_Mr_Cross_
49Portland, United States
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My self-summary
I'm funny, playful, a tad cynical, yet serious where it counts. I'm clear and direct in my communication and those close to me know they can count on me for no holds barred opinion.

For the last ten years I have mostly been involved in ethically non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. However, I am also open to other relationship dynamics including monogamous or monogamish ones.

What seems most important to me is to let new relationships find their own balance and fit in our lives without trying to force them into a particular box. Regardless of what it looks like, I am looking for somebody I find a real connection with.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm self motivated and a hard worker who has been self employed for most of the last 25 years. I work a lot but I know how to take time for play and to volunteer for a nonprofit or two.
I’m really good at
Talking, listening, seeing the other point of view, growing intimacy, helping others, and a few other things you may want to ask me about in person.
The first things people usually notice about me
The mischievous glint in my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't read enough for pleasure anymore although I'm usually reading something that is teaching me a thing or two. I've recently started listening to books which is helping me get more recreational "reading" back in my life.

I generally like most music but tend to lean towards rock both classic and alternative (whatever that is anymore) and jazz, (the more outside the better) and away from country. Although... I've recently been enjoying a little bit of alternative country now and then.
Six things I could never do without
Never is such a strong word. Let's go with six things I would rather not do without.

Friends
Love
Art of all kinds
Honest communication
Laughter
Authenticity
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I can better communicate that I'm much more light hearted in person than this profile conveys.

How depth of intimacy directly correlates to one's willingness to take risks in relationships.

Sex Positivity and how thankfully the definition of that is expanding more all the time.

Balance.
On a typical Friday night I am
I might be getting together with friends, heading out of town or laying low in preparation for a weekend full of work.
You should message me if
You would prefer to meet for tea, a bite to eat, or a stroll through an art museum or gallery to see if we have a connection sooner vs later.

You aren't annoyed that I am actually 55. I don't like even this type of slight deception however OkCupid changed their algorithm and regardless of the date range of people I say I'm looking for, they send me a skewed version of what they think I should be looking for. I've actually talk to OkCupid about this and they said they were sorry but they feel justified.
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