Crisanderson27
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My self-summary
5/16 - So...about me. I'm here looking for something permanent...but I'm not really sure I'm going to find it here. I'm happy to meet friends, and who knows, maybe something will come of it, but I'm not looking as hard as I used to anymore. Honestly, in my last three years on this site, I've been blown off, ignored, misled, teased (meaning led to believe that the girl was serious, when she wasn't), and out and out lied to so many times…all without even one positive dating experience…that I'm really not sure I could take another minute of it. Please don't misunderstand, I'm not bitter or angry…honestly I mostly blame myself (I'm great at relationships, but the games involved in modern dating are just beyond my ability to grasp). All of my profile is still true, I'm just no longer leaving it as far out there to be abused. So feel free to message if you'd like to chat, as I would still love to meet the girl I'm supposed to be with. I'm just refusing to put in my previous level of effort to find her anymore.

At least for awhile.

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If you would like to learn more 'about me', you can find me on Instagram at *CrisAnderson27*, or on my business website at www.cjaedgedart.com, and Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/scorpionforge

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'What I want is to be needed. What I need is to be indispensable to someone. Who I need is someone that will eat up all my time, swallow my ego, completely devour my attention. Someone addicted to me. Someone not afraid of a mutual addiction.'

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"The Perfect Man (written by a woman)

He is a leader, my teacher, he displays integrity. He is loyal. He is honest. He is responsible. He inspires me. He is honorable. He is an alpha dog to the world, but a puppy with me. He is handsome. He is sweet. He is charming, he will show me his weaknesses. He is romantic, because he knows as a woman I need that. He is the leader of our family, holding to very traditional roles, but with a modern twist. He supports and encourages my goals, but not because he can't take care of me. He knows as a woman, I too have the ability to take care of myself. He allows my spoiling of him, not because he can't take care of himself, but because it makes me feel like a woman to pamper him. He will go to bed every night with the knowledge that I'm 100% committed to our life together. He will take note that no man is loved more. He will respect that for the gift that it is and protect our union until the end."

This is what I was taught a man should be. What I was taught a relationship should be. Why in the hell is this so very hard to acheive in this day and age?? I mean, is there anyone but me that still wants this lol?

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I was told to add some things about me in here. Sooo here we go.

I'm tired of being single. I'm not interested in one night stands...or really even meeting people who aren't looking for a relationship. Or rather, not 'a' relationship...

THE relationship.

I'm actively athletic, determined, consistent, honest, and loyal. I work hard at the things I do. ALL of the things I do. I'm proud of the things I've accomplished (even though I'm currently rebuilding my life, again), including the work I've put (and continue to, I'm currently recovering from a shattered collar bone) into my body, and my mind...but those things don't define me. If there was one word I would use to define me...I would choose passionate. And I don't mean sexual passion of course...though I guess that's a given. I mean passion for life. For my kids. For new experiences. For accomplishment. For success.

For you.

So, if you see something you like, something that makes you think 'Hey...this guy might be a little different...', send me a message. You're probably right...and if I can find the woman I'm supposed to be with, I'll happily spend the rest of my life proving it to her. You don't have to be creative...a simple hello will do. Just something to say to me 'hey...talk to me, I want to know more about you'. If I think we might be a match, I will absolutely respond.
What I’m doing with my life
Well...I'm currently putting my physical fitness back to its proper place as a priority. Not to say I'm going to be fanatic about it lol...but I won't be skipping gym days for the foreseeable future (at least, not without a reason). Injury recovery and putting the requisite time into building my business have made me a bit chubby 😉. I work for myself, and am lucky to be successful enough to support myself and my family. Speaking of family, I have had full custody of all of my children for the last five years (since April 2011). However...this has recently changed, and the courts have ordered 50/50, with a 5/2/2/5 schedule starting the end of May 2016. What this means is...for five days in a row every other week, I'm really, really going to need to find something to fill my time.
I’m really good at
Not to sound cocky...but I'm good at most things I attempt. If its something interesting...I won't stop working and learning until I'm the best I can possibly be at it. Things that interest me vary from being a great parent...to being a great husband/boyfriend...to building and racing cars (and now bikes again!!)...to writing and art. Anything creative will usually be able to catch and hold my interest long enough for me to become good at it (for example...I'm a great cook!). Things I can do with people I care about usually come first though. From working on a fast car or lifted truck with my kids...to taking my family (and you too!...want to come along??) racing or four wheeling for the weekend.

