I have insatiable curiosity and enjoy new experiences. I am thankful to my Dad and my Aunts for being able to cook tasty food, and my Grandmother for modeling the value of a tidy, spartan home. I think real food and exercise are the biggest contributors to a healthy lifestyle. I don't have a lot of “stuff” and tend to focus on experiences instead. A vigorous local hike, a home-cooked meal, wine, candlelight, and conversation that winds into the early hours is one example of a perfect date...
I have been practicing ethical non-monogamy for several years, in various forms. I’m open to connecting only with folks with experience or curiosity about this; see www.morethantwo.com. I’m not ruling out monogamy, though. Confused? I understand. What’s important, is that if we establish a connection, I’m open to whatever feels natural to both of us in moving that forward. I believe it’s important that two people who are building a connection have the autonomy to follow it wherever it leads, emotionally.
A woman my height is anything but average, and I prefer a taller man to help keep things in balance. That said, it's really all about how comfortable you are with being eye-to-eye ;) I’m attracted to women from curvy to lean. I like a woman who is who is smart, earthy, cheery, and above all: secure. I love to be romanced--no matter where we are or what is happening, an experience is what we both make of it and I would never complain about a well-intentioned effort.
I previously answered 1241 of OKC's questions...but wait, isn't that what getting to know someone in person is for?
I read a LOT. Rowing, yoga (even Bikram), HIIT/CrossFit. When I run it’s typically for meditation not exercise.
Living on the Hill, I enjoy the community-based urban, walkable lifestyle it offers, and yet how convenient it is to also jump in the car and ‘escape’ as needed to the hills :).
I learn and explain things for a living, which is pretty cool because it fits well with my natural curiosity.
Getting through order of cause and effects to root cause
Compassionate tough love.
Teasing as a form of affection.
Making the best of a situation.
Sensing when to let you in: I’m quite better at boundaries than I used to be.
Someone once affectionately referred to me as “one sparky chick”....are you ready? ;)
Food/Drink: I love different combinations of flavors (food, wine, and cocktails), and I try to keep that positive instead of snobbish. I like vegetables, meat, cheese, some fruit; generally keep gluten-free and lower carb (my weakness is cocktails, which I tinker with quite a bit). While I enjoy eating out, I equally enjoy the taste of my own cooking; hopefully so will you ;)
Music - I grew up on Dead, reggae, blues, bluegrass, and jazz. Also, I call Seattle "home", so I have an alternative/gothic streak too and I love grunge and indie rock. Oh. And I absolutely LOVE House music!!!
my sense of smell,
an occasional dip in the ocean or other water that moves (think river or hot tub vs. lake or pool)
If we meet each other in person for a first date, the expectations I have after that are going to be based on what we’ve actually said to each other, not hidden assumptions, such as dating “rules” or past relationships, or other things that require mind-reading. Courage and reliability are personality traits in a lover/partner that are very important to me. What we actually say will be all that we need because, like me, you: are aware of your intentions, have the courage and respect to be candid with me, and you are discerning with your commitments (i.e. you are self-aware and a person of your word). And if you change your mind (as humans do), you have the courage to admit it.
It’s critically important to me that you demonstrate good partner selection skills.
Lastly, although I'm serious about the communication part, I'm also serious about having fun! Someone very dear to me once said,"don't postpone joy," and I do try to live that way.