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My self-summary
*Just coming back to this after over a year, please note that everything is out of date by at least that much.*

Hi! My name's Patrick. I'm friendly, outgoing, and always ready for a good time with friends, whether it's at a session with a pint of Guiness and my guitar or out swing-dancing. I love thunderstorms and improvising piano covers of Beatles songs. I'm a devoted musician; there are few days when I don't play piano, guitar, or organ, and no days when I don't sing. I've just gotten back from a gig in Switzerland, where my band and I opened a music festival in a gorgeous town in the south. Ask me about Lugano! I always have a tune in my head, although sometimes I don't realize it until I see my fingers playing a phrase. Sometimes it's baroque, sometimes it's Simon and Garfunkel.

I like people who know what they want in a relationship, and who care about what others want. Communication is the most important thing in any relationship for me, especially about the hard stuff. I'm a kind person, and I like people who are kind as well, and consider it to be an important thing about themselves. I am a feminist.

I'm looking for some low-pressure fun times with new people. If you're a fun new person, let me know! Let's go to the museum or something.

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What I’m doing with my life
I've graduated from U of T with an degree in linguistics and psychology. I spent some time doing research - my own project included - and now I'm paying the rent as a musician. I lead a couple of independent classical groups, and give lessons in various exciting different instruments! Let's just say that if you wanted to learn guitar, piano, flute, and classical voice, I could hook you up - and I'd probably throw in some ukulele lessons for free.

I also play lead guitar for charity in a campus band. Last night I played a gig on Front St. for the CEO of Mercedes-Benz and his corporate lackeys. It was odd.
I’m really good at
Music - I play classical piano, organ, harpsichord and blues and jazz guitar. I also sing in a couple of semi-professional choirs and head a couple of musical projects that are actually making me some money, mirabile dictu.

Languages - I speak decent French and okay German, although I really just need someone to drop me in the middle of Europe so I can practice for a bit [EDIT: my band is touring in Switzerland this summer, so this actually may happen!]. I'd love to learn something a little more challenging - I'm considering Korean at the moment.

Cooking - I learned how to shuck oysters the other day. So much fun.

I wish I were better at finding opportunities to wear my tux outside of performance. I think we have to restructure society so that tuxedos are acceptable formalwear again.

I also rock at juggling, and I will end you at Scrabble. Just saying.
The first things people usually notice about me
"I know nothing about you other than that you have a nice face and a great smile!"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Bach's music is my favourite to play - I think the fugue is just about the highest form of art invented. I also love Dire Straits, 50's rock and roll and 80's power ballads. To sing? Byrd, Tallis, Gibbons, Weelkes, Di Lasso, Healey Willan, Bach and Handel, all those other English Renaissance composers, and 40's and 50's hits. My favourite guitarists are Joe Pass and Mark Knopfler, for reasons I'm sure you'll understand if you've ever heard them, ever.

Books: I will read anything by Robertson Davies, James Thurber, C.S. Lewis, Kate Beaton, Cliff Pervocracy, Captain Awkward, Stephen Jay Gould, Oliver Sacks, Richard Feynman, Flann O'Brian, or David Wong. Toni Morrison's Beloved really disturbed me in the best kind of way. Riddley Walker, by Russell Hoban, is probably the most powerful book I've ever read. There are so many books I love to read over and over, and I don't have room to list all of them. If I did, the list would be pretty eclectic. I recently had the honour of singing at the funeral of Robertson Davies' widow. It was humbling.

Movies: I love Preston Sturges and Frank Capra - screwball comedies are hilarious. Also anything on AMC late at night. Not a fan of horror movies, but I'll watch pretty much anything else. And who knows: maybe I just haven't seen the right one yet. If you think you can convert me to horror fandom, feel free to try.

Shows: Breaking Bad, Mad Men, Iron Chef America, pretty much all of the food network except the ones about cupcakes and the ones in which Gordon Ramsay yells at sous-chefs for an hour straight. I maintain that Buffy and Doctor Who are simultaneously the best show. Does the Savage Love podcast count? I listen to that a lot.

When it comes to food, I'll eat anything once and I like most things. Be prepared to eat more dim sum than you thought was even possible. One exception: Cilantro is something I just can't stand. It tastes like soap.
Six things I could never do without
My strat.
A piano, any piano. I should probably say an organ here as well; I think I'm hooked.
My family.
A city.
A toothbrush.
A really good chef's knife. I'm actually having to live without one of those for the time being, and I am slowly dying inside.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how the mind works. Not neurophysiology, but just what you can figure out by self-reflection. I often think I should have been born in the 1700s, before science got all quantitative. Philosophy is so much more interesting. And hey, if you get good at it, you can entertain yourself without having to use the internet or books or anything - good for when you're in solitary confinement or on a desert island.

When I started playing Scrabble a couple of years ago I practiced by anagramming licence plates in my head, and now I can't stop.
On a typical Friday night I am
At a practice, watching a movie, out with friends for a pint or at a show. Or at home, watching The Wire.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I like to eat mulberries off the tree because it makes me feel like a hunter-gatherer.
You should message me if
If you like talking to thoughtful, intelligent people who can make you laugh.

If you want to sing some duets with me. There's some Monteverdi that I really would like to try.

If you want to go for a walk and talk about Kids in the Hall.

If you want to go swing dancing (every Wednesday night - seriously, try it! It's amazing).

If you think this man should be nominated King of the Internet.

Or if you want to jam and are in the Toronto area. I'm a great guy and a damn good guitarist, though I say it who shouldn't.
The two of us