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My self-summary
"Who are you? Who who? Who who? I really want to know ..."

"I wonder what kinds of people a matching system would select for me." That's what I said to a friend who had moved far away when she told me that she had formed a pleasing new local social circle through OKCupid. She said "Check it out - now!". So here I am - not in the market for romance, but open to finding some interesting people. Does a high Match or Friend % mean much? Let's find out!

For what it is worth, I am a Myers-Briggs INTP.

I am inquisitive, playful, and patient
What I’m doing with my life
Recently I took up strumming the guitar with the modest ambition of being able to provide a rudimentary accompaniment to a few songs around a campfire. I am trying not to be annoyingly evangelical about it, but I now think that everyone should be issued a guitar at birth - it is surprising how quickly it can become fun. Give it a try ... you know you want to!

I am developing a hobby of recording Oral Histories. My repeating victi ... I mean "subjects": an elementary school teacher whom I interviewed monthly through the course of her first year of teaching; a college student whom I interview a couple of times a year, starting just before she began her freshman year; and a High School student who was homeschooled through eighth grade. I record interviews with these people about their perspectives on the paths of their life. The UP Series documentaries were a partial inspiration for doing this. I mainly think of the recordings as a gift for the person giving the interview - something which they will be grateful to have to look back on twenty years from now. Most of my subjects have been a little reluctant at first, fearing that they will have nothing to say during the interview, but two and three hours of tape later they want to know when we can do it again. For me, listening is not a passive state. These early Histories have gone so well that I look forward to expanding the project to include other friends and family members.

I am a Challenge Course facilitator, among numerous other things.

I don't really have much of a garden going, but I do know a thing or two about perennial gardening.

I rode my bike over the entire 175-or-so-mile public road system of my hometown in the Fall when I wanted something to motivate me to continue cycling as the weather turned colder. Weaving through the full length of all of those streets meant that I had to do many of them twice, and the biggest challenge was keeping track of which ones I had done and which were left to do. I did indeed finish before winter prompted me to put my bike away. Sure, it's a little OCD, but it was fun, too, and I saw parts of town that I had somehow never seen before.
I’m really good at
Seeing alternate perspectives, not assuming that I know what is going on for other people.

Remembering random, seeming pointless information. Forgetting what it was I was supposed to be doing this afternoon.

Losing track of time.

Having long, patient conversation.

Balancing the silly and the serious.

Explaining things.

Finding the essential points.
The first things people usually notice about me
I can usually contribute interestingly to a conversation on just about any topic: "Did you see that article about ....?" And if I have no information or insight to add, I might help you to realize that you have things to contribute that you hadn't even noticed. The topic of sports is probably the main exception.

With people who know me I often bust out with a few lines from songs whose lyrics relate to the conversation at hand.

If you see me out and about I am generally tidy, but any space that I control has lots of clutter. This puzzles some people.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
With some reluctance, since taste is a limited (but not useless) indicator of personality:

BOOKS Favorites: A Prayer for Owen Meany, Brideshead Revisited, Ender Saga (some people think it goes downhill after the first book; I think it gets better and better), Peace like a River, Handling Sin, If on a Winter's Night a Traveler; anything by Stephen Fry, Saki, or Ray Bradbury. In recent months I have read: the Harry Potter series (managed to not start until all the books were published), A Walk in the Woods, and the His Dark Materials trilogy. Fiction currently being read: Middlesex, Wuthering Heights (no - I never read it before) Non-fiction currently being read: Head Trip, Assault on Reason

I tend to savor books. Often the more I like one the longer it will take me to read it.

Favorite comics: Get Fuzzy, Dilbert.

MOVIES I went to my Netflix account and just grabbed some of the titles that I have rated with five stars: The Adventures of Buckaroo Bonzai Across the Eighth Dimension, Apocalypse Now, Batman Begins, Brazil, A Room With a View, Juno, Babette's Feast, Being There, Harold and Maude, Waking Life, Four Weddings and a Funeral, Magnolia, Memento, Sixth Sense, Brideshead Revisited (the 13-hour BBC version), The Up Series, Gandhi, The Full Monty, The Green Mile, The Matrix, Maurice, Mostly Martha, Napoleon Dynamite, The Professional, Shawshank Redemption, Repo Man, Tape, This is Spinal Tap, Wallaced & Gromit in The Curse of the Were-Rabbit, Breaking Away, The Usual Suspects, Name of the Rose (intend to read the book).

