59Ann Arbor, United States
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My self-summary
I'm part analytical, part creative. I'm outdoorsy and urbane. Esoteric and mundane. Archetypally male, and not-so archetypally male. Kids and jazz clubs are a lot of fun, but usually not at the same time. Port, stilton and roasted pecans are one life's small but exquisite pleasures, as is hot coffee on an early-morning beach. BTE, early morning is the best time to be up and doing, unless you are in bed listening to the rain fall. Conversation is good, but conversation with a bottle of Gigondas is better. Woody Allen is good, Shakespeare is better. Food tastes better outdoors, and with candle light. The harder the workout, the more virtuous and smug you feel when it's over. A dinner party - good food, drink, companionship and conversation - is a great way to spend an evening. There's no getting around the fact that high-end tee shirts feel better than Hanes's. It's important to do what you love, but no matter how much you love your work, your worst day fishing really does beat your best day working, especially when using a fly rod to chase trout. Every life has something interesting or noteworthy about it. Beauty matters, as does keeping the beer cold. It's good to run around with The Gang. Sex is good; sex with a hot girl is better; sex with the one you love is the best thing in the world. The hardest thing in the world is seeing Christ in people you really can't stand. You can't buy love, and life is mostly about relationships, but poverty isn't fun or glamorous. Professional achievement is empty without family and friends. Making any kind of music is a sacred experience.
What I’m doing with my life
My career has been in controllership and financial analysis in and around the auto business, with warmups in bartending, technical writing, public policy/budget analysis, and college teaching (econ & political economy). Since my late wife's death, I've left much that behind to re-build my family, retaining a small self-employed practice. My prior success has let me do this, but teaching my sons to enjoy their own lives, even as they miss their mother, is my proudest work to date (my respect for single working moms is unbounded). I've directed my son's education, been active at school, volunteered in scouts, and been Treasurer and Chair of the Trustees at my church. I write/comment extensively on local public issues, and ran for city council twice [ :-( ]. As my sons become more self-reliant, my professional life slowly ramps back up.
I’m really good at
Massaging your ego, & that spot that holds all your tension
Reading your sub-text, and figuring out your friends
Making rum-chocolate mousse, and finding creative ways to eat it
Analyzing a business and creating financial control systems
Numbers, generally, and expository writing
Public speaking, & teaching - before an audience, in a class, in life
Fly casting across the current, sailing, one-match fires, map & compass work, finding the trail, finding the line that will pass the canoe through the rapids, erecting the tent after dark, watching stars emerge from the deep blue late-twilight sky over wine or Constant Comment, listening to the crickets
Being Alpha Wolf for my sons, but letting them be themselves
Violin ... after I've practiced a bunch.
Scrabble, Euchre, and Monopoly (Bridge? OK)
Enjoying extended family when I can, tolerating them when I must
Rubbing the cat's tummy
The first things people usually notice about me
My sense of humor and my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Hunger Games, A Series of Unfortunate Events, The Odyssey, Middlemarch, Ernest Hemingway, The Short Stories of Scott Fitzgerald, Team of Rivals (Dorris Godwin), Churchill: The Last Lion (William Manchester), The Wealth of Nations (Adam Smith), Wayne Dyer, The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People, The Civil War: a Narrative (Shelby Foote), The Bible (even as literature), Stephen Ambrose, Winnie-the-Pooh, The Wind in the Willows, Robert Frost, Dylan Thomas, David McCullough

Film: Casablanca, The Treasure of Sierra Madre, The Maltese Falcon, Day of the Condor, It's a Wonderful Life, The King's Speech, Dr. Strangelove, Bourne Identity, Citizen Kane, The Third Man, The Kid, The Gold Rush, North by Northwest, Psycho, Borat, The Princess Bride, Animal House, Dead Poets' Society, Annie Hall, Gallipoli, The Great Race, The Thin Man, The Taming of the Shrew, A Night at the Opera, Breakfast At Tiffany's, The Road Warrior, Midnight in Paris, The Court Jester, The President's Analyst, Patton, One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, The Outlaw Josie Wales, Memento, King of Hearts, Blue Angel, Pandora's Box

Music: Bach, Beethoven, Gilbert & Sullivan, Glen Miller, Cole Porter, the Gershwins, Ella Fitzgerald, Sinatra, Dylan, The Beatles, The Rolling Stones, Crosby Stills & Nash, B-52's, Todd Rungren, The Cars, The Cure, Green Day, Johnny Cash, Jerry Lee Louis, Elvis

TV: Sponge Bob (my guilty pleasure), Seinfeld reruns, How I Met Your Mother. TV is mostly for movies, and sports.
Six things I could never do without
1) My sons
2) Time out doors. Hiking, sailing, canoeing, skiing, suba, fishing, sports, gardening, dining, the hammock, it's all good.
3) Ideas - political, scientific, literary, psychological, philosophical, religious, artistic - I need stimulation from both reading and conversation.
4) Intimacy - emotional and physical
5) Travel - I like seeing new people/places, and returning to favorites
6) Beauty - landscape, music, visual arts, emotional, fashion, decor,
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I spend a lot of time pondering what my next contribution to the world will be. Financial matters have been interesting, but I find that I am drawn more and more into public life, and to writing.
On a typical Friday night I am
There is no typical Friday night.

Bar Hopping
Eating out - Gratzi, Blue Tractor, Knights, Tios, Red Hawk, Griz Peak
Watching Disney's latest animated mess
Reading by the fire
Hangin' with buds
Listening to live music
At the gym
At a show
Driving up north
Skiing at Mt. Brighton
Playing Monopoly or Eucre
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
If I were willing to admit it, it wouldn't be private, would it? On the other hand, I'll admit that for the right relationship, I would consider raising a second family.
You should message me if
You like any of: conversation, coffee, a glass of wine, a movie, dinner out, dinner in, live music, people-watching, skiing, travel, the water, the woods, the opposite sex, being alive.
The two of us