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My self-summary
Most of these profiles either say or scream "My life is perfect the way it is and I'm not going to change." Some scream louder than others, depending on the material perfection of life. If you're life is perfect the way it is what the hell are you looking for? The human equivalent of a pliable dog crossed with a memory foam mattress that fits in a suitcase?

If you really work at this as a guy, you'll go on a crapload of one-and-done "dates" which makes for a rather interesting social experiment. If you've seen "Barbarella" sometimes it's like sex in that movie, with the pills, not the "old fashioned way". Except without the sex! And sometimes it's one-and-done because people aren't actually available even though they think they are.

But sometimes, you do meet extraordinary people (that you will might never cross paths with ordinarily) and you learn things about people and yourself in the process. Isn't that the point of all of this? No?

This is such a powerful statement:

"Compatibility is an achievement of love; it must not be its precondition."
What I’m doing with my life
Failing forward. Endlessly. Or at least my entire Portland experience of 13 years.

Full time job 1: I work for a holistic health startup that's been in business for four years. I spend my days helping people who want to be helped. It's also challenging working with 22 year olds. They're all over the map!

Full time job 2:Finding a romantic partner.It's a job because the dating culture in Portland is not nurturing. It's a lot like NYC.

It's ironic that tons of single people are devoid of time but people with multiple partners have time for more partners. WTF?


Playing bass. Sometimes for money. I'm a non-stereotypical musician with a real day job. I did grow up playing in 18th and 19th century cover bands. They're called orchestras.

Being terminally funny, 90% of the time.
I’m really good at
Taking risks when the odds are so badly stacked against it. For better and worse, but lately for better.

Providing a pleasing musical throb.

Captivating live (not dead/undead) audiences.

Not taking no for an answer. To the death!

Being patient. Also to the death!

Not dumbing it down.

Writing thoughtfully and well.
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes and my kind face.I think it causes people to open up to me. I don't look my ageand I'm told I do the bald look pretty well, so that's something. I am more physically attractive in person.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Non-fiction. Quite esoteric.

Movies: Wiki 1987 for movies.

Shows: TV or Broadway?

Music: Discuss. I have played classical, jazz (fusion, latin, standards, classics), and many styles of rock and roll. Queen is my favorite band.

Food: Primal.The only vegans I will eat are free-range and soy-free, and good luck finding that will all the TVP around...

None of this stuff matters -- I'm not out for a female clone with my artistic taste/sensibility...can't we share different stuff?
The six things I could never do without
Why not call this box "The six people in your life I could never do without"??

So in that case:

1) My boss.

2) My folks -- I still learn a lot from them and they're quietly extraordinary people.

3) My brother, who I also learn a lot from. Unfortunately we're on divergent paths at the moment, but such is life.

4) Anyone I can make a genuine connection with.

5) A great drummer.

6) The people I work with.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
An unintended consequence of mutual-gender-independence: mutual-gender-objectification, and the devaluation of romantic relationships.
On a typical Friday night I am
Winding down...but sometimes I have a gig and then Friday night turns into Saturday morning...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm an anachronism. My life, my world will never be fully contained in my phone. Having a phone that doesn't have a camera helps out a lot!
You should message me if
Nobody "should" do anything in life.

All bets are off. The percentages are meaningless because we're not all taking the same "test"...and it's hard to avoid profiles with people who only talk about consumption and possessions (houses, children, foreign countries) -- is Portland turning into the Los Angeles of the Pacific Northwest? Probably. I did pass a shooting of a fake shooting for the show "Grimm" the other day...

There is very little vulnerability out there, and vulnerability is what makes connections possible.If you have no motivation for change, why are you occupying space here?