53El Cerrito, United States
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My self-summary
I have gotten really good at being single. Too good. I enjoy my hobbies: adrenaline-filled forays into crochet, playing pool, and patio gardening. I meet my girlfriends after work on Fridays for a G&T, and play a little pool before going home to feed the cats and toss some food at the smelly teenagers who lurk with their playmates in the corners of my home, plotting my demise and stealing all my eyeliner.
I think my life is generally on a positive path, and most of the time I feel pretty satisfied. For all that, I do think it's time to re-introduce a little awkward into my life, and shake things up in a good way. I guess that's where you come in!

I have traveled, and will do so again, as soon as I can come up with a scheme which will allow it. I have managed to pack a fair bit of adventure into my years, and sometimes I look back at my past and I'm a little surprised to find myself in such a relatively conventional place now. (Remember that Clash song, 'Death or Glory'? Sure you do!) I suppose I must have a fairly good outlook on things, as my friends come to me for advice pretty regularly. Or else all my friends are just smoking-hot messes, and I'm only well-balanced in comparison...

I come from generations of California farmers and East Bay working class roots. Growing up in the East Bay in the 70's led to a fairly radical leftist childhood, and while I'm pretty settled, that shaped who I am. I value kindness highly, and have a lot of empathy, which combines oddly with a somewhat snarky sense of humor. If you can't laugh at yourself, no worries, I'll do it for you. But I don't like humor that plays off making others uncomfortable who are not in on the joke. (That's really just a more subtle form of bullying.)
What I’m doing with my life
I'm living it.
(Were there other options I missed?)
I am excited about my job - and fortunate that it actually does feel like I am making a difference in other people's lives.

I'm raising my kids.
(Were there other options I missed?)
They are my greatest challenge and my life's keystone. I am really dedicated at this point in their lives to making them the most self-sufficient, joyful, fulfilled people they can be, because God help me, I sure don't want them moving back in once they're gone....

I am always angling on how to get out of the area for a while, sometimes with them, sometimes without. I love to travel, long distances or short, three day weekends or three month explorations, employment and finances not withstanding.

I'm... well, here I am. Rolling around the grad school option, trying to build a new and more effective program at work, hanging out in bad places with good friends.
I’m really good at
Improvising. I am undoubtedly resourceful.
Hmm... what's the phrase? "Jack of all trades, master of none"?
Even in those professional skill-set/aptitude tests, I usually come up with some variant of 'generalist". I'm fairly crafty, somewhat musical, a reasonably good cook, I can bake, crochet, bullnose marble and tile a bathroom, burp a baby, and gap spark-plugs, though that last one is admittedly a bit of a dead end. I don't actually have a whole lot of deep expertise or rare talent in any specific field, though. At first blush that may not sound all that impressive, but it actually means that I tend to surprise people over and over again with unexpected skills in unusual situations, so... yeah. Fun!
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm polling now. Check back for results.

In a recent survey, 71% of respondents answered beautiful eyes, 40% responded style, 33% said sense of humor.
(Multiple answers were common, resulting in percentage skewing.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Hmmm. Dickens, I'm a Dickens fan. Mockingbird, by Tevis. I liked Rebecca more than I expected to. Watership Down, Geek Love was a page-turner, even if it disturbed me. Tanith Lee is, I think, rather under-appreciated. C.S Lewis wrote one of my favorite books, , modeled loosely on Dante's Inferno, called the Great Divorce.

I love old TV; Perry Mason, Star Trek, The Avengers when I can find them. I went on a Hulu jag of old Kojak for a while that was a lot of fun. (It's amazing to me that those cars really didn't seem insanely, cartoonishly large, even when gas was cheap and theoretically infinite. But I was there, though of course just a BABY, and nope, no eyes were batted.) I did get sucked into the walking Dead, until the writers moved away from the 'Zombie Apocalypse' theme, and centered instead on the 'Days of Our Zombie-Tinged Lives' genre.

I like (everyone says this, I know, but it's TRUE, darn it!) a very wide range of music, including Depeche Mode, Kinks, Camper Van Beethoven, Bad Brains, Led Zeppelin, Sonora Dinamita, Arcade Fire, and an oddly enduring fixation on Verdi's Requiem.

Food: I will eat salmon pretty much anytime, prepared any way. I can make a mean menudo. (No, really, it's very good.) I like sushi, not a big pasta fan, and I want to learn more about the mother sauces.
I really, really love a good French Onion Soup, though honestly it's one of those things where even when it's bad, it really isn't bad. Cheese, bread and stewed onions are going to be hard to screw up. Good nachos are awesome. I guess I eat the way I listen to music. A little bit of pretty much anything, with a couple of hard and fast exclusions. No pigs feet, no country western.

Movies I've loved:
Fargo. The Full Monty. The Maltese Falcon. All About Eve. Harold and Maude. Harold and Kumar. Night of the Hunter. The Haunting. (Old B&W original.) Blade Runner. Les Diaboliques. The Man with No Name stuff. And for whatever reason, I really enjoyed Sweeney Todd. So much blood! So much singing!
Six things I could never do without
In no particular order:

-an internet connection
-hot water (For tea and showers)
-my teenage Minions of Darkness
-Click Espresso protein powder
-my white noise generator
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- my work. I run a program at a public university, and it's not just a paycheck to me. Often it's barely even that.
- my kids. Of course.
- patterns. Trying to match up similar patterns of social/societal movement in ostensibly disparate arenas. Fun!
- food. 'Cuz, you know, food, right? What's not to love? I really do like to cook.
- vacations. Because for all that I do love my work, I know that whatever project I may be working on this semester is unlikely to be what I'm fondly remembering when I'm 87.
- just what the hell my cat sees on that wall that I don't.
On a typical Friday night I am
I'm very lucky in that I really do like my co-workers; on Fridays we'll sometimes go out for a couple of drinks after work, before heading home. I think it says a lot that we can spend the whole week working together and not be burning rubber in the parking lot to get away from each other by Friday.
Or I may visit friends, and go out for sushi. Yes, a wild woman. Hang on tight, I may order a new nigiri off the menu...

I enjoy playing pool, I like to run (really, it's more of a fast shuffle, but as long as I keep my elbows bent, it counts),and at least every couple of months I'll head out on Friday night, usually to visit with friends or family out of town for the weekend, but I'd be amenable to alternative suggestions...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm actually harder to really get to know than one may initially realize. I'm very open and honest, but I have layers, like a parfait...
And everyone loves parfait.
You should message me if
you want to tell me something.
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