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My self-summary
I think with the last two questions I encountered on OKCupid, I've heard the fat lady sing. (Right in my ear. She wasn't at all subtle.) I also think OKCupid Profiles have come to serve me as anecdotal antidotes to my occasional morning encounters with the obituaries. There are interesting and worthwhile people out there, just beginning their lives. It's encouraging. An anecdotally informing view of the way the world is progressing.
Retired 08/01/2013, concluding 30 years as a psychiatrist in a public clinic, with a bit of a focus in forensics. My time with patients had been gratifying. The bureaucracy, paperwork, IT, and soulless insurance companies, Hell. Once I've gotten my "sea legs" (I keep discovering new little odd anxieties, such as that someone's going to realize I haven't been going to work and there will be consequences), my plans include building a house and completing a work of moral philosophy I've been laboring at for 40 years—though not before some more celebrating!

I am Funny, Analytic, and Open.

My openness encompasses honesty. About "My Details" to the right. I used to be 5'9", then multiple neck traumas—a couple in cars, numerous with patients—and age produced "shrinkage." I'm actually somewhere between the two heights now. You'll note the Body Type given is "overweight" because—I am, by contemporary health standards, overweight. The pictures which many provide, while describing their body type as "a little extra" or "curvy" suggest I may be doing myself an unnecessary disservice. Oh well, it won't be the first time and it won't be the last. I do not have any children. I love dogs that I love, and like most well enough, but I'm partial to cats and have only met one that I couldn't stand. I had high school French—or did it have me? I took three terms of Russian (I loved Dr. Zhivago) and these were the lowest three grades of my college career. So I'm not fluent in anything besides my native tongue.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to be Helpful. Enjoying Others and Ideas.
I’m really good at
Emotional Intimacy. Inciting Laughter. Creative Critical Thinking. Solving Problems.
The first things people usually notice about me
My energy, my irreverent humor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I've read a lot in connection with my interests and at work, so I don't read for "fun." Nietzsche's "Gay Science," Rawl's "A Theory Of Justice," Hart & Honore's "Causation And The Law," Mill's "On Liberty," Wittgenstein's "On Certainty," I get my Narrative needs met by films.

I love Vivaldi, Corelli, Handel, Arvo Part, Tom Waits, Nine Inch Nails, Richard Shindell, Aimee Mann, Joan Armatrading, Jennifer Warnes, Randy Newman, Linda Ronstadt, Emmylou Harris, Suzanne Vega, Frank Sinatra, Michael Nyman, Philip Glass, John Gorka, Reba McEntire, Jackson Brown, Chet Baker, Hazel Dickens, Doc Watson, Simon & Garfunkel, James Taylor, Carly Simon, Elvis Costello, and hundreds of others (context of 3,400+ "Albums")

I have a few hundred favorite movies (in the context of owning 17,000+ DVD's/Blu-ray's), but some of my very favorite would be Capra's It's A Wonderful Life, Mr. Smith Goes To Washington and Meet John Doe, To Kill A Mockingbird, Kurosawa's High & Low and The Seven Samurai, Fearless (1993), Searching For Sugarman, Field Of Dreams, Hitchcock's Rear Window, Vertigo and Shadow Of A Doubt, Out Of Africa, Unforgiven, Se7en, Simon Birch, Manhunter, Groundhog Day, Blade Runner, 7 Days In May, The Piano, Whale Rider, The Wedding Crashers, Mr. & Mrs. Smith, Out Of The Past, Red River, To Have And Have Not, Annie Hall, Fight Club, Angels & Insects, The Bad Lieutenant, Avalon (1990), Spartacus, A Clockwork Orange, Gladiator, The Ugly Truth, The Imitation Game, To Be Or Not To Be, Wings Of The Dove, Titus, Deep Impact, The Kingdom, Bridesmaids, This Land Is Mine, The Mortal Storm, The Man Who Shot Liberty Valance, Solaris (1972), 50 First Dates, Tangled, Up, The Incredibles, Beauty And The Beast, Miracle On 34th Street (1947), The Cook, The Thief, His Wife & Her Lover, The Manchurian Candidate (1962), Lolita (1962), The Nightmare Before Christmas, 'V' For Vendetta, Camelot, A Man For All Seasons, The Lady Eve, Becket, Dr. Zhivago (why I took Russian in college), Lawrence Of Arabia, Paths Of Glory, The Train, Fresh, Searching For Bobby Fischer, The Day The Earth Stood Still (1951), Master And Commander: The Far Side Of The World, When Night Is Falling, Christopher Nolan’s Dark Knight Trilogy, Babette’s Feast, Twelve Angry Men (1957), The Verdict, The Conformist, Avatar, Adam's Rib, Jean De Florette & Manon Of The Spring, Hero (1992), Hero (2002) ... I could go on for a long time.

I am also a fan of the television: The Big Bang Theory, Alias, Frasier, The Black List, Firefly, Medium, NCIS, Boston Legal, Ally McBeal, Castle, Justified, Veronica Mars, Downton Abbey, Will & Grace, Hannibal, Star Trek: Classic, TNG, DS9, Voyager, even Enterprise, Babylon 5, lots of others stretching back to the dawn of time--or at least of the CRT.

