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My self-summary
Over the next few years I'll be commuting to Chicago once a season. I currently live in Connecticut outside of New York City. If you notice me in Illinois, Indiana, Ohio, or Pennsylvania, I am likely in transit. You are welcome to contact me. I usually have flexible travel dates and would love to meet up.

I'm currently intentionally connected into a polycule involving the following profiles on this site: Helvetia13, ZombieApocalypso, and katahdin ash. There are one or two that aren't on OKC either we're engaged with. Lovely wonderful people one and all.

I am a person overall happy with where I have taken myself in my life, and the stories that I get to tell. I've traveled a decent amount in my life already, and I wish to visit two remaining continents I have left on the planet. (Africa, Australia) I am a sentimentalist at heart. I love stories, folklore, and mythology. It might be one of the great driving forces in my life and how it has played out. I tend to remember little things about people that hold a great importance to me. I like to keep artifacts, objects, pictures, totems, tangible items that when my eyes fall upon them the memories associated come roaring back into me like I am there again. Once in a while I'll come across something that suddenly brings back memories to me that I'd set aside and I get to relive them all over again. I like that this happens.
Always remember to put some sort of signature on a book or picture as to why you have it, you will thank yourself later.

I'm a geek at heart. My father worked for Kenner Toys back when Return of the Jedi came out in theaters. First bedtime stories I heard were out of D'aulaire's Big Book of Greek Mythology. He started reading to me Timothy Zahn's Heir to the Empire when it came out, and it was the first novel I ever finished. I still have those books too.
I've since become a big pen and paper role player, a board game fan, a love of creative story telling, and acting. I've done some musicals and some regular stage work, but I prefer improv the most.

I love love love webcomics, I have a minor obsession with them. If you know a good webcomic, please by all means send me a message with the link. I also have a rather long list I keep up with either periodically or religiously. I'd be very happy to go meta-critic with you.

I am always thinking, could be worse, and it could be raining
What I’m doing with my life
From 2011 to early 2014, I worked in the wonderfully fulfilling field (maybe it should be fantastically fulfilling field) of Wilderness Therapy. Don't know what that is? I can suggest books like Shouting At The Sky to get a background in the field. I was field staff in charge of the safety, health, and therapeutic outcomes of troubled, often addicted, and almost always very privledged adolescents and young adults. I focused mainly on cultural rites of passage and creating context for threshold experiences, with an emphasis on severance rituals and ceremony.
(If you read and understood the previous statement, please stop reading this right now and contact me immediately, we have much to talk about)

I would take students out for multi day solo experiences and teach how to create a unique and individual ceremony. It is highly rewarding work. My most recent program was a sedintary organic gardening and farming program in Hawaii. Prior to that it was a nomadic hunter/gather wilderness program.

Really, it was my own little neolithic revolution. And if you know what I mean by that, we are going to have so much fun together.

Before my career change, I worked industrial archaeology. I began working in that specific field in 2006. My first industrial specific work was several excavations out in the Hudson River Valley along with locales in the copper country of Michigan. Prior to that I worked as a commercial archaeologist throughout south western Connecticut from 2003 to 2006.

Currently I am embarking on Divinity School and becoming an ordained Unitarian Universalist minister. I'll be commuting to Chicago a few times a season while working for localish churches and taking classes. Most of my focus and interest has been on how do we create intentional, ethical, covenantal community and the intersection of this with the modern Anti-Racism/Anti-Oppression groundswell.
I’m really good at
-I am very very good at giving hugs, if you want a good hug, I'd like to offer you one.
-I am very good at storytelling, both privately and publicly. Public speaking has never been an issue for me. What's more, I love telling stories around camp fires; under the stars who were once the muses for some of those very stories too.
-Archaeology, I worked professionally in the field off and on since 2003, I've been published on a few papers already, though these days my focus is more on seminary
- I am decently good at primitive skills. By that I mean firemaking, bead looming, dreamcather making, tool making, crafting, carving, sheltermaking, wilderness first-aid, compass and navigating...
-Being resilient to the point sometimes of stubborn.
-board games, I love playing them and play a wide variety with frequency.
-Acting, I've been doing it for quite a few years now. I've done it for pay, for charity, and because. It's a creative funnel. A release.
Plus, as Indiana Jones said, he's making it up as he goes along. So why shouldn't I?
I have been told I am very good at improv, and should continue on with it (this is sorta under the umbrella of acting, so it works)
The first things people usually notice about me
The first thing I know people tend to remember about me is my hugs, big warm enveloping you're-picked-up-off-the-ground-and-your-spine-cracks bear hugs.

If I am to believe what people tell me, (and this is according to my longtime friend and member of this site, the very insightful Illimon) the first thing people notice about me is a mix of confidence and comfort. Sometimes it comes off as intimidating apparently. I find this amusing.

Okay, that might have sounded a little weird, because I don't actively go around intimidating people. Tell you what, when we meet, I'll try to explain better and remove my foot from my mouth too.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Okay, wow this is going to be a long list, and has not been updated in a while. So this is not inclusive in the least.

