47 Tucson, United States
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My self-summary
Interested in finding a win-win situation of reciprocal attraction and commitment with someone who is a cute girl-next-door type around my age, has whip-smart intelligence and similar values of intellectual curiosity, spiritual open-mindedness and fierce loyalty to friends and family. Fun stuff to do together includes cooking, teamwork instead of rivalry regarding housework, road trips, harmonious get-togethers with our respective families, immersion in books and movies and privacy at home and lots of free-ranging conversations on everything under the sun, and lots of get-aways to bookstores, outdoor and arts and culture-related activities and also vigorous exercise including hiking.

It would be nice to connect with someone who is fond of pets, children, somewhat introverted (not loud-mouthed or overly snarky), and also financially responsible, no serious addictions, not a religious or political extremist either left or right. Deal breakers would include talk about "Jesus (or any other religious/philosophical system) is the only way" or climate change or evolutionary science denial.


I was born in northern California, lived in Tucson until the late 70s (where I was raised in a hippie countercultural environment, but don't worry I don't reek of patchouli or b.o.), then we moved back east and I went to school, from elementary through high school, in the New England area. Then it was off to college in upstate New York and Boston, and then after some travels, I made my way back to Tucson in the early 90s. Among other things I am a writer, artist, parent, self-publisher, tutor, hyper-intellectual and favorable to mystically-oriented spirituality and NOT to fundamentalism or cultism in any of its forms.
What I’m doing with my life
Work seasonally as an educational scorer (standardized essay tests for national school boards) and regularly as a certified nursing assistant/caregiver (and on occasional weekends at group homes for developmentally disabled adults.) I intend to implement a more sustainable, debt-free lifestyle; and desire to continue with various creative and self-publishing projects (blogs, artworks etc.) and collaborate with like-minded people.
I’m really good at
Writing instruction, internet publishing, being a parent (despite some nerve-wracking challenges along the way), caregiving. I'm also a decent cook, wide-ranging conversationalist, stay in reasonably decent shape, and I'm tenaciously loyal to my best friends.
The first things people usually notice about me
I suppose it would be intensity, intelligence...and occasional gregariousness alternating with a tendency to muse and ruminate
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
"The Dictionary of Cultural Literacy" by E.D. Hirsch, poetry by W.B. Yeats, Will and Ariel Durant ("The Story of Civilization"), Joseph Campbell, Robert Anton Wilson, sales and guerilla marketing books by Jay Conrad Levinson and Mark Joyner, and many others. I read widely but almost exclusively non-fiction, including psychology, history, sharp cultural criticism such as Camille Paglia or Greil Marcus, and books which seek to bridge science and spirituality such as the works of Dr. Gary Schwartz and Rupert Sheldrake. Books about great artists like Gaughin, Picasso or Duchamp. Also, adult comic books and graphic novels such as by Bernard Krigstein, Harvey Kurtzman, R. Crumb, Jaime Hernandez and especially Alan Moore.

Films & Movies:
Marx Brothers comedies, "The Hustler", "2001: A Space Odyssey", "El Topo", "Paper Moon", "Apocalypse Now", "The Deerhunter", Star Wars series, "National Lampoon's Animal House", "Richard Pryor Live on the Sunset Strip", "Da Ali G Show", "American Splendor", "Art School Confidential", "Ghost World"

"Late Night With Stephen Colbert" , "PBS Newshour", Ken Burns documentaries (and not much else)

Van Morrison, Prince, the Rolling Stones & the Beatles, Bob Dylan, Burt Bacharach, Carole King, Blondie, 92.9 the Mountain (r.i.p.), Miles Davis & Sonny Rollins, "French Tickler" by Sonic Youth, the Replacements, Arcade Fire, the Rolling Stones, "Another Green World" by Brian Eno, "Flaming Red" by Patty Griffin and much more (like Renaissance guitar music). New delightful discovery: Vampire Weekend and "Live at Daryl's House"

Prefer Italian and Mexican
(NOT a dietary extremist)
Coffee, green tea and V8 juice daily
The six things I could never do without
1) Quality time with family and friends

2) Getting away from the suffocating city and getting immersed...at least once in a while...in nature (the top of Mount Lemmon, Gates Pass, etc.)

3) YouTube music video playlists

4) Caffeination

5) Mind-expanding books of my choice

6) Expanding and deepening my spiritual experience, which is based on the philosophy of religious "perennialism" ("Truth is one, the sages call it by many names")
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to merge my ideals with reality. Means goals vs. ends goals (how to get to where I want to be without selling my soul). Why and how people fall for deluded cult-like belief systems.
On a typical Friday night I am
Bopping around downtown, at Barnes and Noble, socializing with like-minded friends, etc.
You should message me if
In general, it's a dumb idea for any woman to initiate contact with a man online, as it makes attraction plummet and violates evolutionary psychology 101. But if you insist:

You feel that you are a genuinely kind, intelligent and dependable person...if you like my pics and profile and feel that we could vibe well together...(and if you know the difference between you're/your, then/than, they're/their/there and other elements of basic literacy which used to be more common back in the olden days).