Kind-hearted, Buddhist, politically left. I love life and all it has to offer. I enjoy the heck out of everything I can, perhaps even more because, as a Buddhist, I also realize that nothing lasts and we can't rely on things outside our hearts to make us happy. I particularly seek and savor art, history, reading, museums, opera, the Brooklyn Botanic Garden, overseas travel, great food, and great sex. Meditation and meditation retreats are important to me. I don't believe in any gods; rather, to me, my religion is about becoming more compassionate and better able to help others.
Seeking someone who is first and foremost kind, gentle, honest, and good-hearted. All ethnicities and body types welcome. I am a kind person, don't like to fight, and when I do encounter conflict, I try to stay calm and talk it out honestly. Please be the same. Honesty is very, very important to me, as well as the ability to identify, understand, and talk about your needs and emotions. I have a weakness for shy, sweet, geeky guys, especially programmers. I also seek a person who loves life and at least some of the things I enjoy.
Recently realized that polyamory is right for me. This is the article that made the lightbulb go on:
I don't necessarily agree that polyamory is a powerful rejection of capitalism, but it is a challenge to heteropatriarchy and that's a good thing. Also it shouldn't be considered better than any other relationship structure - we can all challenge heteropatriarchy in our own ways. But for me it feels right to say that I would no more limit myself to one romance than to one friend.
At the moment I am looking for relationships resembling dating... not going to rush into anything and if it ends up being a FWB scenario that's fine... But I want to connect with people who have things in common with me, who want to spend time together outside the bedroom, who are cautiously open to the idea of something more developing. Ultimately I would like a long term relationship, or multiple such, but am in no hurry nor am I going to try to cram everyone who comes along into that role. If we're not LTR material we can still have a wonderful time together. If you just read my questions and like my attitude toward sex, but that's it, just want to fuck, please just keep looking. I have plenty of play friends. Looking for deeper emotional intimacy.
Movies: Pan's Labyrinth, Lord of the Rings, Serenity, Grosse Pointe Blank, Little Miss Sunshine, Django Unchained, Amadeus, Dangerous Liaisons, and pretty much any movie with explosions, car chases, and/or period costumes. No chick flicks.
Shows: I don't really watch TV. The last time I did, I liked House & Dexter.
Music: I know everyone says too many to list but really. Rachmaninoff's piano concerto #2 and Brahms piano concerto #ditto have both been playing a lot recently. To relax it's Thomas Tallis. My most-often-listened-to Pandora channels, in order of how frequently I listen: Reggaeton, Contemporary Bollywood, Eminem/Dr. Dre, and Khaled/Cheb Mami.
Food: C'mon, really? Lookit me. I love all food. Recently became a vegetarian tho.... Adjusting.