I am a dynamic being, constantly changing, at once self-critical and self-empowered. So often I abandon reason, embrace contradiction and try to figure out which me is today's me. I am the most emotionally intelligent man that I've ever been. My relationships are the healthiest they've ever been. And I am the happiest I've ever been.
I am only interested in connecting within an intentionally non-monogamous framework. I am not here to date towards a goal. I am loving and respectful but not traditionally romantic. I seek connection, sensation, pleasure, sex, sensuality, and power play. I seek to better myself and learn through experience. I'm looking for women to feel things with.
My intention is to build serious friendships/relationships based on shared interests, desires, pleasure, and respect.
Let's create intentional vulnerable intimacy. With words... to start. No tiptoeing around with unverbalized expectations.
There are many versions of me. One is happy and optimistic. One is dark and anxious and fearful. One is sweet and loving. One is aware of all the others.
I like polka dots and freckles, girls who resemble Justin Bieber, and women who love their bodies.
The hottest thing in the world is to be approached by a woman who enjoys the exhilaration of choosing to be vulnerable. The best man I can be is the most open form of myself. My intention is always to play fully in myself and my desires. I'll show you all my cards. I flirt a lot. I will always state my intentions upfront. Consent is very important.
I'm kind and loving. I'm socially conscious. I prefer to think of myself as queer, because there isn't a box for me, but the truth is I pass for straight. I'm too honest for the mainstream. I have no particular style. I'm addicted to coffee. I smoke a few cigarettes per day. I think about life creatively. I like to clean and cook. I have few possessions and don't need much material to be happy.
You should send me a message. Say hello and say something true. You should probably ask me out. I won't think you want to fuck me unless you say that you do, explicitly. We should probably meet for coffee, beer, whiskey, kava, a walk, a bike ride, frisbee throwing, or the petting of doggies.
I am looking for women who are available to hang out M-F during the day in the East Bay and SF. I work many evenings and nights all week long. I can meet up some evenings too.
John Oliver and Russell Brand are generally emblematic of my moral compass.
Sometimes, I'm sexually dominant and am looking for submissive women who want to play. I'll qualify this by saying that there needs to be so much respect, trust, and chemistry for any power play to occur.
If you can be honest with yourself, and if you can be honest with me, I can hold space for you emotionally, and from that, if you articulate your desires, then I can handle you physically. This goes both ways.
I'm interested in meeting and playing with women who are confident and love themselves. I tend to date women who are older than me. I am attracted to women who are a bit androgynous.
I love holding hands and making out. I think tattoos are very sexy but I have none. I recently realized that my two favorite styles that women wear are soft butch and skirts with sneakers.
I communicate my feelings and expect you to be mature enough to communicate yours. I'm confident. I respect people. I love myself.
I have many friends with whom I share a wonderful love and respect. I love meeting new people. I like exploring new places. I believe a cafe is a much better place than a bar to meet a stranger.
These are my current practices and things that turn me on in other people:
- If it's not a 'Fuck Yes!,' then it's a 'No.'
- choosing the scariest option will probably yield the most positive change.
- Say 'Yes' to everything, within reason.
- Ask for what you want.
- Say what you mean. Fuck euphemisms, unless of course it could be funny.
New York transplant. Ithaca College graduate. Professional people person. Photographer. Theater usher. Driver.
I am a photographer and I love people. These are my Photos.
Above all, I love and respect women.
I'm a photographer. I'm a theater usher for City Arts and Lectures. I work for the coolest photo booth company in the country. I just started leading walking tours at Land's End in SF. And I sometimes serve delicious organic food to rich people in Marin.
I will always pass on a bumping club to sit in a quirky local dive bar and listen to some funky live music.
Music spins my world.
I am concerned with social justice, healthy living, and the pursuit of happiness. I love to love and be loved. I value kindness.
My friend/roommate and I host bi-monthly organic-vegan dinner parties in our home, where we bring together 10-20 people to hang out and eat a delicious meal together.
Always Have Fun. Toss a Disc. Take a ride. Have a laugh. Inspire a smile.
As far as social orientation, I am proudly a dyke tyke.
Women usually notice that I am eye-fucking them so hard; respectfully, I'm a feminist.
all works by Mary Roach, Bill Bryson, and Tom Robbins.
Music is a huge part of my life:
I like bands with lyrics I can connect with; Talking Heads, Metric, Scattered Trees and Band of Horses. Bands with beats that make me move; Rubblebucket, Balkan Beat Box, Manu Chao, Street Sweeper Social Club and the Bhangra style from India. Bands that I can zone out with and write while listening to; Duke Ellington, the album Concrete Jungle by Bob Marley, The Strokes, Supergrass, Smashing Pumpkins, Royksopp, Dispatch, Dave Matthews Band, Buena Vista Social Club, Fleet Foxes, and Sufjan Stevens.
My musical tastes are all over the board. I like all sorts of 90s rock, 80s pop, 70s psychedelic, hip-hop, modern indie-folk, electronica, and different ethnic sounds from all over the world.
Some other bands that I love for all different reasons include, The Idan Raichel Project, Arcade Fire, Sublime, Green Day, Telepopmusik, Le Peuple de l'Herbe, Daft Punk, LCD Soundsystem, Hot Chip, Grand National, Coheed and Cambria, TV on the Radio, Grace Potter and the Nocturnals, Sharon Jones and the Dap Tones, Flaming Lips, The Presidents of the United States of America, Modest Mouse, Dresden Dolls, Atari Teenage Riot, The Pipettes, and Cat Empire.
Check out my friend's band, Sophistafunk: http://sophistafunk.bandcamp.com/
As far as local Bay Area bands that I like to go out and support: John Courage and Great Plains, Silian Rail, Odd Bird, Alison Harris and the Barn Owls, Sistas in the Pit, Semi Evolved Simians, The Iditarod, The Piezoelectric Effect, Mære, Sam Vega, The Crux, Critical Measures Trio, Goodriddler, Not To Reason Why, Zoe Keating, Vetiver, The Coup.
*Music tastes are different all the time, ask me what I've been playing over and over again most recently.
Movies: Crank, Spartan, Kontroll, The Big Lebowski, The Warriors, The French Connection, Pulp Fiction, Patton, True Romance, Cube, Disrict B-13, The Aristocrats, Ten Things I Hate About You, Pitch Black, Mississippi Burning, O Brother Where Art Thou?, Lethal Weapon, Charlotte's Web, Dumbo, Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves, Caddyshack, Bullitt, Shawshank Redemption, Someone to Run With
Food: Thai, Ethiopian and Pizza. Salads with pears and blue cheese. I don't eat fish or seafood. I don't love bacon.
I want to meet you: if you dance or are a performer or musician, if you sing because it makes you happy, if you draw or paint or take photographs (but only if you know what depth of field and f-stop are) or do yoga, if you're a DJ or a baker, farmer, or are into Jazz Cooking. If you pet almost every dog you pass on the street, and if you like gay bars. If you play pool, and if you try new things. I want to meet you if you can decide to be happy because, just because, no matter what you'd rather be doing, or if people think you are weird and you just love being you. I am attracted to intelligent beautiful women.
I like strong women with a passion for life. You must love yourself and have the capacity to love others.