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My self-summary
I think the key to "making connections" in the context of 21st century dating culture is to be willing, no matter the medium, to express openly about personal feelings and aspects of life like history.

This is where people fail in making connections, for a laundry/shopping list of reasons. It's partly because the dating websites people use aren't used effectively, and squishing a site like this into the tiny mediocre convenience of a cell phone lends it to being used as a photo contest.

The photo contest is followed by the "winner"/"winners" entering into a quick meet and greet over coffee where nothing personal is exchanged and no connection is made because there was no anticipation/word foreplay beforehand. Repeat. Burn out. Come back later with the same mindset/strategy expecting different results. Repeat. Burn out.

All humans are insane. Example: splitting the atom and furthermore, espousing this technology through the proliferation of nuclear power plants after using it to kill tens of thousands of people first.

There is nothing more beautiful in life than being drawn in by someone's vulnerability and reciprocating equally. It's just hard to do because of great complexity.
What I’m doing with my life
Failing forward. It's the essence of success.

Full time job 1: I work for a "real foods" health food company in Portland. It's a for (small) profit organization whose social mission is the awareness and availability of "real foods" (the definition of "real foods" requires further explanation). Basically, we're an antipharmaceutical company, with the best drugs around.

Full time job 2: Finding a romantic partner. It is a job. If you're a well-meaning dude, you might have to do what my friend did and import your wife from Pennsylvania. It's that tough out there.

Playing music has been a significant part of my life since 1989 when I started playing the cello, though I haven't touched one since 1996. The electric bass/bass guitar suits me better anyway. Sometimes I play for money. I'm my own "Wrecking Crew."
I’m really good at
Photographing awkwardly/poorly.

Taking risks when the odds are so badly stacked against it. Like strapping one's self on top of a rocket and hoping for the best!

Providing a pleasing musical throb.

Captivating live (not dead/undead) audiences.

Not taking no for an answer. To the death!

Being patient. Also to the death!

Being cerebral -- not down with small talk.

Treading water.

Writing thoughtfully and well.

Ranting thoughtfully and well. Some rants are better than others.

Saying "Thank you for your business" to my customers, which nobody does anymore...
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes and my kind face. I think it causes people to open up to me. I don't look my age and I'm told I do the bald look pretty well, so that's something. I am more physically attractive in person.

And after more than a year of taking Great Lakes collagen people tell me my skin looks fantastic!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Non-fiction. Quite esoteric.

Movies: Wiki 1987 for movies.

Shows: TV or Broadway?

Music: Discuss. I have played classical, jazz (fusion, latin, standards, classics), and many styles of rock and roll. Queen is my favorite band. There's no "replacing" Freddie Mercury...but George Michael could have been an interesting experiment...and now he's gone in 2016... But how can you go wrong with a band with a guitarist/leader of the orchestra who also happens to be an astrophysicist?

Food: Primal.

None of this stuff matters -- I'm not out for a female clone with my artistic taste/sensibility...can't we share different stuff?
The six things I could never do without
Why not call this box "The six people in your life I could never do without"??

So in that case:

1) My boss.

2) My folks -- I still learn a lot from them and they're quietly extraordinary people.

3) My brother, who I also learn a lot from. Unfortunately we're on divergent paths at the moment, but such is life.

4) Anyone I can make a genuine connection with.

5) A great drummer.

6) The people I work with.

7) The planet Jupiter, because without Jupiter potentially deadly impacts on Earth from outer space would be 2000-8000 times higher than they are now...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My company is this...neat thing that does a lot of different but related things, but because of limited resources it doesn't do anything exceptionally. It treads water -- better in some areas, and worse in others.

If you're familiar with The Beach Boys there was an album that Brian Wilson started after "Pet Sounds" called "Smile" that was supposed to be this epic masterpiece that was issued in bits and pieces on subsequent albums up to 1969 and then finally finished nearly 30 years later. My boss isn't Brian Wilson, and he doesn't have 30 years to finish his masterpiece!

2017 is our make or break year and I need to burst some of my boss' diplomatically as possible...
On a typical Friday night I am
I might be listening to two dudes crash an airplane in a foreign language.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My cell phone is vintage 2006 (literally...I've had it that long) but it still has more computing power than the Space Shuttle ever had.
You should message me if
Nobody "should" do anything.

I write thoughtful and engaging messages, but I expect nothing in return. We all start out as 0% matches until we choose to work together to achieve compatibility.

I know a lot of people don't have time or feel entitled that a complicated process (because it involves hormones, hangups, baggage and life experience!) needs to be even easier than it is, but you all are SOL.