GenderfluidBoy
32 West Covina, United States
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My self-summary
I would love to meet all kinds of kinky, queer folks for friendship or fun, but I am primarily seeking a Top (interested in cis, queer, or trans women; just not into men) to get to know and physically connect with. I prefer to actually have a good rapport, friendship, and, ya know, respect, for the people I sleep with/play with. I am genderqueer/genderfluid, not a sissy or a crossdresser (I find femininity and expressions thereof empowering, not degrading or merely fetishistic). I am very happily attached to my primary partner, who is VERY much a sub. I'm all about meeting more subs of course (my Domme side is very primal and playfully sadistic) but I'm mainly looking for sensual switches/Tops (i.e. I'm not a masochist. Most types of pain don't do much for me overall. I'm almost vanilla as a bottom, haha. I want to be controlled, not beaten up).

Also, If I message you and you're not romantically interested but still think I seem like a good sort, please feel free to respond. I really could use more LGBTQ+ friends.

That said... Hi there!

Summary:

Composer/songwriter.
Genderfluid/Queer.
Goth...ish
Tall and skinny.
Cynical.
Goofy
Feminist (Intersectional; trans-inclusive; sex-worker inclusive)
Vegetarian (don't care if you aren't... but it's nice to at least have some ethics about your consumption)
Former religion academic (personally very spiritual, but skeptical).
HATE gender norms
Grew up on Star Wars and Star Trek (Yes, it's important enough to put this early in my profile!)

I'm Harley Quinn with less violence and more crotch bulge.

Long version:

I like symphonies, ballets, occasionally a rock or electronic concert; I like zoos, aquariums, and museums; I also like being around trees and driving long distances. When staying in I like old cheesy movies, reading, playing frivolous card or board games; Not a big fan of bars, clubs, and other noisy, crowded places (unless I'm performing in them and getting paid), although I will occasionally go to a goth club to dance.

I'm into cis women, queer/fluid/androgynous women, and transwomen. Basically just not into anyone resembling cis men. (I know these are not wholly comprehensive definitions, but I had to give some kind of idea, since I can't define my sexuality in simpler terms).

I'm pretty misanthropic, but I believe strongly in at the very least attempting to be compassionate. I'm not what you'd call a happy person, but I'll try to make you laugh no matter what mood I'm in. My heritage is primarily British, Russian, and Jewish... I mean, sweet Jesus, I was doomed from birth.

I've been studying religion for going on 15 years. I have a B.A. in Comparative Religion. Conservative religious fanatics and people who hate religion to an ironically dogmatic degree (anti-theists) are both pretty likely to have problems with me. I have my beliefs, but I maintain an agnostic personal philosophy in that I don't believe any "higher" questions of meaning, life purpose, or ontology will ever be answered in any empirical or objective sense, therefore imposing a theology or belief onto others is completely unethical and out of the question. And as far as the mechanics of this world, I do believe science gives us the best answers. I'm not a blind believer, nor am I a rationalist. I'm like... a skeptic who prays and meditates.

I don't drink or use any drugs. I don't judge people who drink or smoke weed if they can handle themselves. But annoying drunks and stoners are just so... well... fucking annoying.

Play me off, Larry! *cue out-of-tune ragtime piano*
What I’m doing with my life
Composing and recording music, and attempting to find artistic fulfillment while making money. It's tricky. Stereotypical starving artist right here!

Learning to navigate the raging cloud of pure evil that is independent marketing for my projects... so, so evil.

Currently working on the soundtrack of an amazing audio drama.

I play piano, bass, guitar, accordion, ukelele, balalaika, and trumpet passably well. I have a flute that I was thinking of giving a try; I mean flutes are pretty phallic, so it would be more Freudian than anything else I play.

I was learning Russian (because of my heritage), but switched to Spanish for more pragmatic reasons, and will return to Russian someday.

I teach yoga and meditation occasionally, and I work at a yoga/pilates studio.
I’m really good at
Writing music. Goofing around onstage. Memorizing random facts about animals, religion, sociology, and the dialogue from movies that I watch way too often. Seeing so many sides of an issue that my opinions and insights become neutralizing and pragmatically useless
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm tall and very thin. Hard to miss that.

