CountAtreju
38Vienna, Austria
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My self-summary
Hedonistic, intense and liberal. Uninhibited and passionate. Teetotaler. ENTJ.

Politically pro-EU, leftwing liberal. Cat person, not so much into dogs (except for happy fluffy ones and Huskies).

Openly (and experienced) polyamorous and entirely single right now. Not available for monogamous relationships, even more strictly not available for the relationship escalator - I don't want love and passion become soiled and tainted by some other agenda (marriage, money, career, etc...).

I offer a lot in terms of affection, relationship quality (love) and sex - but I hold my partners to a similar standard, too.

Strong preference for a proper relationship over casual sex.
What I’m doing with my life
To quote Steppenwolf ("Born to be wild"):

"Looking for adventure, and whatever comes my way."

Being past the point of concern I have learned to play this game called life.

When I feel like I need to express myself by making music, I do so. This happens often - but I will never do it professionally, because this is antithetical to self-expression. It's my music, not the music of the market - and especially not the music of some manager.

I'm an active member of a sex positive social club in Vienna, too. And no, I will NOT give that up for a relationship. Mejor solo que mal acompanada. ;-)

Yes, I also have a daytime job - a good one. It's a strategic asset, I like it very much - but I don't let it define me. I work to live, not the other way around.
I’m really good at
Singing, writing and recording songs, cooking.

Not good yet at snowboarding, but I'm certainly good at enjoying a fun day at the ski resort.

I can also do event and community organization - what I lack in fundraising skills (there are other pros for that) I make up with passion and idealism.

And I'm good at saying "no" to things I don't want and saying "yes" to things I want (which is a skill I like in a partner as well - how can I trust your "yes" if I can't trust your "no"? Consent is sexy!)
The first things people usually notice about me
Presence, intensity and authenticity.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: just read the "Neverending Story" again, which was my favorite book when I was a kid... and I still love it. Also the usual poly / sex positive literature, yada, yada.

Movies: black humor, vampire stuff, Quentin Tarantino and the likes, any intelligent and fun film will do as well, sci fi

Music: Classical music, old skool rock, modern metal

Food: International and fusion, paleo tendencies

However, one of my absolute favorite dishes to cook is Jambalaya - a friend showed me once how to do it and I totally fell in love with it.

Drinks: Fruit tea, hand grounded coffee, interestingly flavoured black tea, non - alcoholic beer, Red Bull

Shows: The man in the high castle, The OA, Designated survivor, House, ST:TNG

Why I don't drink alcohol (I got asked that a few times here):

I have a very interesting life with lots of great people around me, exciting events and intimacy... losing evenings and "morning afters" to a drug has become totally unacceptable for me - don't worry, I'm enjoying myself a lot when partying. :-D
Six things I could never do without
Music, learning new things, an idea, something to strive for, friendship, affection.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Songs... my own songs, but also the songs other people wrote.

Philosophy, science, ethics, too.

And personal development / self-improvement / authenticity. My dearest belief is that our best self is the "inner child" - and the very moment we lay down our masks and become our authentic self again is the moment we will become pure joy.

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On a typical Friday night I am
...at a poly meetup or a BDSM playparty. Or karaoke.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
...is my friend Simon. He's single, a plush tiger and he even joins me for parties in my favorite venue, time and again.

Don't believe me? I can give you more details if you ask me in person or via a message here.
You should message me if
...you want depth and intensity.

...you are sensual and open minded.

...you are emotional.

...you are into this dating game purely for love, affection and sex

...you at least would like to give a life less ordinary ;-) a chance

Bonus points if you have read "The Ethical Slut" and / or "More than two". ;-)

Additional bonus points if you have an idea how we can get Simon a girlfriend.

(Please don't contact me if you are looking for a monogamous relationship. I do appreciate your ideas in theory, but I have never seen it working really well in reality, and it is certainly not the right kind of relationship for me. We can still become friends, though.)
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