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My self-summary
I have a girlfriend. We have an open and Polyamorous relationship. Her OKC name is Kylyssa. She is bisexual. I am not. We live in an apartment with my best friend (who happens to be my non-poly ex-girlfriend) and her boyfriend.

I'm not looking for relationships. If one finds me, that's cool, but I don't have the energy for searching high and low right now.

I'm attempting to focus all my extra energy on music these day. But I'm not sure I have extra energy. :P

I want to put together a band to play my music, but it's really hard to find time in between working right now. I'm working on new music for a duo EP with my friend Darrin, and a new solo album.

I'm also constantly hunting for a non-retail job. Let me know if you know of a good one. Bonus if it's a film-video-audio production job. :D

My last album is available on Amazon. On CD. Just search for NaCl and my name.
What I’m doing with my life
What I WANT to be doing is:

1. Recording more music!

2. Finding a new job!

I'm currently working at a retail establishment. It was OK, but it's becoming a place I hate to be. Plus, it doesn't pay all the bills.

If you’re interested, I am a musician, a songwriter, a liberal, an agnostic, a progressive and kind of a socialist.

I believe in the notion of sex-positive, in that I view sexual expression as essentially good and healthy rather than something dirty that needs to be hidden in the dark. Hiding in the dark leads to negative behavior.

I’m trying to pursue happiness. :D
I’m really good at
These are the things I know I'm good at; Rhythm Guitar, songwriting, and video editing. Though I'm a very biased judge.

Maybe you can tell me what you think I'm good at. :P
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm not sure. I guess it's my eyes. An ex-girlfriend of mine always says I have big brown cow eyes, which she insists is a compliment. I don't get it.

Otherwise. You'd probably notice that I'm shy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love to read. I love music and movies. Food is good too.

This is a truncated list to be sure, but it's a start...

Beatles (together and separately), They Might Be Giants, Tori Amos, Barenaked Ladies, Flaming Lips, Cat Stevens, Pixies, Billy Joel, Bob Dylan, Suzanne Vega, Adrian Belew, Panic! at the Disco, Loudon Wainwright III, Prince, the Police, Nelly McKay, King Tammy, Ween, Beach Boys, Wilco, the Monkees, Frank Zappa, Donovan, Tom Waits, Elton John, Green Day, Harry Chapin, Matthew Sweet, Amie Mann, Bob Dorough, Camper Van Beethoven, Violent Femmes, Talking Heads, Nhate Backwards, Beck, Weezer, Tom Petty, Badly Drawn Boy, LL Cool J, Bread, Moody Blues, White Stripes, Beastie Boys, Outkast, 60's Motown, Novelty tunes, Sting, Leonard Cohen, Eagles, Duran Duran, Fleetwood Mac, PJ Harvey, Nirvana, Monty Python, Loop d Loop, Jethro Tull, John Williams, Danny Elfman, Adrian Belew, Jack Johnson, Randy Newman, Harry Nilsson, John Mellancamp, Stone Temple Pilots, Foo Fighters, Simon & Garfunkle, Carly Simon, Of Montreal, King Tammy, Man Man, The Willeys, Vampire Weekend, etc...

Stephen King, Kurt Vonnegut Jr., C.S. Lewis, J.K. Rowling, Susie Bright, Douglas Adams, Arthur C. Clark, Jonathon Ames, Tom Robbins, Sasha Cagen, Terry Pratchet, Piers Anthony, J.R.R. Tolkien, Alan Moore, Grant Morrison,
Pillars of the Earth, Dune, Stainless Steel Rat, The Girl with the Silver Eyes, Lies and the Lying Liars that Tell Them, Sex For Beginners, etc

Stand by Me, Star Wars (original), Little Miss Sunshine, Bowling for Columbine, Amelie, Clue, Rushmore, Big Trouble, Lord of the Rings, Tombstone, Blue Velvet, History of the World Part I, G-Men from Hell, Toy Story, Dogma, R.S.V.P., North by North West, James Bond (except Lazenby, and I'm not hot on this new one either), Kiki's Delivery Service, Pecker, etc.

Television (yes I know my brain is rotting):
Doctor Who, Daily Show, Stargate SG1, Monk, Star Trek (and not JJ Trek), Pushing Daisies, Monty Python's Flying Circus, The Prisoner, Law & Order, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, MASH, Twin Peaks, Father Ted, Mythbusters, Firefly, etc.
Six things I could never do without
Let’s assume the basics of air, water, food, and shelter are not in question.

Science: Science has made technology that I use daily possible.

Music: Combinations of words, tones, and textures that reach into the soul and make life awesome.

My brain: I'd hate not being able to think. At least that’s what I think now.

Humor: If I could not laugh at my own ridiculousness, I'd be insufferable.

Tea: I may have become a tea addict. lol.

Friends: My friends are my family. I love them and they seem to like me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Society. Psychology. Politics.

Health care. Kylyssa has Lupis, so our health care systems failings are often on my mind.

Changing my work situation.

Music. And how to get mine heard by more people.

Fiction. Why I don't ever seem to write a book.

Movies. And when I can make my own.

How to move my chosen family out of Michigan. Lately I've been thinking of Oregon.

And sometimes:
Sexuality. Polyamory. Sex. Threesomes. Orgies.

I think about lots of stuff. I think too much perhaps.
On a typical Friday night I am
With the unpredictable schedule of retail employment, there isn't a typical any night.

Some Friday nights I wonder why there isn't a Daily Show. How *daily* is a show that isn't on three days out of the week anyway?

Other times I wonder why I don't get my ass out to the open mic at Quinn & Tuite's Irish Pub more often.

There are Friday's that I work until 10:30pm.

Then there's the Friday's where I'm adventuring off the coast of a tropical island looking for treasure with a sexy co-star. Wait, that's not me. ... Or is it?

So, nothing typical at the moment.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I love ice cream, especially with crunchy bits in it.

If you're interested in me, you may have to make the move or make it obvious that I should be making a move. At the very least drop an enormous hint. I'm a little on the shy side.
You should message me if
You would like to chat online. Chatting is a fun way to get to know someone a little before meeting, and it helps avoid some of the first meeting nervousness.

You like coffee shops, but maybe not coffee (I’ve started to acquire a taste for the stuff, but I don’t think I’ll ever be a real coffee drinker).

My profile didn't bore you and you think we might have something in common, something about which we can have a conversation.

You like to play Apples to Apples.

You want to surprise me.

You know what a Neapolitan Sixth chord is.

You play drums, bass, keyboards, or lead guitar. Please, musicians of any kind are definitely people I want to meet. I really NEED to get a band together!!

You're looking to get cute.

You’re interested in polyamory. My girlfriend, partner, symbiote(?), Kylyssa, and I are polyamorous and would love to know more poly people.

You listen to NPR.

You like to make this face. =^_^=

You are a butterflie.

Don’t message me if…

You are looking for a potential husband or a drama filled romance. I'm not your man. (Hm. That might make a good song title, “I’m not Your Man.”)

If you message me, keep this in mind, "I am too old to be playing around with trying to figure out what you might mean so just tell me. I'll tell you how I feel about what you might mean and we can move forward from there." Meaning, I’m shy and I can’t read non-verbal cues, tell me what you want, and I’ll try my best to see if it fits with what I want.
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