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My self-summary
I'm a UW-Madison graduate currently figuring out where I want to go from there and working on evolving as a person. I live in Middleton, but I work and spend alot of my freetime in Madison. I love hanging out with people who just want to have fun, and it never hurts to meet more of those people. If it develops into something more, that's great.

I like to think I am a pretty laid back, outgoing type of guy. I love the process of getting to know somebody and understanding where they are coming from and what motivates them in life. I especially enjoy talking one-on-one with people so they can really open up to about what they think. Also, you can count on me to be there when you just need a trustworthy, compassionate ear. What I ask in return is that you tolerate points of view that differ from your own and refrain from passing judgement on others: I prefer a live-and-let-live approach to treating others.

When I am not out doing something new and exciting, it would be nice to share a couch with someone and watch a movie or just relax to music or a good conversation.
What I’m doing with my life
Transitioning: I have finished my education and am working a job while trying to look for a career. Changing who I am through exercising (running at night and biking to work), making new friends, returning to reading whatever I want, and beginning to dabble in a little creative writing. Also, travel back and forth between Madison and Middleton nearly every single day (Seriously, give me any excuse to spend more time in Madison). Most importantly, though, from all of this, exploring who I am and learning a lot about life.

Also, I'm improving my pool skills, since one of housemates just bought a pool table.
I’m really good at
Listening to other people's stories. Figuring out where that thing is that you just lost. Pop psychology. Ankle massages. Literary analysis, aparently. Picking up on other people's mannerisms. Historical trivia. Public speaking: somehow I keep ending up having to do it. Problem solving and negotiating. Predicting plot points in movies. Dancing, or at least having fun dancing. Identifying songs from the intro, before the lyrics start.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am never completely at rest. Instead, I am always thinking or working. There is always some project going. There is always something on the tip of my tongue. There is always some aspect of my life to improve. Or that I am a snappy dresser. Or maybe I ordered white wine at a bar.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: "We" Evgeny Zamyatin, "Notes from the Underground" Fyodor Dostoevsky, "Brave New World" Aldous Huxley, any of Isaac Asimov's robot stories, most of Edgar Allen Poe's short stories, "Animal Farm" George Orwell, "The Great Gatsby" F Scott Fitzgeral
TV: Breaking Bad, Burn Notice
Music: A very ecclectic mix including Dance/Club Music, Pop Music ('80s to present), Funk, New Wave, anything with a strong beat; Little Boots, Lights, Ace of Base, Human League, The Killers, Chromeo, and I could go on and on
Movies: "Drive", "Easy A", "The Usual Suspects", "Wild Things", "Fight Club", "Wall-E", anything with a good plot twist
Food: I think I like simple things done well the best. It's fun to have a night in and prepare meat and mashed potatoes (a speciality of mine) and then complement it with wine. Also really good, soft rolls or other bread products are always nice. And perfectly prepared pasta, where it is just the right amount done.
Six things I could never do without
Friends I trust
A place to walk and think
Black tea
A plan for the weekend
Overcast days
I spend a lot of time thinking about
People. People fascinate me endlessly because I always want to know what drives us to do what we do. Also, as far as I can tell, even when people mess up, it is usually with the best intentions. And if somebody I know is hurting, I really want to say just the right thing to them to make them smile and realize life isn't as miserable as it seemed. Aside from people, I love a good story and characters. I will spend a lot of time picking apart books and films trying to figure out why they work and what makes them compelling.

However, when I am alone, I am constantly trying to work on growing as a person. So that may mean thinking about my career plans. Or I could be planning what kind of experiences I want out of the upcoming weekend. It could be deciding what I am going to work on in the evening. There's even a good chance it is just trying to figure out what I am feeling at that particular moment.
On a typical Friday night I am
Anywhere, as long as it is with a friend or friends! Maybe at a bar. Maybe dancing. Maybe on the couch with others watching a movie or a TV show. Or maybe just out walking. As long as I am doing it with interesting people, I don't really care.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
That depends. Once you are a friend, ask me just about anything, and I will probably give you an honest answer. In the meantime:

-When I was in high school, I wanted to be a forensic scientist, until the explosion of shows focusing on fictional forensic scientists.
-For a while, I was the president of the largest ballroom dance club at UW-Madison. It's not a huge part of who I am now, but I had a lot of fun.
-Several years ago, I had a circle beard. I really don't know why I thought that was a good idea. If I still had it now, I would probably looking like an aspiring James Bond villian.
You should message me if
You asked yourself if you should message me. You believe that nobody can adequately describe themself or be described by their profile. Or you just have a question. Why not?
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