55 Portland, United States
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My self-summary
I'm funny, playful, a tad cynical yet serious where it counts. I'm clear and direct in my communication and those close to me know they can count on me for no holds barred opinion. Not in the "I have no filter" sort of way but as in I'm not afraid to shoot straight.

I am ethically non monogamous or polyamorous, of the everyone knows what is happening variety. I am currently dating but single.

I like to let new relationships find their own balance and fit in my life without trying to force them into a particular box. Regardless of what it looks like, I am looking for somebody I find a real connection with.
What I’m doing with my life
I've had several successful careers in my life and have recently embarked on what I hope is my last. I'm self motivated and a hard worker who works a lot but knows how to take time for play and volunteering for a nonprofit or two.
I’m really good at
Talking, listening, seeing the other point of view, growing intimacy, helping others, and a few other things you may want to ask me about in person.
The first things people usually notice about me
The mischievous glint in my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't read enough for pleasure anymore although I'm usually reading something that is teaching me a thing or two. I've recently started listening to books which is helping me get more recreational "reading" back in my life.

I generally like most music but tend to lean towards rock both classic and alternative (whatever that is anymore) and jazz, (the more outside the better) and away from country. Although... I've recently been enjoying a little bit of alternative country now and then.
The six things I could never do without
Never is such a strong word. Let's go with six things I would rather not do without.

Art of all kinds
Honest communication
Responsible non-monogamy
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Sex Positivity and how thankfully the definition of that is expanding more all the time.


How depth of intimacy directly correlates to one's willingness to take risks in relationships.

How I can better communicate that I'm much more light hearted in person than this profile conveys.
On a typical Friday night I am
I might be getting together with friends, heading out of town or laying low in preparation for a weekend full of work.
You should message me if
You think we might enjoy each other and you would like to meet for coffee, a bite to eat, or a stroll through an art museum or gallery to see if we have a connection.

You have at least a basic understanding of how ethical non-monogamy works and preferably some actual practice.