59Everett, United States
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My self-summary
I'm really a very nice guy -- sensitive, kind, considerate, witty.

Some basics: I'm divorced with two sons, 18 & 20, of whom I could not be prouder. My parents have passed away. I have a wonderful sister, and four brothers of varying degrees of wonderfulness...

I went to college to become a journalist, ended up getting a degree in Fine Arts, and somehow wound up as a computer programmer...

I have a long commute, so I bought a Prius, and I am not ashamed! Although I am really, really looking forward to the day that I can own a car that drives itself.

I have a very large collection of DVDs, CDs, and recently Blu-rays, and quite a few books as well.
I read Scientific American, Discover, Wired, and Entertainment Weekly - not all issues of every magazine, but the ones I read I read cover-to-cover.

About 9 months ago I built (assembled, really) my own computer, out of some pretty high-grade parts (at least as of 9 months ago.) And then I built one for my oldest son as a graduation gift. Of course, his isn't quite as nice as dad's!

I recently bought a digital camera, and I've been re-bitten by the photography bug. No more nasty chemicals in this wondrous digital age! AND - I can immediately delete any photo that might paint me as anything less than brilliant!

More about me, me, me: I'm observant, rational, empathetic, and slow to anger. I naturally try to solve problems, but I think I've learned when it's better to provide empathy than solutions. However, I'm fairly certain that there are still emotional subtleties, common in the female psyche, that I fail to grasp completely. But at least I recognize this!

OK, maybe my wit really is of the nit variety.

On the down side, I have zero sense of fashion, and while my cuisine may get hot, it's anything but haute!
What I’m doing with my life
I was divorced when my boys were very young. We agreed that she should have custody, but I insisted that I have as close to daily contact with them as possible. In the intervening years I've been able to see them several times a week; I've been able to read to them, play with them, help them with their homework, and just generally be a consistent presence in their lives. The problem has been that between this, long work hours, and a long commute, I haven't had much energy or opportunity for a social life.
I'm very proud of how the boys have grown and become wonderful young men. However (and I think I've been a bit slow to accept this), they've reached the age where they just don't really need (or maybe even want!) dad around that much.
So the time has come for me to lift my up head and see what else is out there...
I’m really good at
Being a father.
Listening -- I'm genuinely interested.
Problem solving -- I think I've even learned when NOT to problem solve.
Being responsible.
Building computers (recently.)
Jigsaw puzzles.
Short sentences.
The first things people usually notice about me
This is something I've often wondered about - I hope the overall impression is good!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
A few books of many: The Shipping News, E. Annie Proulx; The World According to Garp, John Irving; Ender's Game, Orson Scott Card; Startide Rising, David Brin; All the Miles Vorkosigan books by Lois McMaster Bujold; Catch-22, Joseph Heller; October Light, John Gardner; A Tale of Two Cities, Charles Dickens; Hyperion, Dan Simons; The Once and Future King, T.H. White... and on.

A few movies of many: Groundhog Day, all 3 extended versions of the Lord of the Rings, The Princess Bride, both Before Sunrise and Before Sunset, Annie Hall, Blade Runner, Casablanca, Lost in Translation, Being John Malkovich, Breakfast at Tiffany's, Back to the Future, When Harry Met Sally, Pulp Fiction, Moonstruck, Unforgiven, Field of Dreams, The Sting, Bull Durham, Four Weddings and a Funeral, Risky Business, Hotel Rwanda, Raiders of the Lost Ark, Somewhere in Time, Sideways, Strange Brew, Office Space... and on.

Music: Van Morrison, Joan Osborne, Joni Mitchell, Neil Young, Dire Straits, Rolling Stones, 10,000 Maniacs, Al Stewart, Sarah McLachlan, CCR, Indigo Girls, Tom Petty, Bob Dylan, Steely Dan, John Hiatt, Sinead O'Connor, Rickie Lee Jones, Bruce Springsteen, Dave Matthews, Suzanne Vega... and on.
Six things I could never do without
Well, Mr. Literal me would of course list Air, Water, Food, Clothing, Shelter, and Gravity. Oh sure - also the strong and weak nuclear forces and electromagnetism - but bringing those up would be way too geeky, even for me. Oh wait...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Life, the universe, and everything. Working on a contrarian theory that the answer is not actually 42.
On a typical Friday night I am
Not where I'd like to be. Hence this.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm willing to admit anything - but maybe not here!
The two of us