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My self-summary
How is it that almost everyone I know on a personal and professional level in "the real world" has challenges/issues (bad word)/problems (also a bad word) and nobody in this now-cellphone-photo-contest has any such that they're all entitled to a no compromises romantic partnership?

What the fuck, people?

You're [insert physical superlative here], have an awesome career, and lots of pictures from passport stamp collecting conquests. So what? What are any of you willing to do for someone else? Twenty bucks says the thought has never crossed your minds! (This goes for men, too!)

Back before OKCupid was a cellphone photo contest (and owned by's parent company for that matter) everybody had a dating "persona" and mine was the "slow dancer". It's so accurate. Life is a slow dance. For me as far as dating and romance goes it involves finding a door of opportunity, and slow-dancing a semi truck through that door.

Here is a great article about the state of cellphone photo contesting in the last couple of years:
What I’m doing with my life
Failing forward. It's the essence of success.

Full time job 1: I am the sales director for a small, middle-aged food startup that has been in business for 5 years. I'm a health-conscious person from a food perspective and unfortunately, like voting, Americans take food very much for granted. If it looks like it belongs in a chemistry set, don't eat it!

Full time job 2: Finding a romantic partner. People think it's just supposed to be easy, right? When you get over 30 there's a lot of unsorted baggage that people have to sort out and it turns out part of that baggage is figuring out whether or not people want to be in a relationship in the first place...

Playing music has been a significant part of my life since 1989 when I started playing the cello, though I haven't touched one since 1996. The electric bass/bass guitar suits me better anyway. Sometimes I play for money. I'm my own "Wrecking Crew" but not too kool for skool as a lot of musicians are.

I love the key of G.
I’m really good at
Photographing awkwardly/poorly.

Taking risks when the odds are so badly stacked against it. Like strapping one's self on top of a rocket and hoping for the best!

Providing a pleasing musical throb.

Captivating live (not dead/undead) audiences.

Not taking no for an answer. To the death!

Being patient. Also to the death!

Being cerebral -- not down with small talk.

Treading water.

Writing thoughtfully and well.

Ranting thoughtfully and well. Some rants are better than others.

Saying "Thank you for your business" to my customers, which nobody does anymore...
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes and my kind face. I think it causes people to open up to me. I don't look my age and I'm told I do the bald look pretty well, so that's something. I am more physically attractive in person.

And after more than a year of taking Great Lakes collagen people tell me my skin looks fantastic!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Non-fiction. Quite esoteric.

Movies: Wiki 1987 for movies.

Shows: TV or Broadway?

Music: Discuss. I have played classical, jazz (fusion, latin, standards, classics), and many styles of rock and roll. Queen is my favorite band. There's no "replacing" Freddie Mercury...but George Michael could have been an interesting experiment...and now he's gone in 2016... But how can you go wrong with a band with a guitarist/leader of the orchestra who also happens to be an astrophysicist?

Food: Primal.

None of this stuff matters -- I'm not out for a female clone with my artistic taste/sensibility...can't we share different stuff?
Six things I could never do without
Why not call this box "The six people in your life I could never do without"??

So in that case:

1) My boss.

2) My folks -- I still learn a lot from them and they're quietly extraordinary people.

3) My brother, who I also learn a lot from. Unfortunately we're on divergent paths at the moment, but such is life.

4) Anyone I can make a genuine connection with.

5) A great drummer.

6) The people I work with.

7) The planet Jupiter, because without Jupiter potentially deadly impacts on Earth from outer space would be 2000-8000 times higher than they are now...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How is it that there is all negativity/cat movie clips on social media but dating websites are full of "drama free" people with no challenges in life other than what foreign country to go to next?
On a typical Friday night I am
Depends on how the work week went, really. Or I might be working...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm "too available". Scary, I know!
You should message me if
This service isn't a cellphone photo contest for me. I look at profiles and write messages on a machine called a desktop computer which has been state of the art since 1971. My cellphone is from 2007...and I've had it since 2007. This isn't a distraction for me. If you're not willing to put much effort into your interactions here and are just looking for the first out of place nose hair to turn you off in person -- do something else. It's OK.
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