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My self-summary
PLEASE READ THE PROFILE. *NOT* LOOKING FOR CASUAL. If you are genuinely interested please say more than "hi;" tell me what we have in common and how we can connect. Thanks!

Kind-hearted, Buddhist, politically left. I love life and all it has to offer. I enjoy the heck out of everything I can, perhaps even more because, as a Buddhist, I also realize that nothing lasts and we can't rely on things outside our hearts to make us happy. I particularly seek and savor art, history, reading, museums, opera, the Brooklyn Botanic Garden, great food, and great sex. Meditation and meditation retreats are important to me. I don't believe in any gods; rather, to me, my religion is about becoming more compassionate and better able to help others.

Seeking someone who is first and foremost kind, gentle, honest, and good-hearted. All ethnicities and body types welcome. I am a kind person, don't like to fight, and when I do encounter conflict, I try to stay calm and talk it out honestly. Please be the same. Honesty is very, very important to me, as well as the ability to identify, understand, and talk about your needs and emotions. I have a weakness for shy, sweet, geeky guys, especially software developers and the like. I also seek a person who loves life and at least some of the things I enjoy.

I am looking for a serious relationship... not going to rush into anything but I do want something profound in the long term.... To begin with I at least want to connect with people who have things in common with me, who want to spend time together outside the bedroom, who are open to the idea of something more developing. If you just want to fuck, please just keep looking. I have plenty of play friends. Looking for deeper emotional intimacy.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a project manager/business analyst in software development. I used to be a teacher in a rough school in Chicago but the school system is such a mess that that became impossible for me to continue. But I had very positive relationships with students and want to resume working with youth in a volunteer capacity. Right now I'm planning to teach meditation in youth detention facilities, and am in a meditation teacher training program with that goal in mind.
I’m really good at
Patience & kindness with at-risk (or insert your preferred euphemism here) youth. Listening to friends & reminding them to be gentle with themselves. Learning languages. Figuring out public transit in places where I don't speak the language. My job.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Biographies and novels set in other places and/or times, so that I can lazily learn about the world by reading stories. Favorite books include Map of Love by Adhaf Soueif, Funny Boy by Shyam Selvadurai, A Grain of Wheat by Ngugi wa Thiong'o, Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy, as well as the obscure Japanese lit I studied in college and Jane Austen, the Brontës, George Eliot, Thomas Hardy, Toni Morrison, and Barbara Kingsolver. The last novel I read was Middlemarch; before that, I read a biography of Empress Cixi by Jung Chang. I've paused in reading an account of the travels of ibn Battuta; currently am reading Are Prisons Obsolete? by Angela Davis and Wild Swans by Jung Chang. I also pretty continuously read dharma (Buddhist books).
Movies: Pan's Labyrinth, Lord of the Rings, Serenity, Grosse Pointe Blank, Little Miss Sunshine, Django Unchained, Amadeus, Dangerous Liaisons, and pretty much any movie with explosions, car chases, and/or period costumes. No chick flicks.
Shows: I don't really watch TV. The last time I did, I liked House & Dexter.
Music: I know everyone says too many to list but really. Rachmaninoff's piano concerto #2 and Brahms piano concerto #ditto have both been playing a lot recently. Also Mozart piano concerti. To relax it's William Byrd. My most-often-listened-to Pandora channels, in order of how frequently I listen: Reggaeton, Contemporary Bollywood, Eminem/Dr. Dre, and Khaled/Cheb Mami.
Food: C'mon, really? Lookit me. I love all food. Recently became a vegetarian tho.... Adjusting.
The six things I could never do without
On a typical Friday night I am
Hanging out with friends.
You should message me if want more than just sex. Please see above. If you can't be bothered to read what I am looking for, don't bother to message me. Not trying to be unfriendly - just straightforward. Best of luck to you in your search.