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My self-summary
Here's what I want to do: let's sit down for a chat with something to occupy our hands. Do you like tea? Perhaps we'll go dancing or I can teach you to shoot a bow. The conversation, unbridled, will wander peripatetically but we'll shepherd it back. When we discuss how great it would be to have hookups with emotional significance and bemoan the meat market state of tinder, we'll know we're of like mind. In the morning I'll make breakfast.

I spent too long thinking I was ugly and unwanted. In my life I've overcome a small variety of mental and physical disabilities and from those experiences I've become deeply understanding and empathetic. At the same time, I'm catching up on all of the experiences I couldn't have. My partner, thegrinningsoul, helps with this, sometimes with words of encouragement and also in other ways.

I'm looking for physical connections but I don't like quick fucks. I want to find the connection first and explore its physical side. Call it tantra if you will, but I'm not much for cultural appropriation.

Queer and kinky. Switch, but actually for reals not for cool kink cred so don't get all upset if I come over all switchy because I've told you.

PS I'm super woo. Just a heads up.
What I’m doing with my life
I do medical massage for money. I am excellent at it.

I also do sadistic massage in very specific circles and very separate from my professional life. I am pretty good at it.

I'm a coordinator for a large, recurring kink-positive dance and play party, which eats up some time.

More time is eaten up with Authentic Relating games and events.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have really kind eyes.
The six things I could never do without
I'm really big on touch. My body needs it like air. it's not a sexual thing, though the two needs can be mixed. I'm learning how not to be shy about it.

I dig deep into people. I love strongly and quickly and I try to surround myself with the sort of folk my intensity feeds rather than leeches from. Those people are a part of who I am and no less a need than the food I eat.

Can't do without the woods, and the mountains. They hold my heart.

Certain parts of me are alive when I travel.

I have a powerful need to be understood, and I make it my hobby and passion to understand others.

Self-expression is paramount to my sanity. I express through dance, song--music of any kind--and through projects and ideas. I write children's stories when they are inside my head and need to come out.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I try to understand humanity.

I think a lot about how I can apply genderfuck concepts to my grossly overpriveliged status. Priveligefucked?

I've become talented at explaining sexism, racism, and intersectionality to white males without making them all scared and fragile. that I pass has a lot to do with it, but I spend a lot of time trying to understand other's subjective experiences and putting my own lived experience into words, then turning it all around and looking at it from other perspectives. I'm priveliged enough to have the experience and education to do it, so I feel it's really my responsibility. ignorance is only an accident once.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I cry a lot. I laugh a lot, too.

Sometimes when the chemistry is there, I don't make a move because I'm afraid the intimacy will force the relationship to move too fast, trading the chemistry that I really enjoyed for physical satisfaction that doesn't last. I have my insecurities, but I'm learning.
You should message me if
I like connections. show me who you are and I'll date the hell out of you.

I have a preference for people who identify as queer, trans, nonbinary, or pan. Preference, not a requirement by any means.

Alert! I am allergic to pot smoke. It's terribly inconvenient.