Even though some of the Star Wars movies are embarassingly weakly realized, I am stunned by the potential profundity of the mythology revealed by the saga as a whole: the idea of the seemingly-evil savior. I forgive the weaknesses of the films in appreciation of the meanings in the story. This might be a personality trait of mine: the right positive overshadows any negatives in regard to many things. That is to say: often some one quality can be good enough to make the whole pleasing.

FOOD I am not a vegetarian (though I think it is a good idea, for lots of reasons), but gourmet vegetarian food is a favorite of mine. I'm also especially fond of Indian food.

TELEVISION I almost don't watch TV these days, but recently I watched and especially enjoyed all episodes of the original, British version of The Office (just started watching Ricky Gervais' other series "Extras" on DVD). I can easily get hooked into an episode or two of Law & Order, and high on my all-time favorites list are Frasier, NYPD Blue, and The West Wing. (Like I said - I don't really watch TV these days.)

MUSIC I like music a lot, but I don't spend as much time listening to it as many people do. I think this is because my tendency is to listen attentively. Music as background doesn't always work for me. When I AM listening to music, usually that listening is the main thing occupying my attention.

My Stuck On a Desert Island recordings: Keith Jarrett's Koln Concert (I actually attended the will-be-legendary Carnegie Hall performance in 2005), Van Halen's 5150, The Hilliard Ensemble's Officium (early music chanting with saxophone improv - who thinks of these things?!), and Brian Eno's Music for Airports. Some other musical favorites: Cat Stevens, baroque keyboard music, Pete Townshend in any phase of his career (with or without The Who), early Joni Mitchell, Indigo Girls, Sammy Hagar, Renaissance choral music (love those tight harmonies!), Philip Glass. I have returned to Led Zeppelin recently after a hiatus prompted by over-exposure; damn! they really were good. Recent things that have grabbed me: the soundtrack to _Juno_, Alison Krause & Robert Plant's Raising Sand.

But really, there is a TON of music that I enjoy.
Six things I could never do without
1) Long conversations. Not every day, or necessarily every week, but it is very familiar to me to have three- and four-hour conversations. Longer is not unknown; 2) Friends who know me well; 3) Walking in the woods, at least now and then; 4) Quiet time; 5) A Moleskine notebook in my pocket (external hard drive for my brain); have been using them since before they were trendy. I like like them because of their materials and design; 6.1) The Mac OS. I like things that give the sense that somebody thought about how and why they should be made; 6.2) A good fountain pen: a) my writing looks better, b) ergonomics lead to lots of writing with less fatigue; 6.3) Camera - I suppose I could do without it, but the truth is that it is always with me; 6.4) In warm weather, my bicycle; 6.5) Maybe a rolling landscape .. I suspect that living in a flat place would numb my soul, but I'm not sure.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
States of Consciousness. Over the past few weeks I started being aware of dreaming again - almost every night - after none of that for several months or longer. No series of lucid dreams yet this time around, but I won't be surprised when they return. This all refreshes for me the question of whether I should return to school to study neurofeedback, which interests me greatly.

I studied Aikido for about nine years, and I wonder if it is time to return to it. It surprises me just how much I still think about it.

Learning/teaching/explaining/understanding/practicing I often find myself thinking about how school, lessons, and other suchlike situations and activities are done well or poorly, by teachers and by the learners.
On a typical Friday night I am
Contra Dancing - Well ... really I have done it only a few times, but I had a blast and look forward to doing it again. It is physical, mental, social - what fun! If someone ever invites you, just accept that you are going to go and be clueless and trip over your own and your neighbor's feet, laugh, and HAVE A GREAT TIME!

Playing a board game (such as Settlers of Catan, Pictionary, or Cranium)

Baking - usually with a group (ever do group cooking?)

If it is still light out and not too cold or wet, I could well be cycling. I am not too hardcore about it, but I do do it a lot. It is not so much about speed as it is about the meditative monotony of making those pedals go 'round and 'round. I like seeing the countryside go by, too, especially in the early evening when the light is golden and the shadows are long.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I might be living in the Matrix. Several people who know me well told me I NEEDED to see The Matrix before I eventually got around to it. They were not just saying that it was a good movie; they were saying that I - in particular - needed to see it. They were right.
You should message me if
We have a high match or friend %-age and you wonder what that might be about; or anything I mentioned here catches your attention.
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