55Ferndale, United States
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My self-summary
First, the thing that could be a deal-breaker: I am Pagan. If you're curious as to my particular "brand", I'll be happy to give you more details. But if you're a serious Christian. Muslim, Jew, agnostic, or atheist, we likely won't have any common ground. (A relationship with an open-minded Buddhist or Hindu; or with someone who is "spiritual but not religious", might be possible.) As long as you can respect my spiritual beliefs, I will respect yours.

I am searching for a man who is expressive, kind, playful, flexible, and comfortable in social settings. I am open to new experiences and hope you would be as well. You do not need to share all my passions and interests, as long as you can respect my choices and are willing to compromise.

I would love to find someone who shares my love for travel! However, I prefer not to travel across the country to date you. I'm focusing on men in Michigan, northern Ohio, northern Indiana, and maybe Windsor.

I would prefer someone who does not have children, but am willing to compromise if they are fairly grown and independent.

I am a non-smoker -- any use of tobacco products (even the occasional cigar) is a deal-breaker for me.

To learn more about whether we'd be compatible, check our answers to the questions that OK Cupid offers. For now, I'll just sum up by saying that I'd like a man who is self-sufficient and responsible but young in spirit, with a sense of mission or desire for involvement in a cause larger than oneself.
What I’m doing with my life
Music is my passion! I love to write songs and perform. Although I do have a career separate from my musical endeavors.

I recently joined a gym and am doing strength training as well as taking various aerobic classes (Aqua Fit and cycling). I'm already seeing results and am working on revamping my eating habits. (The Clean Eating plan looks like the best option for me, although I don't plan to completely cut out eating at restaurants. Those instances are few and far between for me, anyway.)

In light of the current administration, I will likely become more involved in political activities dealing with women's and environmental issues. (I missed the Women's March on Washington the weekend after the presidential inauguration, but could see myself participating in a future march.) I would like for any potential dating partner to have similar political views, even if he couldn't himself be an activist.
I’m really good at
harmonizing with other singers. I play guitar well enough to accompany myself and provide rhythmic back-up in ensembles. I'm also a good writer -- not so much with fiction, but with writing songs and step-by-step instructions.
The first things people usually notice about me
are my hair and glasses.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Some books I've enjoyed include "The Fifth Sacred Thing", by Starhawk; "Women Who Run With the Wolves" by Clarissa Pinkola-Estes; "Strange Days : My Life With and Without Jim Morrison", by Patricia Kennealy-Morrison; "Eat, Pray, Love", by Elizabeth Gilbert; Jean Auel's "Earth's Children" series; and "God Is Not One: The Eight Rival Religions That Run the World--And Why Their Differences Matter" by Stephen Prothero. I'm currently reading the book "Runestone" by Don Coldsmith.

In general, I enjoy movies with these kinds of themes: musicians/bands; science fiction (especially time travel); counter-culture; and environmental/social justice. Horror movies of the blood-and-guts variety completely turn me off.

I currently wind down late in the evening with reruns of whatever comedies or sci-fi shows are broadcasting on commercial television (I'm one of those folks who has a converter box and antenna instead of cable TV, Roku device, etc.) One of my local stations has been broadcasting episodes from all of the "Star Trek" series (depending on my energy level, I may catch "Deep Space Nine" and "Voyager"). Once the new season starts, I'll likely start once again checking out "The Big Bang Theory", "The Flash", "iZombie", "Legends of Tomorrow", and "The 100". (Sometimes on my laptop the day after the actual broadcast.)

I especially like music from the 60s and 70s, although I also enjoy some of the current stuff. In terms of general styles, I prefer rock, folk, and some country music.

Cheese is one food I could never give up. In terms of cultural cuisine, I'm open to pretty much anything, except meat that came from any creature I might consider to be a pet.
Six things I could never do without
are my glasses, my guitar, my laptop, my cell phone, coffee, and the summer season. (I don't consider my family, friends, and three cats to be "things". 8-) )
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how I could simplify my life -- live comfortably while leaving less of a carbon footprint, and focusing on the things that matter (which aren't actually things).
On a typical Friday night I am
out having fun with good friends or (if I have no such plans) catching up on chores and reading at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
is that I will check Wikipedia when I'm curious about a book that I won't get around to reading, or about a movie that I'm not sure I'll get to see. (Don't worry, I don't give away any spoilers unless asked!) Recently, I think that saved me from the nightmares that almost surely would have resulted had I read all the way through the book "Bird Box" by Josh Malerman.
You should message me if
you have checked our answers to the questions that OK Cupid offers and can surmise that we are similar enough in terms of temperament and values to consider going out together. (If you've answered only a few questions, please feel free to answer additional ones -- the more, the better! You may be surprised by what you learn about me in the process.)

My profile is as detailed as it is because I don't want to waste your time. If you haven't already read all the way through my profile, please do so now. If you send me a question about something the answer to which is clearly stated in my profile, it will not reflect well on you. 8-)

Please include a recent photo of yourself; and please do not attempt a conversation if you are married or separated (i.e., not yet completely divorced). I am not looking for an affair or to be part of a polyamorous or open relationship. I am a one-man woman looking for a one-woman man.
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