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My self-summary
There really isn't enough space here to cover even the first few years of my life, so I'll keep this brief - if you want to know more about me, just ask. (I don't use the IM, so send a message).

I was diagnosed with synovial sarcoma a couple of years ago. So far I'm winning but you never know how long for, so I'm trying to make the most of every moment just in case they find something nasty on the next scan.

Most of the time I tend to be fairly easy going and optimistic, but now and then the black dog gets his teeth in for a while, thankfully the up side is very much winning these days. I bore easily so I try to keep myself busy and distracted as much as possible. That does tend to mean I'm pretty busy and don't have a lot of spare time but that's just the way I am. I'm doing an OU degree at the moment so prone to disappearing into my books depending on how soon the next assignment is due.

I'm kinky, polyamorous and pagan - so don't bother contacting me if you're narrow minded. I'm not evangelical about any of them, but I also don't hide what I am and that does have a tendancy to break brains. Please note that this does not mean that I am desperate for a shag and will automatically say yes to whatever lewd suggestions you want to make - I have several rather fabulous partners already so can get all the shagging I want without resorting to random strangers from okcupid. That's not saying I'm not open to offers, just that I'm only likely to accept really good ones! I'm definitely not looking for or interested in casual sex - friendship is far more important, so please don't bother messaging just to hit on me.

If that hasn't put you off completely you can also find me under the same username on Livejournal and facebook.

I am Poly, Heathen, and possibly Chocolate Flavoured
I’m really good at
Saying YES when a saner person would say NO! Wasting time online or roleplaying. Cooking delicious meals I can never repeat because it was all improvised. Making "stuff" (I knit chainmail for fun and dabble at any craft I can get the materials for). I'd like to think I was good at writing but I guess thats a matter of opinion - I've sold a few erotic stories that have appeared in actual books so I can't be totally awful, and I write LARPs for various roleplaying conventions. Some of which people even enjoy! I like long winding conversations and enjoy a good arguement but am pretty good at staying friends even while totally disagreeing with someone.

Other than that - try me :o)
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm short and tend to be a bit quiet in crowds or around folks I don't know so quite often folks don't notice me. Although if I'm wearing the right outfit or have added a corset the cleavage has been known to cause well known authors to walk into posts...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books - I'm a text junky, I read pretty much anything. but I guess the default setting for fiction is SF - Pratchett, Banks, Gaiman for preference, or Crime fiction and Mysteries (research for the Larps).

Movies - the Princess Bride and Rocky Horror are all time favourites, but I also love musicals.

Music - I like all sorts of music, but live is best.

Food - I like most food, especially anything spicy or tangy.
Six things I could never do without
Actually, I'm pretty good at doing without - but I don't suppose that's what the question is really getting at so...My glasses (I need to see), My partners, My friends, Access to the internet, a warm bed to snuggle into at the end of the day and something new and shiny to keep life interesting.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Life. What I'm supposed to be working on. The people I care for. Things I want to do. Fun things I've done recently. Why life is so unfair, What I can do to make things better.
On a typical Friday night I am
Out with friends, laughing and having fun - or on my way with one of my partners to somewhere nice for a weekend of hot sex and funtimes. Or maybe at home with hubby, watching the usual rubbish on TV and spending too much time online. Maybe at the local munch hanging out with my fellow kinksters. Maybe at the local comedy club. Maybe heading off to a gaming convention or prepping for a game.

Fridays are kinda fluid really - they depend on what else is planned that weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'll tell you mine if you tell me yours :)

I used to work as a human lie detector so I'll know if you're being honest with me!
You should message me if
You think you're someone I'd find interesting. You're not narrow minded. You can do silly as well as serious. You don't think that me replying to you automatically leads to a shag. You use real words and grammar not text speak. You have experience of synovial sarcoma especially if it's a positive story. You have suggestions for updates I should make to my profile.
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