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My self-summary
I've lived in Portland since 2002. At that time the city was in the midst of the "arts renaissance" period built out of the ashes of the dot com bust in 2000. It has never been the progressive utopia the PR machine uses to draw people here. I have a love/hate relationship with Portland, and by the numbers of pictures in people's profiles taken from other countries I have to guess that a lot of people love and hate Portland as well. Why else would people seem to need to escape to some faraway place?
What I’m doing with my life
Failing forward. It's the essence of success.

Full time job 1: I am the sales director/Second In Command for a "real foods" distribution company which caters to the burgeoning "ancestral health" segment of the "natural" products industry. It's basically its own kind of political activism and like the food industry (which we take for granted) there's not a lot of money in it. Net profit for most grocery store chains is 1%, FYI.

Full time job 2: Finding a romantic partner. People take this entirely for granted.

Playing music has been a significant part of my life since 1989 when I started playing the cello, though I haven't touched one since 1996. The electric bass/bass guitar suits me better anyway. Sometimes I play for money. I'm my own "Wrecking Crew" but not too kool for skool as a lot of musicians are.

I play in a Kinks cover/tribute band. Indeed. I've played in cover bands my entire life...the first cover bands are called orchestras.
I’m really good at
Photographing awkwardly/poorly.

Taking risks when the odds are so badly stacked against it. Like strapping one's self on top of a rocket and hoping for the best!

Providing a pleasing musical throb.

Captivating live (not dead/undead) audiences.

Not taking no for an answer. To the death!

Being patient. Also to the death!

Being cerebral -- not down with small talk.

Treading water.

Writing thoughtfully and well.

Ranting thoughtfully and well. Some rants are better than others.

Saying "Thank you for your business" to my customers, which nobody does anymore...
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes and my kind face. I think it causes people to open up to me. I don't look my age and I'm told I do the bald look pretty well, so that's something. I am more physically attractive in person.

And after more than a year of taking Great Lakes collagen people tell me my skin looks fantastic!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Non-fiction. Quite esoteric.

Movies: Wiki 1987 for movies.

Shows: TV or Broadway?

Music: Discuss. I have played classical, jazz (fusion, latin, standards, classics), and many styles of rock and roll. Queen is my favorite band. There's no "replacing" Freddie Mercury...but George Michael could have been an interesting experiment...and now he's gone in 2016... But how can you go wrong with a band with a guitarist/leader of the orchestra who also happens to be an astrophysicist?

Food: Primal.

None of this stuff matters -- I'm not out for a female clone with my artistic taste/sensibility...can't we share different stuff?
The six things I could never do without
Why not call this box "The six people in your life I could never do without"??

So in that case:

1) My boss.

2) My folks -- I still learn a lot from them and they're quietly extraordinary people.

3) My brother, who I also learn a lot from. Unfortunately we're on divergent paths at the moment, but such is life.

4) Anyone I can make a genuine connection with.

5) A great drummer.

6) The people I work with.

7) The planet Jupiter, because without Jupiter potentially deadly impacts on Earth from outer space would be 2000-8000 times higher than they are now...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The housing crisis in Portland...because it was created by the adoption of "smart growth" in the 1990s and fueled by the heavy marketing of Portland in the 2010s as a progressive utopia for urban professionals -- all of this is by design. This is the essence of "smart growth" -- exponential growth with exponential cost of living increases that last forever. And no parking for you!
On a typical Friday night I am
I might be listening to two dudes crash an airplane in a foreign language.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm "too available". Scary, I know!
You should message me if
Nobody "should" do anything. "Should" is just a bad word. It is really unfortunate that this technology is used to alienate and exclude by reducing this process to an online photo contest on a tiny screen. Portland's dating culture is pretty careless and one of the absolute worst things about living here, which makes it a playground/crash pad for Single Urban Professionals (Suppies).

I like Portland the way a certain NYU professor I know likes NYC "as a friend". I'm not married to Portland and frankly, some days, the squeeze downright hurts.