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My self-summary
I'm going to say something now that I've wanted to get off my chest for a long time. A great number of you on here complain in your profiles about all the douchebags you have dated, and how all you want is a nice person who will treat you like you feel you deserve. Ok, that's perfectly understandable, we all want that. But I have to tell you ladies, some of you have made yourselves douchebag magnets. When you post pictures on here of you showing off your ass, or wearing lingerie, or pics down your shirt, you are the aforementioned douchebag magnet. Now, I love a beautiful woman, and I'll be honest, many of you are attractive and I don't mind seeing your assets. But do you want to know what the real men who are really looking for a relationship see? We think, 'Wow, she's hot, but it's obvious that SHE doesn't think she is good enough to attract a guy without showing off her body.' While the douchebags think, 'Wow, she's hot, I'd hit that. I'd better send her idiotic messages and pictures of my junk.' The plain truth is that if you don't respect yourself enough to let your profile 'sell' you based on who you are, rather than how you look, no one else will respect you either. A decent profile that you've put some thought into, along with pictures of you having fun or simply of your pretty eyes and smile tell the real men everything we need to know. The best part is getting to know you; we don't mind waiting to see the rest of you.

If you're still with me, here is a little about me:
I am looking for the girl next door with an edge; she's intelligent, takes care of herself, cares about her family and friends, she's her own person, laid back, low-maintenance, independent, and has that beautiful smile. She might even have a tasteful tat or peircing or two. She can appreciate a guy who is tough, always considerate, hardworking, witty, and educated. She appreciates being spoiled, but never expects it.

Things that I LOVE, not necessarily in any order:
My family. My pets (I haven't lived a single day of my life without a pet, although college overseas and Navy deployments have temporarily separated us). My friends. My job. Rainy Saturday mornings sleeping in, followed by a warm sunny afternoon spent outside doing anything at all. A strong cup of coffee. A dry red wine. A quality beer. A unique scotch or vodka. Cooking new food creations for family and friends. Our country. All music- especially live music. Traveling to new places. Seeing, doing, or eating anything new. Building things. Destroying things. Making new friends. Working with my hands. Sunsets at Pearl Harbor. Helping people. A beautiful smile. Sitting on the deck out back by the fireplace on a cool, starry evening, a glass of wine in hand, cuddled up with someone I love (it's been a long time since I've done that though...)

Things that I DISLIKE, not necessarily in any order:
Inconsiderate people. Idiocy. Rudeness. Liars. Mud. Forgetting about the
leftovers in my fridge. People who will not try anything new. People
who resort to personal attacks on those with whom they disagree, rather than making a well thought-out point. People who are easily manipulated by the media and can not - or refuse to think for themselves. People who take advantage of others. My number ONE dislike has to be: People who will not take responsibility for their own actions, their families, their communities. I am not happy with the direction our country is headed. "Where are we going, and why are we in this hand-basket?!?"

I like to be in charge. I ALWAYS return the shopping cart, even if that means walking it all the way back into the store - in the rain. I have no problem admitting my mistakes, and I am a firm believer that our society has lost its’ focus on personal responsibility. I’m very loyal to my friends. I love my free time.  I’m not easily offended. I don’t remember the last time I was angry. I NEVER litter. I think I have an excellent understanding of human nature and motivations. My BS sensor works great. I only date one person at a time, because if I like you enough to go out with you, I'm willing to give us a shot.  I am very honest. I have a strange sense of humor. Sarcasm is my friend. I frequently shine my shoes. I DO NOT take myself too seriously; and believe that people who do should lighten up!

I spent 6 years in the Navy and Reserves, doing finance and accounting work, mostly the Pacific Fleet, then finished up in the SeaBees (CBs = Construction Battalion = Dirt Sailors). I joined after the September 11th attacks. I went in enlisted rather than officer even though I had 3 college degrees already. Going through boot camp with kids right out of high school 8 years younger than me was an experience. Between being in the Navy and going to college in Ireland, I've been all over the world.

I've been told that I am a really great cook and I love to entertain and introduce my friends to new foods, wines etc. I sometimes read cookbooks for fun, and have subscriptions to a few foodie mags, but I have NEVER in my life cooked from a recipe. I believe that a recipe is more of a suggestion than instructions. Sunday dinner parties are my favorite part of my week.

I love to get my hands dirty. I actually enjoy working in the yard or fixing things. I take pride in having the best kept yard in the neighborhood.

Your mastery of proper grammar and spelling is a must. If you don't know the difference between your and you're, there, their and they're, etc., we may not get along. I am not a picky person, nor am I hard to please, but these are things that Irritate me. Don't get me wrong, your having an extensive formal education is by NO means a requirement of mine, however, your ability to function effectively in civilization IS.

If you've read this far, you get bonus points.

If I sound like someone you might like, let me know. Even if it doesn't work out for us romantically, maybe we will have made a new friend.
What I’m doing with my life
I work in the energy industry. I perform legal work relating to leasing and contracts on land where exploration companies want to drill for oil or gas, run a pipeline, or build a wind or solar farm. My education consists of Associates degrees in both Business and Psychology, a Bachelors degree in Economics, and pursuing a Masters degree in Energy Law.
I’m really good at
Cooking, public speaking, building or fixing just about anything, useless trivia -(I'll kick anyone's ass at trivial pursuit)
The first things people usually notice about me
Hmmm... I don't know. You tell me?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
This is but a partial list; see my FB page for more.

Empire of the Sun
Legends of the Fall
Boondock Saints
Zombie Land

The Cure 'Just Like Heaven'
Third Eye Blind 'Hows it Gonna Be?' and 'Motorcycle Driveby'
The Cranberries 'Yeats Grave'
The Smiths 'How Soon Is Now?'
Death Cab For Cutie 'I Will Follow You Into The Dark'

The Game of Thrones series
Pearl S. Buck 'The Good Earth' (and its' sequels)
Jane Austen 'Northanger Abbey'
Alexandre Dumas 'The Count of Monte Cristo' (the movie sucked)
Richard Wright 'Native Son'
Aldous Huxley 'Brave New World'
Joseph Conrad 'Heart of Darkness'
Ayn Rand
Edgar Allen Poe
W.B. Yeats
Walt Whitman
I read all 1300 pages of Tolstoys 'War and Peace' last winter; it would have been much better had it left out about 600 pages of filler!

Anything ethnic; Especially Thai, Sushi, Italian, German, etc.
Six things I could never do without
This one is tough. I've been places around the world, seen and done things that make me appreciate everything I have. There is very little that I can't live without because I've been amongst those who literally have nothing. However, it would be painful to live without my family and pets.
You should message me if
I seem like someone you would like to talk to...
The two of us