37 Portland, United States
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What I’m doing with my life
Failing forward. Kudos to all of you who are materially successful and have everything you want in life!

How often do you ponder the help you've received from strategically important people throughout your lives?

Full time job 1: I am the sales and marketing director for a niche food business. There's waaaaaaay more money in pharmaceuticals and for-profit healthcare, but I picked making your food supply better instead. One of the great challenges is that it's a cutthroat business where loyalty among cheeky-chappy-small-fry is next to non-existent, when all of us are striving to first survive, then thrive.

Full time job 2: Finding a romantic partner in a market where the "out of my league" crowd seems to grow exponentially every year. All of that aside, I think 75% of the people on these websites are either "too well put together" for relationships or are in some category among the myriad of forms of unavailable. It's tough. People need to throw out their "Why can't this be easy like high school or college?" crap, because everyone is carrying around fear in suitcases called emotional baggage and people aren't over it.

Oh, I've been playing music for 27 years. First the cello, then the electric bass. I grew up playing in 17-19th century cover bands known as orchestras. Sometimes I play for money.
I’m really good at
Taking risks when the odds are so badly stacked against it. Like strapping one's self on top of a rocket and hoping for the best!

Providing a pleasing musical throb.

Captivating live (not dead/undead) audiences.

Not taking no for an answer. To the death!

Being patient. Also to the death!

Not dumbing it down.

Writing thoughtfully and well.

Saying "Thank you for your business" to my customers, which nobody does anymore...
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes and my kind face. I think it causes people to open up to me. I don't look my age and I'm told I do the bald look pretty well, so that's something. I am more physically attractive in person.

And after more than a year of taking Great Lakes collagen people tell me my skin looks fantastic!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Non-fiction. Quite esoteric.

Movies: Wiki 1987 for movies.

Shows: TV or Broadway?

Music: Discuss. I have played classical, jazz (fusion, latin, standards, classics), and many styles of rock and roll. Queen is my favorite band.

Food: Primal.The only vegans I will eat are free-range and soy-free, and good luck finding that will all the TVP around. In all seriousness, it does suck that vegans find my work threatening even though it involves products that fall within their requirements and are the best of what they are...

None of this stuff matters -- I'm not out for a female clone with my artistic taste/sensibility...can't we share different stuff?
The six things I could never do without
Why not call this box "The six people in your life I could never do without"??

So in that case:

1) My boss.

2) My folks -- I still learn a lot from them and they're quietly extraordinary people.

3) My brother, who I also learn a lot from. Unfortunately we're on divergent paths at the moment, but such is life.

4) Anyone I can make a genuine connection with.

5) A great drummer.

6) The people I work with.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My ever evolving love/hate relationship with Portland.
On a typical Friday night I am
I work a swing shift on Fridays because somebody needs to man my company's retail operation. So I get home around 8p at the earliest and I'm not doing anything unless I'm playing a gig.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I very much enjoy documentaries about air disasters.
You should message me if
Nobody "should" do anything.

I do enjoy thoughtful and engaging messages. I'm not a "Let's meet up and see if we click" kinda dude. It doesn't work. I think stuffing this service/site into a phone app is a huge mistake, too, because it encourages serial dating by being a PITA to use.

The first challenge with 21st century dating is that people want to move fast and discard faster thinking someone better is behind doors no. 3 - 3,789,564.43. 75% of us aren't relationship material -- your great job, the ability to buy things, and your hotness do not relationship material make. I suggest a new favorite vibrator or a trip to Bali instead.