47Salt Lake City, United States
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My self-summary
I am a divorced father of 17 year old son, who I seldom see. I have learned to live with the pain of my separation from him and hope to be able to have a better relationship with him in the future. I recently sat in the backseat of my car while he drove his junior prom date to dinner and the dance. It was a tiresome experience; I am so glad that he has earned his license and can drive himself now.

My goal is to have a real relationship/partnership based on mutual understanding and attraction, intelligent exchanges of ideas, shared goals and aspirations for the future. Physical attraction is important but intellect, emotional well-being and the ability to think are equally important as well and are becoming more important each day.
What I’m doing with my life
Recovering from the trauma of my childhood has been a long process. I will be 48 years old in December and finally in a place to emotionally and intellectually to form a real bond. While I would like to get married again, I am not going to rush into anything. This does not mean I am not open to the right person, I just need to become comfortable before I "jump into" a relationship.

I am just like everyone else, busily exercising, eating, working, going to the movies or one of the several Meetup.com groups I am a member of and sleeping. I try and spend as much time with my son as I can, which usually means only seeing him on weekends.
I’m really good at
Thinking outside of the box, fixing things and solving problems, taking charge of situations that are seemingly out of control and being calm because I can always see the “big picture.” I earned the rank of Eagle Scout when I was a teenager and while I do not "camp," anymore, I know how to handle myself anywhere I am and the Scouting Oath and Laws go a long way in explaining what kind of man I am today.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am not like anyone they have ever met before and almost nothing fazes me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Candide by Voltaire. Lady Hawk, She’s Having a Baby, The Shawshank Redemption, Unforgiven, The Green Mile, Million Dollar Baby, Gran Torino, The Big Bang Theory, The Daily Show, Breaking Bad is one of the best shows I have ever seen. I do not own a TV or watch television. The shows I have watched were binge viewing sessions that I downloaded from the internet. I love classical music and Thai food; though I am omnivorous and will eat almost anything.
Six things I could never do without
My son. I will tell you privately what the rest are though I do not "own" anything I could not give up.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The future and how I am making mine better or worse.
On a typical Friday night I am
This coming year I plan on spending my Friday nights learning to ballroom dance. On occasion, I do enjoy a movie in the theater.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I take care of people. I was raised to love and care for my younger siblings. If you are more than 10 years younger than me, I will have a really hard time seeing you as anything other than a "little sister;" I will be very flattered by the attention you have given me and slightly embarrassed.
You should message me if
I grew up in a large family and would find it too difficult to relate to someone who never had or does not have children.

You seldom drink. I cannot drink alcoholic beverages for health reasons nor do I enjoy being around people who drink. The smell nauseates me and I was the sober designated driver enough times to know how people who drink act and would prefer not to be around those who do.

I would prefer to meet people locally, if you live more than 50 miles away we are unlikely to meet.

I am deathly allergic to cats, at least I was when I was young, however, I prefer small dogs as pets, though, at this stage in my life, I would rather spend my effort and time with someone who can hold an intelligent conversation. The adage “Crazy cat lady” exists for a reason; mostly because it is true. If you Google “Cats And Mental Illness – The Role Of Toxoplasma gondii.” you may rethink keeping your feline friend.

You are emotionally available: If you are just divorced or separated for less than a year, give yourself some time to heal and adjust to your new life. I am only interested in serious relationships and people who have not healed or given themselves time to move on are not ready to date me or anyone. I have spent many years becoming emotionally available which, I feel, cannot be achieved without giving yourself the gift of time.

You have limited piercings and tattoos as in pierced ears and no visible tattoos. I find piercings and tattoos extremely unattractive but like every man alive never notice earrings unless they are gaudy, overly numerous or have mangled your ears.

Message me if religious practice is not the central focal point around which your life revolves. After many years of religious belief, I was raised by parents in the predominant faith here in Utah and practiced "faithfully" for most of my life, I became convinced, almost against my will, of the error of my belief system. Forming a relationship with someone who is still caught up in that way of thinking is not something I want to involve myself with nor do I feel the need to convince or convert others to my way of thinking.

What I can offer the right woman:

I am devoted and am able to give myself to someone with unwavering dedication and commitment. I would never cheat or be unfaithful. That is not how I am "wired" nor would I expose myself to all the dangers that dating multiple people would necessitate, which, to me, are mostly emotional. If you date me you can expect and will receive my undivided attention.

I am a demisexual. I am not sexually attracted to you unless we have a very strong emotional connection. Sexual attraction is an important component of any relationship. However, even if I find you sexy and physically attractive, if your ideas and beliefs are idiotic I will not pursue a relationship with you.

I am great with kids. As the oldest of 14, I have likely changed as many diapers, babysat and parented as many children as most women with 5 or more kids. I would, however, always support you in parenting your own children and not try and step in as a surrogate father. I do not meet children of those I contact unless the relationship has progressed to a serious level.

I am a man who can take care of myself. I am not looking for someone to wash my clothes, do my dishes, make my meals or pay my bills. I can do all that and I would never expect you to do anything because of obligation to me. I seldom watch TV or sports, I have more interesting things to do with my life.

I am also kind and considerate having been raised by a mother who would have slapped me if I was not. I detest cruelty and act according to my beliefs. I like to read, mostly history, philosophy, science and news and would love to learn to ballroom dance. So, to sum up, if you want to meet someone who does not, drink, smoke, or use drugs, sleep around/play the field, is kind to animals and children, I am your guy.

If you have lived a life that you never expected to and have gone through troubles which you have overcome we will likely have much in common.

Should you message me, please tell me your favorite meal and restaurant in the first part of your message so that I know you read my whole profile.
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