DarteousWaiter
26 East Glastonbury, United States
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My self-summary
I currently don't have a paid account, at the end of the year I'll buy a month of membership to see who's liked my profile over the years I've had it.

I enjoy traveling, learning, outdoors, scuba diving, motorcycles, fire-breathing, ballroom dancing, chan, and reading. I have no interest in religion. I'm a gluten free vegan. It's very hard to get me angry, and I try to be a helpful person and I'm always seeking to better myself. I intend to live a long time and at the very least make a dent in the world around me. So I read about nutrition frequently, And though bluntly honest to the extent of occasionally sounding insulting, I am almost always friendly :)

I'm originally from CT, USA but not certain where I'll end up. I think I may switch locations every five years or so. Africa or South America. five in states, five out.

I'm not a fan of the idea of moderation, because it's basically an excuse for apathy. So if moderation is something you're into then we're definitely not relationship compatible. I don't mean to say I'm by any means perfect, I have many flaws, (laziness and procrastination are my worst) just like everyone but I constantly try to be better, and that seems quite rare to me, most people don't seem to struggle to get better as a person. They just want to get by, uninterested in evolving.

Most of the time I'm unkempt, and I'm usually rather confrontational when it comes to things that I'm passionate about. I'm looking for someone very much like myself, very practical, primary field of interest most likely something scientific. I have what I believe is a light sarcastic sense of humor. I'm also judgmental. Read through my questions if you want a good idea of whom I am.

I am a bit clingy, at least I think I will be, never been in a serious relationship, and am very set on only ever being in one.

In love I am seeking someone that I could never feel any bit of disdain for. Interestingly enough I was recently reading the book Blink and they pointed out that that worst of the four horsemen in relationships is contempt. I have more than the average number of rare standards that I have set for myself and whomever my lover turns out to be should I meet her. Picky would be an understatement.

Ideally I'm looking for someone within 7 years of age. Definitely no more than 10. But I've found that people can't contact you if you're outside their age requirements so I've set it to 18-99 since I don't mind speaking with whomever.

After doing a bit of reading I'm fairly certain I have Puritanical OCPD (obsessive compulsive personality disorder) or Principled Perfectionism. I'm pretty sure I will need to be with someone who also has this disorder. Though I'm not so sure that I see it as a disorder to be obsessed with doing the right thing. Well at the very least I have a number of the symptoms of it.

On Parks' Purple-Red Scale I am a E0 and am seeking someone who is too, I'd also consider a D0
What I’m doing with my life
Always keeping an eye out for a girl that is let's say more than a bit rare.

I'm taking a class to be an EMT.

Working the season at home Depot until I finish my EMT course.

learning, planning, loving... (been struggling a bit more than usual with my pessimism, so not quite as loving as my usual self)

setting my life up to become the man I want to be.

I've decided that my area of specialty will be blood. focusing first on nutrition and maybe later on, genetics. So I will go about getting educated in that. I'm also very interested in renewable energy, but it will be some time before I do much studying of it.
I’m really good at
Traveling on a budget, I was quite poor when I did my trip, not record breaking, but less than your normal world traveling person.

Doing what I say I will.

Being a bit of a hermit. I have no trouble being hidden away in my room with my computer and books for weeks on end. Considering how loud of a personality I have I think this might surprise some people who know me irl.
The first things people usually notice about me
Other vegans often notice my vegan t-shirt, I'm pretty much always wearing one :) represent *vulcan gang sign* ;P

calm/ friendly composure, I try to be open to new people/ things
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Gift of Fear, How and When to be Your Own Doctor, Atlas Shrugged, Old Path White Clouds

Author: Malcolm Gladwell

Movies: Stardust, Ip Man, Instinct, The Sum of All Fears, The Book of Life, Monster Hunt, Big Hero 6, to name a few

Shows: Person of Interest, Mentalist, Naruto, One Punch

Music: Taylor Swift, Plumb, Lindsey Stirling, Enya

Heart of the Lamp (bridge)
You and I
We can start a fire of love
When we're together,
We're brighter than a million stars
The six things I could never do without
air, water, calories, senses, communication, companionship

glasses, passport, rope, clothing, friends and family
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I need to do today and tomorrow and the next 3 months to progress through life and grow in a manner I desire
On a typical Friday night I am
I still don't much give importance to Friday. Vegan restaurants are my favorite places to go out to.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am a monster, but aren't we all. The difference between those who do terrible things and those who don't is the environment someone grows up in. I am open about who I am and am not in denial about anything I am. We all hate things through own own perception of right and wrong. All hatred in us is the same simply vented to different areas, one of the main differences is that the bad guys accept what they are. While most people will try and avoid things not accepted by society as good/decent.

I wonder if I may scare some people by this, I'm a rather friendly and often quite childish, and I very much dislike violence. But if peace is to be achieved for the world someday we can't shut people out because they are bad or evil, we are all created by the causes and conditions, people with lacking moral understanding were unlucky in their upbringing but are just as capable people. I live in many ways with black and white views but that isn't to say I don't see where had things happened differently in my life I would've been a bad person myself. The only differences between any two people is the environment they were born into and the family's dietary history.

Also I struggle with my sexual desire, though I believe in abstinence, I've had times in which I was weak and partially lost that battle. I would say my sexual desire is a good bit higher than average which makes it difficult.
You should message me if
You've done a lot of traveling and care to share about awesome places. You match me amazingly well in the questions, If you have any questions you'd like to ask me. I am very particular in what I'm looking for (If we're more than 6% enemy then we're not relationship compatible, though if you've only answered like 50 questions then there's not enough data to have a good analysis) so its very possible I give a polite no to any interest in being more than friends, but I'll talk to just about anyone that wants to. :) Well except maybe gay guys that would make me feel a little weird, not to be offensive. That being said if we have a rather large percent enemy then it is up to you to start a conversation, I'm not going to put time into responding to a hi, or hello when we're not a very good match. I'll just say hi/hello back to you.

Maybe I should add a "Things I find detestable" section here:
Casual sex/casual dating - If you were ever into it, please don't bother messaging me
Watching Sports
Nationalism
Materialism/Fashion
Drinking/Smoking/Drugs
The way corporations own governments, the status quo in general
If you (will) vote(d) for Trump please do not message me. You could've gone in there and vote (d) big bird, satan, a potato, but not trump.
That's it for now, though there may be a few more.
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