37Portland, United States
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My self-summary
I've lived in Portland for a long time...almost 15 years. I've learned a lot about adulthood, and I've experienced a great deal of personal evolution in the process, including the whole concept making my personal interactions about other people and not myself.

I think people are trying to use online dating (especially through their phones) as a shortcut to...something...when in reality it serves as an introductory service that is several cuts above newspaper personal ads. It's really just become a cell phone photo contest and that's sad...but I think with Portland in particular people are just snobby and vague with their intentions which leads to a lot of confusion.

If your life is great (and supposedly "drama free" which is a bullshit statement!) and you see no need for change this is how it works for men: men use women for physical intimacy without giving emotional support. For women, it's about finding a man analogous to something they already (probably) own: a vibrator. The two of you are a perfect match!

If you're feeling fatigued, here is a great article about the state of cell phone photo contesting/combat in the last couple of years:
What I’m doing with my life
Reinventing all kinds of bits and pieces of my life.

Lead & rhythm electric bass.

Working for a middle-aged startup company. My job is "blite collar".
I’m really good at
Photographing awkwardly/poorly.

Taking risks when the odds are so badly stacked against it. Like strapping one's self on top of a rocket and hoping for the best!

Providing a pleasing musical throb.

Captivating live (not dead/undead) audiences.

Not taking no for an answer. To the death!

Being patient. Also to the death!

Being cerebral -- not down with small talk.

Writing thoughtfully and well.

Ranting thoughtfully and well. Some rants are better than others.

Saying "Thank you for your business" to my customers, which nobody does anymore...
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes and my kind face. I think it causes people to open up to me. I don't look my age and I'm told I do the bald look pretty well, so that's something. I am more physically attractive in person.

And after more than a year of taking Great Lakes collagen people tell me my skin looks fantastic!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Non-fiction. Quite esoteric.

Movies: Wiki 1987 for movies.

Shows: TV or Broadway?

Music: Discuss. I have played classical, jazz (fusion, latin, standards, classics), and many styles of rock and roll. Queen is my favorite band. There's no "replacing" Freddie Mercury...but George Michael could have been an interesting experiment...and now he's gone in 2016... But how can you go wrong with a band with a guitarist/leader of the orchestra who also happens to be an astrophysicist?

Food: Low carb, high fat, moderate protein.

None of this stuff matters -- I'm not out for a female clone with my artistic taste/sensibility...can't we share different stuff?
Six things I could never do without
Why not call this box "The six people in your life I could never do without"??

So in that case:

1) My boss.

2) My folks -- I still learn a lot from them and they're quietly extraordinary people.

3) My brother, who I also learn a lot from. Unfortunately we're on divergent paths at the moment, but such is life.

4) Anyone I can make a genuine connection with.

5) A great drummer.

6) The people I work with.

7) The planet Jupiter, because without Jupiter potentially deadly impacts on Earth from outer space would be 2000-8000 times higher than they are now...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I don't think it matters *what* people do on a first date insomuch as two people need to be willing to share intimate details about themselves in order to establish a connection. Otherwise, you talk about travel and interests that are personal things, but they're really just glorified small talk. I think the fundamental challenge is that most of the time, one of the two people on the date aren't interested in making a connection in the first place, for a whole host of reasons...
On a typical Friday night I am
Depends on how the work week went, really. Or I might be working...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have an emotional attachment to sex which is unusual for a man, so there's nothing casual about physical contact (making out, etc.) with women, regardless of the circumstances (e.g. inebriation).
You should message me if
I write to people on the basis of relationship prospects.

In this medium, and in life in general, I prefer diplomacy over "refreshing honesty". And algorithms...taken with a small grain of salt...because we're not all taking the same "test" here...
The two of us