40Emeryville, United States
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My self-summary
I'm interested in a future of possibilities: adventure, forbidden pleasures, expedited growth, deep connections. Life can be harsh and unjust, so I'm looking for a genuinely kind, resilient person who always keeps it interesting. You may be savagely funny. You definitely have a depth of character and a generosity of spirit.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm searching for three things in a girlfriend: beauty, wit, and an old soul.
I’m really good at
dating, being a good partner, parenting, feeling gratitude, entertaining, playing Merle Haggard on guitar ("just three chords and the truth"), and attracting great people into my life.

Also, most everyone already knows that I am an incredible dancer. But you probably already knew that.
The first things people usually notice about me
My je ne sais quoi.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
In our book club this year we've been reading some awesome contemporary literary fiction: Rachel Kushner, Alice Munro, Marylynne Robinson, etc. My non-fiction reading tastes span biography, neuroscience, positive psychology, architecture and literary fiction. I love aldaily.com. And I read Slate, The Economist, Aeon Magazine, Foreign Policy and misc. views on the Middle East (Ha'aretz, Daily Star, etc.).

My music collection is extensive, and right now I'm in love w/Daniela Andrade on youtube. Listen to her! She's soooooo good.

I'm an omnivore. Like those people from France.
Six things I could never do without
I don't need any of it. I could live off the land in Alaska and catch salmon w/my bare hands.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
flow states, plans & adventures, why women are turned off by men that use emojis, whether there is a biological basis for consciousness, how binaural beats work on the mind (for concentration, sleep, relaxation, etc.), what plant medicines like iboga and ayahuasca and peyote can reveal to humanity, what kind of piano teacher I'm going to find, how the Internet is impacting our abilities for long-form thinking.
On a typical Friday night I am
if not parenting (half the time), usually doing something cultural (film, theatre, jazz, art) or on a wilderness expedition (Lassen, Sequoia, Lost Coast).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My cooking repertoire is somewhat limited, but I will cook for you and will love cooking for you. Let's go to Kitchen On Fire and take a cooking class together.
You should message me if
you're a bit of a smart ass (or a major league smart ass), charming, imaginative, really fun, easy-going, kind/real, and have a good heart.

If I'm in a relationship, I will rarely check this site. I am also taking a break from social media. If you feel there could be a good connection, send me a note and I should get an e-mail alert. If I don't respond, please don't take it personally. Best of luck find your person(s).

P.S. In the past, I've not been open to non-monogamous relationships. But I don't want to place any boundary conditions on a relationship. "Mostly" or "strictly" non-monogamous are not necessarily accurate details above. I'm very specific about who I would and wouldn't become involved with. Maybe you can help me understand human connection more and we'll spend less heartache on social mores.
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