34Amherst, United States
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My self-summary
I've been described as a "cerebral hottie". The "cerebral" part is certainly true. The "hottie" part? Well, I suppose that's in the eye of the beholder. So... um... behold!

Lately I feel freshly inspired to meet new people and go on dates. Care to join me for coffee or dinner, a movie or trivia night, a play or a comedy show?
What I’m doing with my life
I'm living on my own in a condo in Amherst, keeping up with both a day job and a fledgling freelance career as a writer and editor.
I’m really good at
... getting a joke a second before everyone else in the room does.

... Standard English spelling, grammar, punctuation, and word usage. I try not to be the kind of person who nitpicks about these things in casual conversation, but I am, in fact, a copy editor and proofreader by trade. So if you're uncertain about, say, the difference between everyday and every day, feel free to ask!

... word games and trivia games. Any party I throw is guaranteed to involve Trivial Pursuit, Boggle, or Scrabble. I sacrifice at least 20 minutes of my life to Sporcle.com every day. I'm good enough at trivia to have made it onto Jeopardy! ... and then lost on Jeopardy!. Really.

... certain yoga positions (but by no means all of them).
The first things people usually notice about me
... is my wheelchair.

Yeah. Didn't expect that, did ya?

I'm not embarrassed or bitter about my disability, and I understand that it's the first thing about me that people see. But I'd like to find someone who's willing to look again and see the second and third and fourth things as well. (And, no, that's not a reference to my anatomy. Necessarily...)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite authors include David Sedaris, Ursula Le Guin, John Hodgman, David Rakoff, and Stephen King. Currently I'm listening to Where Am I Now?, the memoir of former child actor Mara Wilson.

Favorite movies? The Truman Show, Wayne's World, The Princess Bride, Parenthood, Little Man Tate, Trembling Before G-d, Brokeback Mountain, The Aristocrats. The most impressive movie I've seen in the past year is Get Out.

Musically, I'm largely stuck in the '90s with the songs of my youth, and in the '60s and '70s with the songs from my parents' youth. But in recent years I've tried to venture into some new music. The current stars of my music collection include-- but are not limited to --Barenaked Ladies, They Might Be Giants, Talking Heads, Van Morrison, Joni Mitchell, Indigo Girls, Billy Joel, Cat Stevens, The Beatles, The Monkees, Simon with and without Garfunkel, REM, Counting Crows, Alanis Morissette, Better Than Ezra, and Florence + The Machine. The newer music I enjoy is such a random collection that I'm not even gonna try to list it.

I know and care more about comedy than about music. I've been lucky enough to see a lot of funny people perform live: Kevin Meaney, Margaret Cho, Marga Gomez, Mitch Hedberg, Jonathan Coulton, Colin Mochrie & Brad Sherwood, Paula Poundstone, Seth Meyers, Mike Birbiglia, Kathleen Madigan, Tig Notaro. Someday I'd love to see John Mulaney, Eddie Izzard, Gary Gulman, Josh Blue, Jackie Kashian, Myq Kaplan, Emily Heller, Demitri Martin, Patton Oswalt, Pete Holmes.... You get it-- I have lots of favorites.

I'm a vegetarian (but it's okay if you're not), and restaurant dining is one of my favorite pleasures in life. I lived for a year in England and therefore inevitably developed a taste for Indian food. Thai is also good. I've always liked tea, and now I have a moderate but deeply ingrained coffee habit. I don't claim to be a connoisseur of anything. I am, however, becoming a more skilled and more avid at-home cook.

Over the past year, I've watched Bob's Burgers, Speechless, Brooklyn Nine-Nine, Saturday Night Live, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, Stranger Things, BoJack Horseman, Jane the Virgin, Black Mirror, Happy Valley, QI, and, of course, Jeopardy!. Right now I'm catching up on The Great British Baking Show and Love on Netflix. My all-time favorite shows include Freaks and Geeks, The Twilight Zone, Friends, Arrested Development, Doug, The Adventures of Pete & Pete, Ugly Betty, Breaking Bad, and The Kids in the Hall.

I've discovered that the mundane tasks of life (dish-washing, waiting for buses, spam-deleting, what-have-you) are much more pleasant when I can do them while listening to smart people talk about fun things. So I'm a voracious consumer of podcasts, including Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me, This American Life, Radiolab, Ask Me Another, Pop Culture Happy Hour, The Moth, Extra Hot Great, Risk!, How Did This Get Made?, 99% Invisible, 2 Dope Queens, Grownups Read Things They Wrote as Kids, Mortified, My Dad Wrote a Porno, S-Town, The Truth.... The list keeps growing.
Six things I could never do without
1. A sense of humor (my own and other people's).

2. My aforementioned wheelchair and electric scooter.

3. Buses. I don't own a car, and I hope never to have to.

4. My laptop.

5. My Bag of Everything. It holds my money, cards, keys, phone, passport, checkbook, and other essentials. If I have it, I'm fine; if I lose it, I'm screwed. (Is it cheating, to list this as one thing?)

6. The Associated Press Stylebook. I don't agree with everything it says (and I'm aware that this profile doesn't adhere to its guidelines), but I'm duty-bound to it at work.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...names. I'm strangely fascinated by people's names and lists of names. There's a baby name book on my shelf, and I've never been pregnant.
On a typical Friday night I am
... planning what to do with the rest of the weekend. Sometimes I go to the gym, work on a freelance editing assignment, cook for myself, or watch Netflix.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
... is that my screen name, DukDucKat, consists of the first three letters of each of my names-- last, middle, and first. That this works out to three misspelled animals is just a nifty coincidence.
You should message me if
... you like what you've read here. Or if you like some of the same things I like.

I apologize in advance if it takes me a few days to respond. It's (usually) nothing personal-- I just sometimes get very busy and have to prioritize other things over OKCupid correspondence.

You're most likely to get a response from me if:

1. You're fairly close to me in age-- say, between 25 and 42. I'm not interested in a romantic relationship with anyone much older or much younger than I am.

2. You're fairly close to me geographically. We can get to know each other a little bit online first, but if we hit it off, I'm going to want to meet you. And for reasons I mention above (particularly lack of a car), for me to travel beyond the realm of the PVTA bus takes some planning and money. So I'm not interested in anything long-distance.


3. You write specifically to me, based on actually having read my profile. I typically don't bother responding to messages that say simply "Hey" or "How are you?" or "Want to chat?" And even if a message is long and full of pleasantries and compliments, I won't reply if I can tell that it's a generic form letter that the person probably sends out to dozens of strangers. I'm interested in interacting with individuals who have specific reasons to want to interact with me in particular. If something in my profile strikes you as intriguing / funny / attractive / relatable, mention it in your message, so I can tell that you've read the profile.
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