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My self-summary
An east coast transplant who kept heading west until he ran out of land. After stops in Philadelphia and Pittsburgh, I finally settled in the Bay Area. I love it here.

I'm smart. Fun. I enjoy a playful sense of humor (and respond in kind). While the occasional quiet night in is nice, I tend to prefer going out adventuring - exploring whatever the city and life has to offer.

I am kinetic, technic, and exothermic.

I've recently entered an open relationship with a fantastic woman in LA. Sadly, this means I've been spending an inordinate amount of time in SoCal. My apologies if I'm slow to respond, or don't have a ton of time. However, I am very interested in meeting (both virtually and physically) other people in similar relationships.
What I’m doing with my life
By day, I'm a computer programmer for a large internet company in the bay area. It's fun and exciting and pays the bills.

By night, I fight crime. Ok, not really. But do I referee roller derby - it's kind of like fighting crime, where 'crime' is 'illegal use of elbows'. I build small projects for my house and burning man. I used to run half/full marathons, and I'm starting to build back up that.

On a broader scale, I believe that you aren't living unless you are growing as a person, so I'm constantly trying to expand my horizons. I like learning new skills, refining existing skills, and experiencing new adventures.
I’m really good at
Making mechanical and electrical machines bend to my will. Roller skating. Swapping stories of wacky hi-jinks. Creating new stories of wacky hi-jinks. Watching zombie movies. Mixing a perfect daiquiri. Kissing (or so I've been told). Learning new things. Finding the good in the bad. Beating the old arcade game "Area 51". Making lists.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm a large bald man with facial piercings. Also, my sparkling personality.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Note - I'm an omnivore at heart, so these lists are hard to make. Part of the fun of meeting new people is experiencing new music, shows, food etc.

Movies - Anything by David Lynch (Eraserhead, Blue Velvet), Terry Gilliam (Brazil, 12 Monkeys), Akira Kurosawa (Rashamon, Yojimbo), Stanley Kubrick (Clockwork Orange, Dr. Strangelove), Jon Cusack (Say Anything, High Fidelity), Zombie Movies, Westerns, Blade Runner, Donnie Darko, The Big Lebowski, Being John Malkovich, Ghostbusters, Alien(s), Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind, Repo Man, Run Lola Run

TV - Six Feet Under, The Wire, Carnivale, Arrested Development, Twin Peaks, Lost, Battlestar Galactica, It's Always Sunny In Philadelphia, 30 Rock, Weeds, Mad Men, Futurama, Doctor Who, MST3K, Red Dwarf, Cowboy Bebop, Firefly/Buffy/Angel, Max Headroom

Music - Punk, Goth, Angelo Badalamenti, Billy Idol, David Bowie, The Doors, Duran Duran, Gorillaz, Iggy Pop, Johnny Cash, Led Zeppelin, Ministry, Misfits, Muse, Nick Cave, Oingo Boingo, Op Ivy, Pink Floyd, Poe, Radio Head, Siouxsie & the Banshees, Smashing Pumpkins, Snog, Tom Waits, Velvet Underground, White Zombie

Food - I love ethnic foods of all types. The spicier the better.
Six things I could never do without
Friends & Family - My family (biological and chosen) is very important to me. Luckily, I have both that I'm very fond of.

Travel - I love to travel. Edinburgh, London, Berlin, Saudi Arabia, Baharain, Moscow - I'd like to go to Asia next, or spend an extended period of time traveling.

Art - Preferably large. And on fire. Or Surreal. Or Pop. Or Underground/Street.

Kindle - I am an avid reader. I can't remember how I lived without this device.

Motorcycle - When I ride it, it demands my attention and leaves no room in my mind for idle thought or care. It is one of the few times my brain 'shutdowns'. [edit] OK, I guess I *can* technically live without it because I just got rid of it... but I'm ready looking for a new one.

Moleskin Notebook - Despite being a tech worshipper, I still use a black moleskin notebook to track all of my lists and my TODOs and pretty much everything about my life.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
our interaction with the world around us. How we use those fancy devices (cellphones, computers, tablets, etc) to make life easier. Ways of making common day objects and spaces reactive to people.

What my next project is (when I finish the million unfinished projects I'm currently working). Where I'm traveling to next. What part of my motorcycle needs to be fixed today.

At the end of the day, I spend a lot of time reflecting on my past - where I've come from and what lessons it's taught me. I also think a lot about the future - where I'm headed next.
On a typical Friday night I am
There isn't a 'typical' Friday night. Here's a sample of activities from last year:

Dancing at a party with thumpthump and oontzoontz. Bouncing around a punk show. Enjoying a hazy jazz club. Marauding around town dressed as Santa or a Bride or a School Girl or a… (ok, maybe more of a Saturday activity). Attending an art opening. Cooking a dinner with friends over wine. Standing in an Oakland warehouse watching some giant, moving, fire-spewing contraption. Playing card games or board games Refereeing a Roller Derby bout. Drinking with friends at a house party. Weaving my bicycle through the streets of San Francisco or Oakland. Whatever I'm doing, it's almost always social.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm descended from pirates. Yar. Also, I'm the only person on the planet who liked the endings of Lost and Battlestar Galactica.
You should message me if
* you like to get your hands dirty - working on machines or artwork. adventuring outside, etc
* you prefer wide ranging intelligent conversation occasionally punctuated with childish jokes.
* you are equally excited to go to a nice restaurant or a favorite dive bar

Really, these are just guidelines. I'm always looking to meet new people to do new and fun stuff with.

I am also just beginning to explore the world of open relationships and polyamory. I'd love to meet more people in similar relationships - open, honest, and ethical - both for new friends and potentially more.
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