One thing I really suck at is messaging women out of the blue and selling myself with a one liner. Maybe its just me, but it seems to me, a guy that's good at that is someone who has practiced. That can't be good lol.

Oh...and really...I seem to be a professional at losing my keys...go figure.
The first things people usually notice about me
Tough to say...I've never asked lol...but from some of the reactions I've gotten recently, its that my personality only bears a minimal relation to my appearance. I was told by one girl (who I'm actually great friends with now!) that she was very hesitant to talk to me...and certainly nervous about meeting lol. I guess I look 'mean'? (various friends have since coined this 'resting a$$hole face').

The funny thing is...I never knew!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Hey girl...you make me want to write a song...
Sit you down...and sing it to you all night long...
I've had a melody in my head...
Since you walked in here and knocked me dead...
Yeah girl...you make me want to write a song...

And it goes like 'Oooo...what I wouldn't do...
To write my name on your heart...
Get to wrappin' my arms baby all around you...'
And it goes like 'Hey...girl I'm blown away...
Yeah it starts with a smile...
And it ends with an all night long slow kiss...'
Yeah it goes like this...

Hey girl...you make me want to drive you home...
Get you out of here...and get you all alone...
I don't know what it is about you baby...
But I'm all messed up and it might sound crazy...
But you make me want to write a song...

And it goes like 'Oooo...what I wouldn't do...
To write my name on your heart...
Get to wrappin' my arms baby all around you...'
And it goes like 'Hey...girl I'm blown away...
Yeah it starts with a smile...
And it ends with an all night long slow kiss...'
Yeah it goes like this...

Lookin' at you...lookin' at me that way...
Makes me wanna grab my old guitar and play...

Somethin' like 'Oooo...what I wouldn't do...
To write my name on your heart...
Get to wrappin' my arms baby all around you...'
And it goes like 'Hey...girl I'm blown away...
Yeah it starts with a smile...
And it ends with an all night long slow kiss...'
Yeah it goes like this...

And it goes like 'Oooo...'
And it goes like 'Hey...'
And it ends with a kiss...
Yeah it goes like this...
The six things I could never do without
Can I cheat and put the first three as my kids lol?

Honestly...I'm a pretty simple guy...and after I lost my construction company a few years back (2008), I learned the hard way just how many things I could live without. I kind of think this question should be answered differently. For example, I don't like being single...but can live without someone. I like having a toy...you know, a fast car (Mustang...tyvm!), bike, or lifted truck for taking off road...but again...I can do without those things. I've even done without family (excepting my kids...I'm a wreck without my kids lol) and friends in the past.

But in the interest of self disclosure lol...my final three answers would be love, passion, and happiness...in no particular order :).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The future...and how to best make it a positive one. I've worked hard for the things I've had in my life...but the circumstances of life aren't always kind. Its our own responsibility to guard ourselves and those we care about from the harshness of some of those circumstances. The only way to do that is to keep an open mind, and do your best to be ready for whatever things might come your way.

Lately I've been thinking a lot about how and why men and women interact the way they do. Its such a simple and yet totally complex subject...with some very surprising twists and turns. in the end...I've come to the conclusion that our society is slowly eroding away our innate ability to have and maintain lasting, meaningful relationships. So...for all of you genuine ladies out there, I have this piece of advice to help combat this erosion:

'Find a guy who makes you feel beautiful without prompting, who doesn't just say it, but truly makes you feel it. A man who calls you back if you hang up on him, who will stay awake just to watch you sleep. Wait for a guy who kisses your forehead...and then your lips...just because your forehead is closer and he can't wait any longer. A guy who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your lazy clothes, who holds your hand in front of his friends. Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you. Wait for the one who will turn to anyone that will listen and say,

"...that's her."

And then...simply, appreciate him.'
On a typical Friday night I am
Either at home with my little ones, or if I'm out, its playing pool, seeing a movie...or possibly drinks with friends. Honestly though...the last three are rare indeed. I only really go out if I'm dating (with her of course), soooo...yeah.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Umm...some of my answers are pretty freakin private I think!
You should message me if
- You have an honest heart...
- You are looking for a great friend...
- You think we might fit and are looking for more...
- You're willing to see if I actually DO smile much more often than my pictures indicate...
- You love kids! Yes I come with my own...but despite the rough exterior...I'm really a big kid at heart...
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