39 Redlands, United States
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My self-summary
So, points about me:

I am seemingly shy, and possibly labeled 'weird'. It's actually just introversion. I am a deeply caring, polite person to everyone. I have many acquaintances! Very few people I consider a true friend though. Friendship is a title reserved for a relationship that withstands the test of time. I am a fiercely, faithful friend to those select few.

I am not concerned with wealth, or our current society's definition of success. I am concerned about being a better person to myself, and those around me. This is a very difficult ambition to have, considering it's a lifelong one. I think the results will extend well past my own lifetime, if I give a true effort though.

I am a dedicated father, to a daughter and son. I have my interests, and own needs; but they are my kids! Having grown up with deeply caring parents, I've experienced the strength it's provided me later in life. I hope to pass that along to my own kids, despite my love life not following the path my parents did as a couple.

Speaking of love life! It is something I've experienced in many forms. All of them great lessons, leading me to a better understanding of what love is to me. Passion, dedication, knowing when to compromise, and an open heart (+ ears!). My trusting nature, has led me astray before while getting to know someone. I want to meet someone who can be serious about a relationship, and treat my trust as something special and not fleeting.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to be a Blue Lantern!
Wait, what?!?!
Don't you mean Green Lantern?
Nope, Blue Lantern :)

"In fearful day, in raging night,
With strong hearts full, our souls ignite,
When all seems lost in the War of Light,
Look to the stars-- For hope burns bright!"

No, I am not forsaking work and responsibilities for play as a fictional character. It's a metaphor though for who I want to be.

You don't have to like the fictional material, to appreciate the joy of having hope!
I’m really good at
Accepting that it's alright to NOT accept BS anymore. I have done the whole chameleon phase in relationships with people. I still know that the core of a good relationship is compromise, and listening to a partner's needs, even when it seems they are speaking a different language. If the same isn't returned though, then it's just not meant. I wish all people well, even the despicable ones (homophobes, racists, sexist people, zealously religious fanatics , etc). I don't want to surround myself with intolerance though.

Chuck D said it very well: "If I can't change the people around me. Then I change the people around me."

I am pretty good at music trivia! Well certain genres more than others, but I am learning more all the time. Even when I don't know it, it's very likely I'll want to at least experience it. Music = soul food.

Taking a serious moment, and turning it into a lighter atmosphere is something I think I am good at :) I am not always turning something into a joke though. I can be serious, and share other, deeper emotions. I just choose to not live in a down-state of "life sucks!" for long if at all.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
BOOKS: Science-fiction, mystery, (other) fiction, did I mention science-fiction. I think I did....

MOVIES: I'll watch nearly anything in good company. Alone I will watch: action/adventure, comedy, sci-fi of course and because I am a parent children/family movies.

MUSIC: All of it speaks to me, and there is NO music I dislike. Just some I have to be in mood for to fully appreciate.

FOOD: Spicy is good! I will eat non-spicy also, and can be coerced into trying many types of food.
The six things I could never do without
- My children
- Integrity
- Music to listen to
- Family/Friends
- Imagination (mine or others)
- A good laugh, that brings me to tears
I spend a lot of time thinking about
"Ask yourself, how you want to live. Do you just take, or can you also give? It's up to you, which way to choose. If greed is your path, be ready to lose. Change your mind. You'll find open doors. If you're able to share, the world can be yours. They say I'm poor, but I don't feel the same. The capital I own, is to be in my name."

~ Pay With Friendship
On a typical Friday night I am
Not partying it up, but having a good time nonetheless.
You should message me if
Aren't arrogant. Can be reflective on your actions. Are curious. Curious about what is out "there". Have you looked at the stars in the night sky, and been in awe just how small we really are in a vast universe? Not insignificant though! We (humans) can be so much more then we currently are. If you can recognize we all have a part in making that future happen, I'd love to talk to you!

I chose 'short-term dating' as a possibility also, simply because while my heart is set for a long-term relationship; I understand there may be more lessons to learn in the short term before that goal is reached.