I think the real challenge to online dating is that too many people have negative expectations. The people who have "no expectations" are also negative. There is no point in interacting people who are either scared shitless or not interested in making a real connection in the first place. And there are too many of them out there.
I really hate meeting people for the sake of meeting people. It's no fun. And it's no fun being an interested party interacting with an uninterested party. It's a difference of personality type for sure. But even the most extroverted people out there get burnt out on serial meet-and-greeting...
Until they decide to get back on that hamster wheel...holding out for that person with whom they click like high school while seemingly knowing that person for years -- all within the first 5 minutes of interacting in person for the first time.
Full time job 1: I am the sales director/company cat herder/bad cop/realist for a food startup that provides services direct-to-consumer, direct-to-retailer, and fulfillment services for various vendors of ours, saving the world, one piece of primal junk food and one jar of fermented pickles at a time! After 4 years, we're just starting to figure out how to do things right!
Full time job 2:Finding a romantic partner.It's a job because the dating culture in Portland is not nurturing. It's a lot like NYC. People are not hungry here, either.
Playing bass. It's the instrument that makes music groove like a clock. Sometimes I play for money. I'm a non-stereotypical musician with a real day job. I did grow up playing in 18th and 19th century cover bands. They're called orchestras.
Being terminally funny, 90% of the time.
Providing a pleasing musical throb.
Captivating live (not dead/undead) audiences.
Not taking no for an answer. To the death!
Being patient. Also to the death!
Not dumbing it down.
Writing thoughtfully and well.
Movies: Wiki 1987 for movies.
Shows: TV or Broadway?
Music: Discuss. I have played classical, jazz (fusion, latin, standards, classics), and many styles of rock and roll. Queen is my favorite band.
Food: Primal.The only vegans I will eat are free-range and soy-free, and good luck finding that will all the TVP around...
None of this stuff matters -- I'm not out for a female clone with my artistic taste/sensibility...can't we share different stuff?
So in that case:
1) My boss.
2) My folks -- I still learn a lot from them and they're quietly extraordinary people.
3) My brother, who I also learn a lot from. Unfortunately we're on divergent paths at the moment, but such is life.
4) Anyone I can make a genuine connection with.
5) A great drummer.
6) The people I work with.
The current state of Portland: the middle class selling out to the upper class, and the aspiring middle class either succeeding in becoming middle class or becoming lower class and forced out.