I think people are trying to use online dating (especially through their phones) as a shortcut to...something...when in reality it serves as an introductory service that is several cuts above newspaper personal ads. It's really just become a cell phone photo contest and that's sad...but I think with Portland in particular people are just snobby and vague with their intentions which leads to a lot of confusion.
If your life is great (and supposedly "drama free" which is a bullshit statement!) and you see no need for change this is how it works for men: men use women for physical intimacy without giving emotional support. For women, it's about finding a man analogous to something they already (probably) own: a vibrator. The two of you are a perfect match!
If you're feeling fatigued, here is a great article about the state of cell phone photo contesting/combat in the last couple of years:
Lead & rhythm electric bass.
Working for a middle-aged startup company. My job is "blite collar".
Taking risks when the odds are so badly stacked against it. Like strapping one's self on top of a rocket and hoping for the best!
Providing a pleasing musical throb.
Captivating live (not dead/undead) audiences.
Not taking no for an answer. To the death!
Being patient. Also to the death!
Being cerebral -- not down with small talk.
Writing thoughtfully and well.
Ranting thoughtfully and well. Some rants are better than others.
Saying "Thank you for your business" to my customers, which nobody does anymore...
Movies: Wiki 1987 for movies.
Shows: TV or Broadway?
Music: Discuss. I have played classical, jazz (fusion, latin, standards, classics), and many styles of rock and roll. Queen is my favorite band. There's no "replacing" Freddie Mercury...but George Michael could have been an interesting experiment...and now he's gone in 2016... But how can you go wrong with a band with a guitarist/leader of the orchestra who also happens to be an astrophysicist?
Food: Low carb, high fat, moderate protein.
None of this stuff matters -- I'm not out for a female clone with my artistic taste/sensibility...can't we share different stuff?
So in that case:
1) My boss.
2) My folks -- I still learn a lot from them and they're quietly extraordinary people.
3) My brother, who I also learn a lot from. Unfortunately we're on divergent paths at the moment, but such is life.
4) Anyone I can make a genuine connection with.
5) A great drummer.
6) The people I work with.
7) The planet Jupiter, because without Jupiter potentially deadly impacts on Earth from outer space would be 2000-8000 times higher than they are now...
In this medium, and in life in general, I prefer diplomacy over "refreshing honesty". And algorithms...taken with a small grain of salt...because we're not all taking the same "test" here...