Full time job 1: I am the sales director/company cat herder/bad cop/realist for an "anti-pharmaceutical" company. Food *is* medicine and I speak several languages. It's also a cutthroat business because that's what happens when food is industrialized and taken for granted.
Full time job 2:Finding a romantic partner.It's a job because the dating culture in Portland is not nurturing. It's pretty materialistic, like NYC, unfortunately.
Playing bass. It's the instrument that makes music groove like a clock. Sometimes I play for money. I'm a non-stereotypical musician with a real day job. I did grow up playing in 18th and 19th century cover bands. They're called orchestras.
Being terminally funny, 90% of the time.
Providing a pleasing musical throb.
Captivating live (not dead/undead) audiences.
Not taking no for an answer. To the death!
Being patient. Also to the death!
Not dumbing it down.
Writing thoughtfully and well.
Movies: Wiki 1987 for movies.
Shows: TV or Broadway?
Music: Discuss. I have played classical, jazz (fusion, latin, standards, classics), and many styles of rock and roll. Queen is my favorite band.
Food: Primal.The only vegans I will eat are free-range and soy-free, and good luck finding that will all the TVP around...
None of this stuff matters -- I'm not out for a female clone with my artistic taste/sensibility...can't we share different stuff?
So in that case:
1) My boss.
2) My folks -- I still learn a lot from them and they're quietly extraordinary people.
3) My brother, who I also learn a lot from. Unfortunately we're on divergent paths at the moment, but such is life.
4) Anyone I can make a genuine connection with.
5) A great drummer.
6) The people I work with.
That the word "independent" is the most overused selling point which is actually a non-selling point because in a dating context the term actually means "I'm super selfish and you will have to conform perfectly to me." You know, it's like the word "inconceivable" -- "I do not think it means what you think it means"...
All bets are off, and no, I won't meet you for coffee. Meeting for coffee ought to be for date 2,391,593.87 or never, because it's an activity for people to stay in their "comfort zone" by listening and looking for non-negotiable deal breakers with the least amount of effort and risk possible.
People want to know why becoming involved in romantic endeavors isn't as easy as it was in our teens and 20s...it is simple: life experience comes at the price of fear and insecurity driven by fear. It would be so much easier if people weren't scared/scarred shitless.