DoctorPoMo
32Denver, United States
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My self-summary
**If you are a CIS MALE and want to message me I do not tolerate, mansplaining, talking over me, condescension.. your opinions are not facts, I require intellectual submissiveness from you and for you to listen at least 75% of the time. If you don't know how to practice empathy, don't speak to me. I don't have time for toxic masculinity or coddling your fragile ego... I find traditional masculinity disgusting and offensive and REALLY DO NOT HAVE FUCKING TIME FOR IT.. so if you aren't a radical intersectional feminist that is active in social justice don't fucking bother. Seriously. And definitely do not message me to tell me you think I'm sad or angry.. fuck you, I don't care about your opinion and if that's what you think instead of "Damn, I need to get involved with social justice so this woman doesn't have to deal with shitty men anymore." then you're part of the problem bro. (P.S. It's sad that I HAVE TO WRITE SHIT LIKE THIS BECAUSE MOST CIS MEN ARE SO FUCKING TOXIC. DON'T BE ONE OF THOSE IDIOTS)**

Now, I am a polyamorous, pansexual, post modern theorist, vegan that is addicted and devoted to making this world better than I came into it. I'm INFJ (I'm not a prophet or psychic just really intuitive with a lot of empathy). If you've done any leadership training I'm also highly analytical but extremely compassionate due to my ideals of ethics, empathy and fairness. In DiSC training I am a high S, little lower i, lowest D and C. Oh, and I'm a dominant switch.

I am passionate about knowledge and understanding but do not expect to ever find truth.

I paint and get rather involved in figure drawing. I think, perhaps, I've read too much Anaïs Nin (Models and Artists)

I'm often more interested in seemingly irrelevant things... there's much more to be learned from the things no one is watching.. I'm watching, your body language, I'm listening to the words you choose and the inflection in your voice, I'm detecting falsity or sincerity...

I love hard and honestly and I'm good at it.
What I’m doing with my life
I am reading an anthology of modernism to post modernism, I will never finish this book because it is a portal to another dimension and my corporeal self cannot withstand the elements of the wormhole because I don't have a Tardis.

When I'm not doing that, I'm paying attention to the world around me, I'm considering the implications of my actions, purchases, beliefs and how I can do better. I spend a lot of time with my canine children, Bjorn and Azi. They're such a huge part of my life. I read a lot, write often and take my time with people. I'm interested in people as a whole and not in fragments.

My next big step in life keeps shifting but becoming more and more defined. I spend a lot of time educating people and helping them deconstruct their reality so they can step into empowerment and redefine their reality on their own terms. My passion is helping women/femme folk express their anger and needs and how to use communication to get their needs met. I get so much joy out of seeing women and femme folk learn to stand in their power and use their voice.. essentially, "Give no Fucks and Take No Shit" out of self love. I will be turning this into a business in the next two years. Why not get paid to do something that I'm so good at that it seems like an innate trait?
I’m really good at
Discussing (take note I did not say arguing.. I do not like to argue) Post Modern Theory, Conceptual realities..

Deconstructing discourse, reality, myself.. you.

Trying to reduce my carbon footprint.

Attempting to understand what being an ethical human looks like and how to accept the responsibility to and for one another and for his earth that comes with being human. Practicing empathy, (and sometimes failing at it, but still practicing.)
The first things people usually notice about me
My badass hair.
My thick thighs.
That I give no fucks.
That I take no shit.
My slow Cheshire Cat grin.
That if you spark my interest and listen, I will blow your mind.

What you notice depends on You..
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Authors: Marge Piercy, Michel Foucault, Noam Chompsky, Judith Butler, Jacques Lacan, Bret Easton Ellis, Judith Halberstam, Pablo Neruda, e.e.cummings, Anais Nin. I am really into Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg and everything written Harriet Lerner but most especially The Dance of Anger.

Films: 3, Parched, Mad Max: Fury road, Sunshine Of A Spotless Mind, I Heart Huckabees, the Alien(s) films, Harold & Maude, StarTrek films, StarWars (specifically4,5,6&7), LOtR, The Gods Must Be Crazy, CON, Joss Whedon's Cabin In The Woods, Chi-raq, Guillermo del Toro is my favourite director.. a-maze-ing! I also really enjoy Jean-Pierre Jeunet.

Shows: StarTrek NextGen, StarTrek Voyager, Firefly, American Horror Story, The L Word, Orange Is The New Black, Grace & Frankie, Transparent, I Love Dick, Rick and Morty, Adventure Time, Samurai Jack.

Food: Chocolate, banana, peanutbutter milkshakes from Watercourse Foods, The Sardou breakfast at City O' City, Nachos with Jackfruit from Tasty Harmony & The brussel sprouts from Sputnik's, all the deliciousness at Beet Box Vegan Bakery.

Music: Jeff Buckley, Leonard Cohen, Tom Waits, Cat Power, Pink Floyd, Massive Attack, The Deftones, Princess Nokia, Rage Against The Machine, Tipper, Robert Plant with Alison Krauss, Haitus Kaiyote, Polish Ambassador, Lupe Fiasco, Busdriver, The Fugees, Ta-Ku, Tokimonsta, Sylvan Esso, Jungle Pu$$y, The Internet, Bjork, Alina Baraz, Alice Coltrane.

Have you heard Sky Giant by Transglobal Underground? You should, with head phones..alone with your eyes closed.. it's that good.
Six things I could never do without
This question isn't actually about what we could never do without, because then all answers would be clean air, water, sleep, sunlight, food, shelter and probably a 7th, communication..

I think what this question means to ask is what things do you greatly value enough to establish in your life and maintain.

Vulnerability.
Empathy.
Imagination.
Communication.
Ethics.
The pursuit of interconnectedness.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Colour.

Light.

Post Modern Theory.

A world without patriarchy.

Consciousness, philosophically and physically. Everything is a result of chemical processes yet reality is illusory.
On a typical Friday night I am
Reading, thinking, at a show, biking, reading, on a date, snuggling in bed, sitting in silence and thinking (I wish more people sat silently to think instead of filling the silence with meaningless noise.. how can you know yourself if you can't be alone with yourself?)

Making sweet sweet love to someone (s)... hopefully.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am totally in love with myself. I hope you are in love with yourself too. Having humility is so much easier when your sense of self comes from within rather than from without.
You should message me if
If you aren't a bigot and you are a strident radical intersectional feminist and/or social justice activist.

Looking for friends or open to possibly more.

I/we have a badass vegan/queer poly community and love meeting new folks, even if it's just for friendship.
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