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My self-summary
I'm what most would call a nerd. A gamer. A human being. I can be shy at first, but I open up rather quickly. I have a quirky sense humor and an eclectic knowledge base.

It's important to note that I am polyamorous, pansexual, kinky, and not likely to change any of those aspects. That being said, I'm not on here for a quick hookup or anything like that. I'm looking for friends, partners, and confidants. People I can eventually connect with on a deeper level.

Another quick note, you can find me on fetlife as TheDapperFapper.
What I’m doing with my life
I think I'm in the best years of my life, or will be soon. I got out of an abusive 10 year relationship. Have met some of the most fantastic people lately, and life is starting to be fun. I'm also perpetually trying to get back into shape, learn about myself, and see if I'm funny enough to be a decent performer.
I’m really good at
Video games, getting people I don't know to laugh, mixing drinks I don't know the names of, telling people their best features, writing, typing, manual dexterity, looking at things unconventionally, filling out online questionnaires, and various things I'm likely not covering.
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes, or so they say. Once I get to talking, most people tend to tell me I'm either funny or strange within a few minutes. I've also had people comment on my dimples, though I doubt it's the first thing they noticed. Oh, and colorful hair. Sometimes I have colorful hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books - Most anything by Terry Pratchett. I enjoy Michael Crichton as well. I'm a fan of settings more than particular authors I think. Like, I'm really into the Warhammer Fantasy and 40k settings and have enjoyed a variety of books from there. This also covers things like Star Wars and Goosebumps as a kid. I've currently been enjoying Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality.

I have a very all encompassing taste in music. The only genre of music I don't enjoy, most of the time, would be country. Otherwise I can listen to anything from smooth jazz to death metal. Techno to classical.

TV - It's so hard to produce a list of TV shows and the like that I won't have to update all the time. So I'll go with things that I think are going to be around for a while: Preacher, Rick & Morty, Family Guy, American Dad, Bob's Burgers, pretty much any Netflix original comic based series, and oh man how do people put lists like these up?
Six things I could never do without
Well, should we avoid the obvious? Oxygen, solid ground, plant life, and the like? Six things I would really rather never go without:
- Friends. That one's almost obvious.
- A comfortable place to sleep.
- Other people. Being able to socialize is a must.
- The Internet. I don't need it when I'm camping or getting away but otherwise I want it around.
- Fresh air. I'm one of those people who has a fan running even in winter. I just like fresh air.
- Security. I feel like I shouldn't have to explain this one.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything! I over think. I can't help it. I think about the universe, the methods used for baking, how to produce gummi, the science behind a webcam, the designing methods for a sports drink label. It doesn't have to be important. If it can be thought about, it will be. That's not to say there aren't things I don't think of, or will rarely consider. It's just that my mind runs a game of it's own and I'm along for the ride.
On a typical Friday night I am
Setting into motion my plans to one day rule my small group of friends and lead them into the dark realms of Dungeons and Dragons.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Sometimes, I'm proud of my mild aspirations. As though having come to terms with being unable to accomplish the dreams of a whimsical teenager, and accepting that sometimes simply surviving day to day is enough, were a good thing.
You should message me if
You like my answers to any of the thousands of questions found on this site.
If you're a nerd who loves games.
If you're interested in talking about poetry, history, or philosophy.
If you want yet another answer to the ultimate questions of the universe.
If you lost a bet.
If you won a bet.
If you want to laugh.
If you want to get to know me a little bit better.
If you need an ego boost.
If you're feeling adventurous.
If you're feeling shy.
If you're just looking for someone who will accept you for who you are, without judgment, even if only for a while.
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