I'm 6'2'' with the ghostly white pallor of Northern Europeans and Slavs, and depending on where you find me, I might be the tallest person in the room wearing a dress or I might be the tallest person trying to blend in by presenting as a cis man out of social anxiety.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
-Books-
Religion (academic and scriptural). Sociology. Anthropology. Russian history. Lamb: The Gospel According to Biff, Christ's Childhood Pal. Harry Potter. The Millennium trilogy. LOTR. Calvin and Hobbes. Sherlock Holmes. Dracula. Neil Gaiman. Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. Hellboy/BPRD comics. Harley Quinn comics. Some Batman. I was a theatre kid, so I'm still a sucker for Shakespeare, but prefer watching it to reading it (they're fuckin' plays, after all).

-Movies-
I was practically raised on Star Wars and Star Trek... I'm grateful to my parents for this. British comedy (Richard Curtis, Monty Python). Kevin Smith. The Marx Brothers. Universal classic horror (Dracula, Frankenstein, Wolf Man). The Muppets (but NOT the Jason Segal movie. Don't bring it up... just don't...).

-TV-
The Addams Family, Star Trek, 90s sitcoms (Titus, Dinosaurs, NewsRadio, 3rd Rock from the Sun, etc.), British sitcoms (Spaced, The Good Life, Fawlty Towers, etc.). Sherlock Holmes (the Jeremy Brett series and movies). Bob's Burgers (can't believe I like something current!) The 2016 elections have prompted to watch a LOT of Larry Wilmore, and I'm eternally grateful to him for that sweet catharsis.

-Music-
Some favorites: Marilyn Manson (favorite artist), Nine Inch Nails, Depeche Mode, Rufus Wainwright, Scarling, Jack Off Jill, Tchaikovsky (favorite composer), Shostakovich, The Cure, The Beatles, Scott Joplin, Flogging Molly, Prokofiev, Rob Zombie, Tech N9ne, Peaches, Yusuf (Cat Stevens), Squirrel Nut Zippers, Joby Talbot, FKA Twigs, Black Sabbath, Russian folk music, and a little bit of everything else. Yup, even country, before the great collapse of the post-Garth Brooks era.

-Food-
Thai, Indian, Greek. I've been a vegetarian for 15 years, and that ain't gonna change. On top of that I have a pretty screwy digestive system, so I'm not a very adventurous eater.
The six things I could never do without
Friends / family
The smell of trees
My instruments and something with which to record them
Spirituality / philosophy / utter existential misery
Affection
Decompression time
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How Yoda came to sound like he was a peasant from Elizabethan England.

The ultimate answer: 42.

Is listening to Isaac Hayes while browsing OKCupid a bad idea?

Why so many people on this site think sarcasm is a skill. I mean, most people have mastered verbal irony by the age of 8 or 9.

Oh God, a bunch of apes escaped from the zoo and they're running around with guns!! Oh God, they've lost their hair! Oh God, they're standing upright!! ... Oh God.

When people say they should've been born in a previous era, I always want to ask, "Is it the cholera, the small pox, the lynchings, or the legislated sexism that you find most romantic?"

"Why the fuck is it so hard to make the cymbals sound right in this song? ARGH!!!"

The Oxford comma, and its usefulness.

Why I'm 32 years old and still think Beavis and Butt-Head are so damn hilarious.
On a typical Friday night I am
Providing the musical accompaniment for an improv troupe, writing or recording new music, relaxing at a friend's house, roughhousing with my friends' kids (I'm the uncle that gets beat up a lot), seeing an orchestra or a ballet, staying in because I'd rather go out on weeknights when there are fewer people around, laying on my couch with a book or a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have social anxiety and general anxiety. I also have depression (to make things even more fun!) Because of this, I need a little more downtime than most folks, and I need to decompress after socializing a lot, but I'm still a very sociable person when I've got the energy, and my friends seem to like havin' me around. I can be a real cave dweller at times.
You should message me if
-- You have a compassionate heart and a goofy side.

-- You like skinny bodies (behold my mighty ribs!!)

-- You want to go see a ballet or a symphony.

-- You're a feminist (intersectional and trans-inclusive!), sex-positive, preferably kinky, and like to talk about your sexual preferences and desires before engaging physically with a potential partner (Communication! It's a good thing!)

-- You don't expect me to "be the man," or any such binary nonsense, just cuz I was born with a dick. Let's be a couple of weirdos together, eh?

-- You like goth or goth-ish stuff, or can readily embrace that I always default to black clothes and makeup.

-- If I randomly yelled "Duck season!" and you know the appropriate retort to this... oh God, please message me.

--If you haven't stopped questioning things.

-- If you still possess some genuine compassion for other people and sentient beings, despite the fact that we all might be nothing but a bunch of meaningless amalgams of atomic stuff, haphazardly tossed across the void by the Watchmaker (...whoops, my cynicism slipped out there).
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