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My self-summary
My coworker and friend Jennifer tells me I'm "boringly normal". Which is funny, because I'm really a complete weirdo in an INTJ way.

I grew up smack-dab in the middle of the movie "American Beauty": an affluent Chicago suburb where everyone (but my family) was keeping up with the Joneses. I've come full circle now as in the last 15 years Portland has turned into much of the same, which is a great shame, because I left all of that for good reasons.
What I’m doing with my life
I work as director of sales and marketing for a funky middle-aged startup in the "ancestral health" field...basically I sell really high quality, and therefore really expensive convenience foods and supplements. I love what I do, but good God, as a small startup company in a low-margin business it is not without a great deal of stress at times.

I love to play the electric bass/bass guitar. It's another language, like any musical instrument is. That pleasing throb. I speak it well.
I’m really good at
Remembering names and faces.

Taking risks when the odds are so badly stacked against it. Like strapping one's self on top of a rocket and hoping for the best!

Providing a pleasing musical throb.

Captivating live (not dead/undead) audiences.

Not taking no for an answer. To the death!

Being patient. Also to the death!

Being cerebral -- not down with small talk.

Writing thoughtfully and well.

Ranting thoughtfully and well. Some rants are better than others.

Saying "Thank you for your business" to my customers, which nobody does anymore...
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes and my kind face. I think it causes people to open up to me. I don't look my age and I'm told I do the bald look pretty well, so that's something. I am more physically attractive in person.

And after more than a year of taking Great Lakes collagen people tell me my skin looks fantastic!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Non-fiction. Esoteric.

Movies: Wiki 1987 for movies.

Shows: TV or Broadway?

Music: Discuss. I have played classical, jazz (fusion, latin, standards, classics), and many styles of rock and roll. Queen is my favorite band. There's no "replacing" Freddie Mercury...but George Michael could have been an interesting experiment...and now he's gone in 2016... But how can you go wrong with a band with a guitarist/leader of the orchestra who also happens to be an astrophysicist?

Food: Low carb, high fat, moderate protein. I've recently discovered the majesty of pastured eggs...

None of this stuff matters -- I'm not out for a female clone with my artistic taste/sensibility...can't we share different stuff?
Six things I could never do without
Why not call this box "The six people in your life I could never do without"??

So in that case:

1) My boss.

2) My folks -- I still learn a lot from them and they're quietly extraordinary people.

3) My brother, who I also learn a lot from. Unfortunately we're on divergent paths at the moment, but such is life.

4) Anyone I can make a genuine connection with.

5) A great drummer.

6) The people I work with.

7) The planet Jupiter, because without Jupiter potentially deadly impacts on Earth from outer space would be 2000-8000 times higher than they are now...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Life outside the comfort zone.

The serial dating and hook up culture in's what happens when a small, funky city becomes nearly instantly affluent and people feel entitled to a very, very specific kind of person with the least amount of effort required (because they are entitled!!) or they feel entitled to get laid. Or go out with someone once looking for the first fatally wrong thing with someone like an out of place nose hair and saying "I just didn't feel it"... It's gotten really bad, people, and I think the use of electronic means has just been a fuel to accelerate the ridiculousness.
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably in, unless I've got a gig or I'm out of town on business.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My trusty 10 year old Dumbphone finally gave up the ghost...
The two of us