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My self-summary
Beyond the simple adjective based summary, I am a happy healthy long time San Francisco resident. Witty banter and comfortable quiet are welcome when I'm around while banter is preferred.

I volunteer for San Francisco Sex Information to help spread free, anonymous, non-judgmental, and accurate sex information. I have been volunteering for 10 years and currently as a switchboard supervisor answering phone calls, answering emails, and most importantly, helping with the continuing education of new volunteers.

I work furiously hard in the tech industry, having spent most of my career jumping from one startup to the next until I helped build one of those into a medium sized company employing over 350 bright and talented folks.

Everybody thinks they have a sense of humor, so saying that is not a useful as knowing what makes someone laugh. My humor tends toward the offensive or bizarre -- the kind that push your buttons and force a laugh.

I love taking trips on my motorcycle, annually vacationing in South Lake Tahoe, Burningman, Mexico, and other destinations.

I love delicious, seasonal, fresh food and love eating at restaurants that serve the the very best. There's something extra delicious and nutritious about fresh foods brilliantly prepared by talented cooks that know how to combine ingredients to their fullest.

Quickest way to my heart: whiskey. Preferably bourbon.

I am articulate, pragmatic, and complicated
What I’m doing with my life
At the moment, I'm working on being the best person I can be. I have recently come in touch with myself in ways that I never saw as a young man. Still young at heart while emotionally growing has been my rewarding pursuit for the last year.

I picked up a new job so my life has moved from one of leisure to constantly being busy.
I’m really good at
Getting Things the Fuck Done.

Enjoying the insane amount sensual pleasure available in the world.

I have an uncanny ability to remember very precise details, while somehow forgetting large swaths of information such as where I rode on my bicycle last week.

Another strange talent I have is to dexterously catch objects which I have clumsily knocked over.

I play a mean bass guitar.

I am a VERY good friend to the ones I love.
The first things people usually notice about me
Not being the world's greatest empath, I can only guess based on the attention I have gotten when meeting people. They tend to comment on one of:

* my lip piercings

* my eyes

* my bald head

* my strikingly red goatee

* my chest

* my ass (Yes, I've caught folks checking it out! Bicycling does a body good.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love nerdcore!!! Geek hip-hop rocks my world right now. So many talented folks are putting out such good music rapping about what they know. I especially like MC Frontalot, Metamystiks, Inc., and Benjamin Bear. I'm an old school metal head, but enjoy almost any music which has an edge including hip hop and many forms of electronica. Looking through my music collection for things other than nerdcore, I appear to listen to Eminem, Lou Reed, Butthole Surfers, Metallica, The Pharcyde, White Zombie, Budgie, Primus, The Crystal Method, Apocalyptica, Black Sabbath, Cypress Hill, Dead Milkmen and Lords of Acid.

I love talking about food in general. Food is porn. Trust me. Juicy, hot, delicious lamb which you cannot keep your mouth from devouring. Meat is heavenly. I am a stellar cook, and can make just about anything, except I cannot fillet a raw fish to save my life. I love beets and crave goat cheese and beet salad topped with walnuts and a balsamic vinaigrette. When going out I seek either exquisite dining experiences like Coi, Mission Beach Cafe, Range, Harris', and Anchor and Hope or simple fare. I love spicy food like Thai, Indian, good Chinese, or sushi with a lot of wasabi. Anything with quality components and care in preparation sounds good to me. If you've never had a Sam's Sundae or the salted caramel ice cream from bi-rite cream you should go now and try it!

For books, I tend to prefer non-fiction since I find it more thought provoking than fiction. The most enlightening books I have read deal with human relations. The first, "The Social Animal" by Elliot Aronson was an excellent survey of aggregate human behavior. I also greatly enjoyed, "Leadership and Self-Decption" which is promoted as a business book while enlightening me more than any other book on interpersonal relations between people with shared goals. Great works tht everyone should read: "The Selfish Gene" and "The God Delusion" by Dawkins and "A General Theory of Love" by Lewis et. al.The non-fiction aside, I did recently enjoy "The Diamond Age" by Neal Stephenson.

I do not usually enjoy plot-free Hollywood blockbuster movies except on the infrequent occasion that I need a couple hours of escapism though there are some exceptions. I have a tendency to follow particular directors work such as the many fabulous movies from Burton and Gilliam. Favorite movies: Fight Club, Brazil, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas (the book is also awesome!), Pulp Fiction, Fargo, and V for Vendetta.
Six things I could never do without
Other than the pragmatic requirements for air, water, nutrition, shelter, community, and love:

* toothbrush, paste, and floss

* bicycle

* motorcycle

* coffee

* cheese

* music
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The people I love.

The end of the world.

I seem to spend a lot of time thinking about self improvement -- and not in some kind of pop self-improvement find it on oprah kind of way. Though I find a lot of inspiration in books, true improvement requires self-reflection and questioning of beliefs and behaviors and conditioning of the emotions.

Beyond that, I'm usually thinking about sex. But in those rare moments that my mind wanders to less fanciful thoughts I tend to think about engineering problems or some kind of puzzle.

That, and my motorcycle gang/sex education colleagues, the Fisting Pussies.
On a typical Friday night I am
Friday nights usually go one of three ways -- drinking and cavorting with friends, chilling at home, or preparing for a weekend of camping or hiking.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a pierced tongue and pierced nipples. That's not too private though -- they have shown up in pictures at parties.
You should message me if
...any of the following are true:

* If you like what you see and you're available for some uncomplicated yet occasionally deep, meaningful, and emotionally satisfying fun.

* You would like to get a cocktail some evening and chat.

* You are always the smartest person in the room and feel no need to prove it.

* You love science and nature and love to go on and on about it -- especially while hiking.

* You love bourbon and can drink it straight.

* You want practice American Sign Language ( ASL ) with me. I'm learning on my own and could use a partner.
The two of us