So lets start with books and include plays.
In no particular order:
The Hobbit, Shogun, The Power of Myth, The Poisonwood Bible, The Sun Also Rises, Dr. Faustus, The Five Hundred Year Delta, Hero With a Thousand Faces, The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, The Visionaries Handbook, Guns, Germs, & Steel, The Education of Little Tree, The Fountainhead, The Bourne Identity, How the Grinch Stole Christmas, I Love You Forever, I Love You For Always, Collapse, Bushido: The Soul of Japan, Opening the Hand of Thought, How Few Remain, In Small Things Forgotten, Neuromancer, The Deviant's Advantage, Neverwhere, DauLaire's Big Book of Greek Mythology, American Gods, Good Omens, The Laramie Project, David Ives Philadelphia, Death of a Salesman, Henry the V, The Giving Tree, The Poisonwood Bible, MacBeth, Frankenstein, The Odyssey, The Dark Tower, Rashomon, The World is Flat, The Myth of Excellence, Lines in the Water, Wedding of the Waters, Devil in the White City, Thunderstruck, The Fountainhead, Pride of Baghdad, V for Vendetta, American Splendor, Preacher, The Walking Dead, Y: The Last Man, Calvin and Hobbes, Snow Crash, The Dresden Files The Wheel of Time series The Dispossessed Boneshaker The Crimson Petal and the White

Books or Authors I want to read/trying to working through:
The Brothers Karamazov, anything by Neal Stephenson, Moby Dick, the rest of the Dark Tower, The Bible, Bhagavad Gita, The Koran, Clan of the Cave Bear, Stranger in a Strange Land, Atlas Shrugged, The Third Chimpanzee

Movies, well here goes:
Star Wars (the original trilogy), Ghostbusters, Equilibrium, The Muppet Movie, The Cooler, The Motorcycle Diaries, Love Actually, Crash, On the Waterfront, Hamlet (Kenneth Brannagh version), Hamlet 2, The Boondock Saints, Thank You For Smoking, Baraka, Kinky Boots, Yojimbo, The Seven Samurai, Princess Mononoke, Castle of Caliostro, Laputa, Howls Moving Castle, The Truman Show, Stranger than Fiction, Hot Fuzz, Gladiator, Chinatown, Pan's Labyrinth, Slapshot, Macbeth (Roman Polanski version), The Sting, Cool Hand Luke, The Shawshank Redemption, Tombstone, Open Range, Bull Durham, Waking Life, A Scanner Darkly, Perseopolis, Braveheart, Heat, Toy Story, Me, You, and Everyone We Know, Donnie Darko, The Incredibles, Iron Man, The Dark Knight, Silence of the Lambs, Seven, Kung Fu Hustle, The Power of Myth, Raiders of the Lost Ark, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, The Princess Bride, Fear of a Black Hat, O Brother Where Art Thou?, Better Off Dead, Grosse Point Blank The Hangover District 9 The Princess and the Frog Ink...Yeah, it is a long list

TV shows, l have a lot, so I figured I' break them off here
The Daily Show, Doctor Who, Family Guy, Robot Chicken (I want to have your babies and toy collection Seth Green!), Whose Line is it Anyway?, South Park, Moral Orel, The Venture Bros, The Boondocks, Futurama, Burn Notice, House, Bones, Weeds, Dexter, Psych, Monk, Mythbusters, Anthony Bourdain's No Reservations, Good Eats with Alton Brown, Planet Earth, Hockey Night in Canada, Corner Gas, True Blood, Blood Ties, Berserk, Babylon 5, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Firefly (Browncoats!), Dollhouse, Angel, Batman the Animated Series, That 70's Show, Fraiser CHUCK Project Runway (yes, I like it, hetro and all) White Collar, Supernatural, Deadwood, Death In Paradise,

I'll toss in video games here too. Yes, I'm a geek. Love longer story driven ones, think Mass Effect, Zelda, KOTOR, Fallout. But love me some co-operative play like Left 4 Dead, Diablo II, Starcraft. And of course, Rockband goes without saying. Though my singing leaves a lot to be asked for.

Music, well, admittedly I hear music all the time. Songs get stuck in my head easily, and it is hard for me to drown them out. In fact I feel less comfortable in silence than in noise. My music selection tends to be rather specialized. I would love to broaden my horizons on music. If anyone is very good at picking music for people, I would love the help. Lately I'vebeen scratching a musical itch with The Black Keys and Paramore.

When it comes to food, I classify myself as an accommodating omnivore:
If I'm with vegetarians, I eat and cook veg. With carnivores, I trend towards meat.
Vegans love me for my green papaya salad.
It is safe to explain it as I love tofu and quinoa just as much as I love a good steak and potatoes.
I'd love to try as many different ethnic foods as possible, and I'm always willing to try something once. I can't guarantee I'm going to like it, but I'll at least give it a shot.
Six things I could never do without
An inherent sense of self value
Intimate contact
Showers/water of any kind (large bodies or rivers are good!)
Something small to occupy my hands (a pen is really good here, as is P-cord)
My talismans/sentimental objects: my coyote tooth necklace, leather storykeeper, unitarian universalist chalice, box of norse runes...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Well, everything. My mind has a hard time shutting down and checking out. Therefore I can get trapped in there really really easily. Music seems to be the most common way.

I do often have random thoughts pop into my mind that either I will blurt out because I need to hear them out loud, or just let them flow away. I will think by having whole conversations with myself. It's helpful though I get weird looks.
On a typical Friday night I am
Trying to figure out what-on-earth 'typical' is supposed to be. Seems lately to be quiet evenings, which I don't mind.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm fairly open, so there could be a lot. Ask me anything and I will be happy to tell you. This includes my own proclivities with the kink community

I was once on an episode of Sesame Street when I was very young. I've stayed somewhat in contact with the puppeteer of Barkley the Dog ever since.

The Muppets can make me cry for no reason, it's sweet and sad at the same time.
You should message me if
You'd like to engage in conversation, with nothing asked of you than simply enjoying yourself.
And we'll see where things take us
The two of us