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My self-summary
I feel good when I care about people and things unironically. I'm tremendously fond of pulp adventure stories, tabletop roleplaying games, and I'm more than half-decent in the kitchen. I'd like to meet someone who is emotionally and verbally expressive, and who thinks turning your phone off during dinner is a good idea.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a game content designer for a mobile software company. I write stories and dialogue for our characters, and it's honestly pretty fun. I was briefly a high school English teacher in Pennsylvania, but I'm happier now. Outside of career stuff, I'm trying to work on my mindfulness, be a better listener, and casually create nootropic desserts on the weekend.
I’m really good at
Being reasonably good at a lot of little things. It's fashionable to be very specialized, but I prefer variety. For example, I'm a respectable swordfighter (no lie) and a pretty damned good singer.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm built like a Viking, or a fridge from the 1950s. The muscle/fat ratio shifts a little, but the basic shape is pretty much nailed down.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I had one of those fun childhoods full of moderately subversive science fiction and fantasy. Right now I'm reading:

Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality
The Art of Game Design
Godel, Escher, Bach: An Eternal Golden Braid
• The Devil's Scourge – Exorcism during the Italian Renaissance
• The core rules for a third cyberpunk tabletop RPG, since the first two weren't quite good enough.

I enjoy Nicolas Cage films. I dislike horror movies unless they're unusually clever (Cabin In The Woods, for example), but I can be convinced to see just about anything in a movie theater. The last Hobbit movie was a garbage, though. For real.

I used to listen to a lot of folk metal, but I listen to most of my music at work now and it's too hard to concentrate when I just want to sing along with the lyrics. Instead, I've taken to listening to a lot of ambient psytrance, which is a needlessly specific genre. I like a lot of stuff, and I have a soft spot in my heart for country songs about ghosts. Oh, and SomaFM!

I enjoy cooking, but mostly because I get to work with my hands. I eat a weird-ass diet for health reasons which consists of about 70% fat. Don't worry, vegetables are great. Dark leafy greens and I are friends. My favorite food is dim sum, because I love 1) variety and 2) dumplings.
The six things I could never do without
Optimism, novelty*, healthy attachment, a small measure of sacrosanct personal space, an intrinsically-motivated goal, and good shrimp toast.

*not as in a rotating series of partners, though. You know how some guys are afraid of commitment? I want to be friends with your dog and meet your parents.

Relatedly, I have nothing against polyamory, but I wouldn't be able to handle it myself.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
• Linear fighters, quadratic wizards, and other game design lessons.
Hedonic adaptation
• Am I too old to join the CIA? (Probably.) Would I make a good spy? (Probably not.)
• Do I have enough books? (No.) Do I have enough bookshelves? (No.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Real talk: My idea of a good time is chilling out in a small group with people I know doing something we love. I cannot comprehend clubs. Brewpubs or the movies are pretty great,though. Also, the Chantey Sing is on Saturday nights, duh.

Show me something new, though, and you'll have my full attention.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have always wanted to be a wizard, and I would change careers at the drop of a hat if wizard became a viable option.
You should message me if
We're all looking for basically the same thing. You should say hi if you're a clever woman interested in meeting and potentially dating a thoughtful man who makes a living writing about impossible things and is happy to talk about ~feelings~ but who can also, like, keep a budget and contribute to a Roth IRA.

No vegans, though. Seriously. It's just gonna end in tears.