46 Portland, United States
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My self-summary
I'm funny, playful, a tad cynical yet serious where it counts. I'm clear and direct in my communication and those close to me know they can count on me for no holds barred opinion. Not in the "I have no filter" sort of way but as in I'm not afraid to shoot straight.

I identify as ethically non monogamous or polyamorous, of the everyone knows what is happening variety. I am currently dating a little but unpartnered.

I like to let new relationships find their own balance and fit in my life without trying to force them into a particular box. Regardless of what it looks like, I am looking for somebody I find a real connection with.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm self motivated and a hard worker who has been self employed for most of the last 25 years. I work a lot but I know how to take time for play and to volunteer for a nonprofit or two.
I’m really good at
Talking, listening, seeing the other point of view, growing intimacy, helping others, and a few other things you may want to ask me about in person.
The first things people usually notice about me
The mischievous glint in my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't read enough for pleasure anymore although I'm usually reading something that is teaching me a thing or two. I've recently started listening to books which is helping me get more recreational "reading" back in my life.

I generally like most music but tend to lean towards rock both classic and alternative (whatever that is anymore) and jazz, (the more outside the better) and away from country. Although... I've recently been enjoying a little bit of alternative country now and then.
The six things I could never do without
Never is such a strong word. Let's go with six things I would rather not do without.

Art of all kinds
Honest communication
Responsible non-monogamy
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I can better communicate that I'm much more light hearted in person than this profile conveys.

How depth of intimacy directly correlates to one's willingness to take risks in relationships.

Sex Positivity and how thankfully the definition of that is expanding more all the time.

On a typical Friday night I am
I might be getting together with friends, heading out of town or laying low in preparation for a weekend full of work.
You should message me if
You think we might enjoy each other and you would like to meet for coffee, a bite to eat, or a stroll through an art museum or gallery to see if we have a connection.

You have at least a basic understanding of how ethical non-monogamy works and preferably some actual practice.

PS - I am actually 55. I didn't change my age because I'm self-conscious about it or because "people always tell me I only look 45". I did it because sometime since OKC got purchased by the big conglomerate, they changed the algorithm so that you match with and turn up in the searches of people in what they think your dating age range should be. I am not making this up. I've asked them, they said they were sorry.

I've done this, in an attempt to make the site continue to work for me. I swear I am nowhere near ready to live out my life in a recliner.