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My self-summary
I just realized it's been a long time since I updated this. I've been out of touch for awhile learning a new job and dealing with life's vicissitudes. I'm taking a chance and reaching out. I'm still more than fully employed and trying my best to get enough dive travel scheduled. I was most recently in Belize for 10 days of diving - now I'm focused on making it to my next trip in February - St. Kitts & St. Maarten. - Anyone interested or need a dive buddy for another trip?

Anyway, as the title says, I'm a fat chick-- some people might use terms such as BBW, Full figured, Plus Sized, Person of Size, Generously Proportioned, Rubenesque, or some other term meaning Large. I know for some this will be an absolute deal breaker - too bad, so sad - they will miss out on a great heart combined with lots of fun and passion. Take a look at my photos and decide for yourself whether or not I might be your 'cup of tea.' I'm looking to meet some (a?) new friend(s). Ideally someone who might actually be a scuba diver, or at least enjoy talking about diving and looking at underwater photos. (I'm happy to share your interest, too.) Preferably someone somewhat more liberal than Atila the Hun -- although, this MIGHT be negotiable for someone who finds me REALLY attractive.

I'd like to find a long term, or at least ongoing relationship, but I also recognize that some fun dates could be a great way to start.

I like to think of myself as open minded and able to recognize that differences can add spice to a relationship. There are, however, a few things that are likely to be 'deal breakers' for me: 1) If you voted for or supported Donald Trump, there's just no chance. We clearly have extremely different priorities and vastly different views of the world that we want to live in. 2) If you decided not to vote because you didn't like either candidate, that tells me that the things I hold most dear, my most important values aren't important enough for you to defend. 3) If you are a long distance from me -- I'm really looking to connect with people local to me. 4) While I have spiritual views and beliefs, if you are seeking a 'God fearing' woman - I'm not the one for you.

I am well educated but self identified working class, cute, blonde, and a fat chick who doesn't take herself too seriously.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a psychologist. I work for community based non-profit agency that provides health care to low income communities. There's no need to be concerned, I only "therapize" when someone is paying for it. So, no, I'm not going to analyze you and, no, you don't need to 'be careful what you say in front of me' (at least no more than in front of anyone else.) In addition to the day job, I also teach part time. So that adds up to 'working alot' And... I'm re-parenting a very cool dog who didn't have such a great beginning to her life; we're making up for it. -- I wouldn't mind a reason to be distracted! I'm looking to add more 'social' to my life.
I’m really good at
I'm a pretty good cook, a great bargain hunter, a bit of an "animal whisperer" and a fanatical warm water scuba diver. I've been told I'm a good kisser - but, perhaps you should judge for yourself.
The first things people usually notice about me
It probably depends on the person... I imagine either my hair, smile or eyes... or maybe the size of my.... uh, never mind... but, in the right situation it might be the red and black wet suit with the funny looking ears... or perhaps the large black dog at my side... I wonder what you might notice?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Well.... favorite depends a bit on the day... Movies - wide range of interests - action (as long as there isn't too much gratuitous violence - James Bond excepted), documentaries, comedies, romantic comedies. Books -I'm still recovering from the overdose of professional reading during grad school - I enjoy mysteries for escapism. Music -- varied, as long as it isn't too loud... jazz, folk, world, singer - song writer, rock (generally somewhat lighter stuff), some classical, some country. It's a plus if it can be heard in small clubs or coffee houses. Not much for rap, hip-hop, opera. Food - most anything.
Six things I could never do without
Let's see... scuba diving, diet coke, cool breezes, clean sheets, ice cream, reading material, affection, touch.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My last dive trip, my next dive trip, editing underwater photos and anything related to scuba diving!! Other common topics include social issues, creativity, and ways to procrastinate household chores.
On a typical Friday night I am
wondering why I didn't make plans earlier in the week. So, with no plans, I focus on laundry, household chores, grading papers and maximizing nap time. Pathetic, I know.... can you save me from myself?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I sometimes eat cereal for dinner.
You should message me if
you are available, within my local area, find me attractive and think you might enjoy spending some time with me. Gentlemen: I typically don't respond to messages that say "Hello dear, I will like to know you. Tell me about yourself." If you are interested, let me know why you are interested, or ask a follow up question to something in my profile. Convince me that your message to me isn't just a form message you sent to every female who met a certain criteria.
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