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My self-summary
"We are not now that strength which in old days
Moved earth & heaven, that which we are, we are;
One equal temper of heroic hearts,
Made weak by time & fate, but strong in will
To strive, to seek, to find, & not to yield."
(I'm hoping that you're the "I know who wrote that!" type, as well as the "I saw the film where Dame Judi Dench quoted that!" type, in equal parts.)

Let me explain. No, there is too much. Let me sum up. I've been accused of being openminded, intelligent, & creative, & I have a tendency to see a world in a grain of sand. GGG. Let's live each day to its fullest & not let those golden moments pass us by.

I love creating & am a boardgame developer, with a few prototypes on the go, about which I'm pretty excited. When it comes to creating theatre, I enjoyed both acting & set design.

Having a strong open marriage, we have trouble understanding why most other folks like to overcomplicate things so. We're madly in love. We just don't see why that should get in the way of our sex life. We've been poly (in a longterm, ethical nonmonogamous relationship) since 1999. She had a profile here, on OKC, too, but pulled it down when men were being jerks to her, online. Sometimes, I really hate my half of the race.

I started university in astrophysics, but graduated with a music degree. Composing music is a big part of my life, & I've had regular paying singing gigs. I'm the bassest of the bass & my deep voice gets me the occasional radio & animated film voiceover, too. There are a few larger composing projects which are jumping up & down in my subconscious, vying for attention, so I'm happily tackling those. I also enjoy playing piano & am finally teaching myself to play guitar & ukulele. Over the years, I've briefly taken lessons on all instruments of the orchestra (as well as carillon), & I used to do African drumming & dance.

I really like to cook, especially desserts, & like to take my time when cooking. I also like to improvise in the kitchen - even on my first time through a new recipe. Bad habit, I suppose, but it usually works out well.

OkCupid: Now in Latin!
Carpe diem. Tempus fugit ergo is est tempus lusum.
What I’m doing with my life
Living outside of the box. Heck, I haven't even found this box of which everyone speaks, so I'm assuming that I'm happily a long way outside of it.
I’m really good at
And Scrabble. I can probably kick your ass at Scrabble. (Humbly, though, of course.) Fancy a rousing bout?
The first things people usually notice about me
That I smile with my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The Annotated Alice (Alice in Wonderland & Through the Looking Glass)
The Heaven Tree Trilogy (by Edith Pargeter)
The Lord of the Rings
The Albatross Book of Living Verse (an old collection of older poetry)
Mythology (by Edith Hamilton)
An Artist of the Floating World (by Katzuo Ishiguro)
Gormenghast trilogy (Titus Groan, Gormenghast, & Titus Alone) (by Mervyn Peake)
1984 (by George Orwell)
Terry Pratchett
Neil Gaiman (especially his short story collection, Smoke & Mirrors)
Kurt Vonnegut
The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier & Clay (by Michael Chabon)
The Tao of Pooh
IKEA catalogue

Errol Flynn's The Adventures of Robin Hood
Time Bandits
Local Hero
Forbidden Planet
The Life of Brian
Spirited Away (I just love the idea of a radish god)
Lawrence of Arabia
The Day the Earth Stood Still (The original. I can't bring myself to watch the remake.)
The Man in the White Suit

Classical, Jazz (especially 1920s, 1930s, & Big Band Era (ideally, on scratchy records (mono in both ears))), Musicals, Opera (yes, the plural), Gilbert & Sullivan, Kate Bush, Sting, David Bowie, J.S. Bach (The Great Great Grandfather of Jazz, as far as I'm concerned), Mendelssohn, Miles Davis (especially Kind of Blue), Mozart, Britten, Janacek, Steve Reich's 'Drumming', Stravinsky, Shostakovich

I could be happy eating nothing but Indian food, but also love Japanese and Italian. Just recently, I discovered Grimbergen Dubbel. It's this amazing beer, originally from a Belgian abbey which has a history of brewing going back to 1128. Have you ever tried it? You should. It's amazing. Spicy!
Six things I could never do without
music, challenges, insight, the night sky, creative outlets, really good sex
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Point-of-view, asymmetry, negative space, resonance, antique futurism, harmony, sex, cosmology, fonts, patterns, what science doesn't know, anomalies, obscure references, polyhedra, polyrhythms, polyamory - now why am I craving a cracker, all of a sudden? Excuse me for a moment. I'm just popping into the kitchen. Be right back...
On a typical Friday night I am
atypical. So atypical.

I've heard the Aurora Borealis sing and run from a Finnish smoke sauna straight into an icy pond two degrees from the Arctic Circle for a quick skinny dip - both on the same amazing night. Pity that this isn't my hypothetical "Typical Friday Night", of which OKC seems to be so fond, though. Now, how to get back to Finland...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I now know how many holes it takes to fill the Albert Hall. Oh, and I have a FetLife profile as DarkCyrano, too.
You should message me if
You now know how many holes it takes to fill the Albert Hall.
The two of us