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My self-summary
Ok... It's that time of year again folks.... Every birthday I try to update this profile to keep it fresh and current. Well current for a few days st least. Lol.

Hey! I am Darken Luvlee and I reside in Washington, DC.

I am 5'4"ish. :) (this is only funny if you've read my previous profile). I weigh somewhere between 196lbs and 200lbs... yeah I'm a thicky-thick one, but I wear it well and I'm proud of every roll and cellulite dimple. It took me 45 years and a whole lot of fat grams and calories to get this body to look the way it does and I'll not disrespect a minute of that effort by displaying signs of low self esteem. If you don't like fat girls, keep steppin'! If you don't appreciate me at my worse your sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. Love me for who I am or watch me walk away.

I'm 45 years old and some days I feel it. Other days I feel 25 and occasionally I feel 105. But every day I LOVE life. Not mine, someone else's, but love it just the same. Actually that is a total lie. I love my life too... most days. There's always those days where I wish something was different, but the fact that I am alive enough to wish for more is a blessing all it's own. And now I'm happy again.

This year's motto: wearing 45 like it's 25. #45likeits25

I think it's only fair to warn you that I am deep in the throes of a Peter Pan complex and I refuse to grow up. I'm a Toys-R-Us kid and fully intend to stay that way well past the time when my grandchildren have grandchildren.

I am a Gemini. I also happen to have the audacity to be born on the cusp (May 21) so I can also be considered a Taurus. Basically this means that my multiple personalities have multiple personalities, and they are moody. and stubborn. But I'm a fantastic lay. You never have sex with the same person twice *wink* (still true)

I have met some great folks here on OKC. I haven't had time to develop any meaningful dating relationships here as of yet, but I have made some truly awesome friends. They are what keep me here. Every time I start thinking about shutting down my page I meet some great person who becomes a great friend and I end up sticking around because they have renewed my faith. I did meet one person here that I am kinda crushing on, but he's friend-zoned me, so there that is... Yes Trius... I'm talking about you, dammit. LOL... (he's gonna kill me for that). UPDATE: Trius has moved me out of the friend zone. Neither of us really like labels so we don't label it. I love him, he loves me and we enjoy each other's company. Nuff said.
What I’m doing with my life
Most of this section is still the same.

Crushing on Trius, mostly these days...

Well that and I am an event planner for the fundraising department of a non-profit healthcare organization by day. I get to throw fabulous parties and sporting events to raise money for a great cause. That's my "Clark Kent" diguise.

My husband and I are swingers and hedonists and generally are considered freaks by our "vanilla" friends LOL

**NOTE:** Okay... for heaven's sake, people... "vanilla" doesn't mean WHITE... it means plain, average, normal, no spice, not given to experimentation. Black people can be vanilla. It's a term us alternative lifestylers use to describe non- alternative lifestylers... why does everything always translate to race?? **:END NOTE!**

I am also intrested in the poly lifestyle. Contrary to the belief of those who don't know, swinging and polyamory ARE NOT the same thing. It is entirely possible to have sex with someone without being in love with them, and it is entirely possible to be in love with more than one person but not want to have sex with anyone other than those you are in love with. Research before you form an opinion.

Anyhoo... back to the poly thing. I have always been the type of person who could be in love with more than one person at a time and for years thought that something was wrong with me or that it meant that I wasn't really in love with any of the people I claimed to love. So when I ran across the term (decades ago - wow. I'm so mad I can say that now. Jesus, I'm old) I was thrilled to find out that I was not the only one.

I have found that while I enjoy the swing lifestyle, and have made lots of friends who have become very dear to me, it lacks a certain ... "something"... if there are no feelings involved. This is a strange turn of events for me since all my adult life I have always been the "sex w/ no strings" type of girl. Some would call me a slut. I prefer the term "sexually liberated"... (LOL). But when I fell in love with my husband and we got married, suddenly my views changed. Sex is good as long as you have a good partner... but it's SO MUCH BETTER if you are in love with that partner too... *big ol' grinz*

Oh my... am I rambling?? I'm rambling... sorry...
I’m really good at
Oh God!! I dont think there's enough room here to list everything... *wink*


Just kidding, not sure what I am good at really... hmmm

Let me get back to you

OH! Talking... incessantly...real good at that. *rolling my eyes at my own dayum self*

And I'm an amazing event planner. I mean I always knew I had a knack for it and enjoyed doing it for family and friends. But now that I get to do it for a living, everyday, with adequate resources, I am finding that I'm very talented at it. And I love it. I have found my "thing". My true calling.
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes and smile... oh wait no.. my tits... then my eyes and smile. LOL
No... correction number two, that I'm black... then my tits... then my eyes and smile. :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Love Fantasy/Adventure, science fiction and some romance novels.
Favorite authors (right now) are Terry Goodkind and Sherrilyn Kenyon

Love all kinds of movies, especially thrillers, comedys, and dramas
Favorite movies right now are Snatch, Princess Bride, Wizard of Oz (all time fav) and I Robot
OMG!!! Really??? It's soooo time to update this list... okay hmmm
Harry Potter, LoTR (is my inner geek showing?), Fools Rush In (I am a chick after all... most of the time anyway), I Am Legend, Alvin and the Chipmunks, anything with Channing Tatum no matter how bad it is (he's dead sexy to me these days), Charlie Hunnam, Kit Harrington, Pirates of the Carribean and a ton of others that I don't have the patience to list...

I'm fat.. that means I like to eat. Only food I don't like is Indian (too spicy) and Thai.

Favorite foods... Soul food, lasagna, seafood
Six things I could never do without
My husband, my kids, my ps3 w/ a internet connection, My PS4, my iPad, bottled water and my HTC One. And my ability to count.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to sync doing what I love in a place that I love... haven't quite figured that out yet but I feel I'm on the edge of a breakthrough... I definitely need a new job. I love what I do, just not where I do it.

Expanding my horizons...

and my checkbook

Tri... oh hell, y'all get the point.. I'm sure he does too... I'm just gonna drop it now... (LOL)
On a typical Friday night I am
Either inside playing video games or preparing for one of the swing parties we are either attending or throwing.

Occasionally, I go out and take in some Karaoke, or a movie. But my car is busted right now so basically I just stay home and get fatter... *shrug*
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a fetish for gay porn... it's so sexy to me... it's my guilty pleasure... along with Sherrilyn Kenyon romance novels... but only the Dark Hunter/WereHunter/Dream Hunter series though... LOL

OH and I'm a sucker for tall men with dark hair and green eyes... not sure why.

Oh and I am equally a sucker for tall men with dreads and body piercings... LOL
You should message me if
~You feel you could be involved in a polyamorous relationship and are interested in actually getting to know someone and not just have sex with them.

~You like meeting new people and making new friends, no matter how platonic (non-sexual) they may be. :)

~Your name is Trius.
The two of us