Coffee. Champagne. Coffee. OJ. Coffee. (Keurig's: Tully's House Blend and Timothy's Rainforest Expresso [sic])

I don't look forward to Mexican Food—though I'd "come with." Otherwise, if it's well done, I'll probably be made very happy by it. Italian, Chinese, Japanese, French, Seafood, whatever. Eggs Benedict, Campbell's Cream of Tomato with Ritz Crackers, French Toast, Bacon, Salmon, Eel, Hot Dogs ...
Six things I could never do without
Close Friends
Strong Coffee
Stronger Feelings
Daily Movie
My MacBook Pro
Attentional Autonomy
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything and Anything that crosses my path.
On a typical Friday night I am
—out at dinner & a movie with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't think the most private things I'm willing to admit, would be permitted here.

Oh wait, here's an embarrassing one: when I read the profile of a woman on OkCupid that I'm finding attractive and interesting, if her age range extends to 45, I get excited--because I have momentarily forgotten that I am 15 years beyond that limit. And what's really embarrassing is that I do this repeatedly.

I've got another one: male cats treat me as though I'm a member of their fraternity, while female cats tend to hit on me. I kid you not. Once at a dinner party the latter was so obvious that one of the other guests remarked it. It's the only time I ever recall blushing.
You should message me if
If you feel like it. (The age range is a probabilistic model for the improbable romantic connection. As regards just friendly interaction, age is irrelevant.)


Closing remarks:

OkCupid keeps urging me to expand my summary. If you would like more information, just walk the ground of the 2222+ answers I've given to the site's questions. I also 'splain a lot.

I must admit to some minor ongoing frustration, that the "Staff Robot" never seems to have read my profile, nor yours. The "Quiver Matches" it comes up with boggle my mind. Have you noticed this too? OkCupid: if you're not even close, don't bother. Of course it may be the act of a desperate program, unable to provide a solution to the problem I constitute and unwilling to return to The Source.

When I looked at the "Personality" section in my own profile, I howled. I admit to feeling a bit insulted. You should check out your own ratings, but first I need to take issue with a few of OkCupid's "off" results:

[One woman wrote me with "concern"—and since she didn't provide any details, I'm guessing that it was the section that follows which engendered that "concern." I will therefore remark for those who would need such a clue, that much of what immediately follows about my response to OkCupid's characterization of my Personality was written for fun—mine if no one else's.]

Most of the people I know regard me as substantially "more aggressive" than the average bear. Literally, a bear. I'm intense and interventionist, although focally so. I go after situations I think need going after in the manner of a pit bull, and I am no respecter of convention, position, or thuggery. Although if we're talking about knuckle-dragging and bar-shoving, that would not be me.

"More conventionally moral"—I'm hurt. I guess I cover a lot of that ground as well, but it's a point of personal integrity that I'm unconventionally moral.

OkCupid's rated me as a little "more organized" than average—I'm selectively organized to the minute and the millimeter. Admittedly, what I'm not concerned about I let take its own course (hence the more accurate sloppy rating, though I hardly think it stands out so prominently in my existence as OkCupid's Bar Graph tattles).

It's kind of OkCupid to rate me as only a little "more arrogant," because I'd suppose myself a worse offender, but I'll concede, for the sake of the site's credibility. Alternatively, if I really am only a little more arrogant than the average male, then I'm embarrassed for my gender.

Also rated as only a little "more experienced in love" than the average male. I've been in love at least three times, twice of the heart-wrenching, keep-bleeding-for-a-decade type. And I'm a shrink, so I've really really thought and thought and felt and felt and understood the shit out of those experiences. I also have a lot of professional vicarious "experience" of love relationships. If, on the other hand, this is only a euphemism for sexual experience, then I would have no complaint with their rating. I've been selective.

I'm actually "more ambitious" than anyone I've met, although it's intellectual rather than economic ambition—so again, perhaps a definitional difference.

We're then ok until the "Less Independent" rating. If OkCupid is referring to some quality of men in relationships to not care what the impact of what they're doing is on their significant other, or just "others," I am indeed not independent in that sense. But in the most plausible sense of the term, I am and have always been enormously and painfully independent. I always do what I decide I will do, and I don't give a crap about whether "it's done," or how it's seen, or what parts of the sky will fall on me. I don't look to others to decide what's right or what's enough.

As for "Less Adventurous," adventure is where you find it.

Finally, "Less Energetic." It's true that I don't feel any need to be up and running about like a headless chicken in order to feel productive, and my pleasures are more contained and attentional, but when energy is required in some pursuit, I'm dogged. The longest I was ever up at a task without sleep was 96 hours (1975) at the conclusion of which I drove 3 hours in a blizzard at night, the second longest was 72 hours (1985) writing a 43-page Policy on End-of-Life Medical Care, and while those were admittedly a while ago, within the last 5 years I've regularly done sleepless marathons of 48-56 hrs., doing things I've decided to address. During the July 2010 Holiday weekend I worked a full day Friday, had a few hours off for dinner and a movie and then worked at the hospital from 11pm Friday through Tuesday morning at 8am—and then went back to work at the clinic until 5pm Tuesday. Now it's true I did get to sleep when I had no patient to see, but we're still essentially talking about Friday + a continuous 89 hour shift. Is that really un-energetic? BBBTHTHTH!!!!—consider that a large raspberry blown at OkCupid's interpreters of chicken entrails.
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