need for any of the others shortly after.

Let's go for my next five favourite things:
espresso coffee,
sunny days in the countryside or by the sea,
my five senses
books in general
quiet moments of peace and quiet (these can be shared, with the right person)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How did I get to this point in my life, and where to go from here.
What do I want, do I really, really want (tricky one that one)?
Is online dating really the answer or should I take more care in how I dress and smile at strangers when I go to Tesco's?
Am I a figment of my own deranged imagination or (perhaps more importantly) is everyone else?
How to balance work and home (and the books)?
When I die, will I find out I was wrong?
At the weekend: what shall we do today?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I always happily (and honestly) answer any question asked of me; if you want to know anything (private or not) just ask.

In the meantime; I will tell you that the circus scene in Madagascar 4 makes me cry when I see it because it is so joyous and happy.
You should message me if
If you want to get to know someone who is a bit different, enthusiastic, loyal and loving, and very cheerful.
If you are curious / interested and vaguely local.
Or if you just have a question.
All messages longer than three words will get a reply (it would be rude not to).
Thanks for reading...
The two of us