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My self-summary
I'm interested in a future of possibilities: adventure, forbidden pleasures, expedited growth, deep connections. Life can be harsh and unjust, so I'm looking for a genuinely kind, resilient person who always keeps it interesting. You may be savagely funny. You definitely have a depth of character and a generosity of spirit.

You live in your head, your heart and your body. You're aware of the pros/cons of imbalance here :).
What I’m doing with my life
I'm searching for three things in a girlfriend: beauty, wit, and an old soul.

You're a gifted communicator with a good heart and genuine self-regard. You're in an "expansion" stage of your life (emotionally, intellectually, spiritually). You're physically and emotionally available. You're curious, self-aware and always learning. You give yourself permission to learn about all sorts of stuff.

If you're going to Symbiosis/Eclipse Oregon in August (Aug. 17th - 23rd) and you think it'd be fun to hang out, definitely get in touch.
I’m really good at
dating, being a good partner, parenting, feeling gratitude, entertaining, playing Merle Haggard on guitar ("just three chords and the truth"), and attracting great people into my life.
The first things people usually notice about me
My je ne sais quoi.

I have a daily hot vinyasa flow practice--and I'd prefer to date someone with a regular meditation and/or vigorous yoga practice. This is of course great for sex, but it's great for EVERYTHING: imagination/creativity, stress, cardiac health, sleep, all of it. You don't have to come w/me to yoga class, or cold water swimming, or any of the crazy sh*t that I like to do, but some of these could be fun to share.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
In our book club this year we've been reading some awesome contemporary literary fiction: Rachel Kushner, Alice Munro, Marylynne Robinson, etc. My non-fiction reading tastes span biography, neuroscience, positive psychology, and architecture. I love And I read Slate, The Economist, Aeon Magazine, Foreign Policy and misc. views on the Middle East (Ha'aretz, Daily Star, etc.).

Recent reads outside of the book gang:
1. "Stealing Fire" by Steven Kotler & Jamie Wheal
2. "Moonglow" by Michael Chabon
3. "Trickster Makes This World" by Lewis Hyde
4. "Mating in Captivity" by Esther Perel
5. "Out of Your Mind" by Alan Watts
6. "Sapiens" by Yuval Harari

My music collection is extensive, and right now I'm in love w/Daniela Andrade on youtube. Listen to her! She's soooooo good. I just got back from the Kate Wolf Music Fest and got loads of inspiration there: Carrie Rodriguez, Appalachia Rising, Brandi Carlile, etc. I listen to live music ~2x a week, so hit me up on this.

I'm eating almost all paleo right now. My system appreciates this and I easily become pudgy and Jim Morrison-like if I regularly drink alcohol and eat bread/pasta. So I don't and I've made peace with it. Life is better this way. You might make a mean apple pie or linguini or whatever, but your sugar and your carbs are dead to me.
Six things I could never do without
I don't need any of it. I could live off the land in Alaska and catch salmon w/my bare hands.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
flow states, plans & adventures, whether there is a biological basis for consciousness, how binaural beats work on the mind (for concentration, sleep, relaxation, etc.), what plant medicines like iboga and ayahuasca and peyote can reveal to humanity, what kind of piano teacher I'm going to find, how the Internet is impacting our abilities for long-form thinking.

In re: the "drug" question and internal explorations, I'm healthy and I like CBD oil, the very occasional cannabis joint, and the very occasional psilocybin mushroom trip while camping. I'm also an explorer of native ceremonial plants like ayahuasca, iboga, etc. I use them rarely and they are an adjunct to a regular mindfulness practice and not a substitute for said practice. Plants have a lot to teach us and can help us become healthier, more balanced, more empathic, and more loving. I participated in the 4-day "Psychedelic Science" symposium this Spring 2017 in Oakland and I believe we're at a cultural turning point on this issue. Teacher plants may be a necessary technology for saving the world. But I don't need a friend/partner/lover to be into psychedelic explorations. She could be, but it's not necessary.
On a typical Friday night I am
if not parenting (half the time), usually doing something cultural (film, theatre, jazz, art) or on a wilderness expedition (Lassen, Sequoia, Lost Coast).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm more typically a monogamous relationship kinda guy, but I'm interested in learning more about communicative, ethical non-monogamy.

I've been reading a lot on the paradoxical relationship between domesticity and sexual desire.
You should message me if
you're a bit of a smart ass (or a major league smart ass), charming, imaginative, really fun, easy-going, kind/real, and have a good heart.

If you feel there could be a good connection, send me a note and I should get an e-mail alert. If I don't respond, please don't take it personally. Best of luck find your person(s).

P.S. I have two children (ages 7 and 10) and love them like the dickens. But I'm not available for more breeding. If this is something you'd like, I wish you luck finding it!

And if marriage is something that's important to you and you think of marriage as stability and commitment, then we're probably not a match. I'm probably not entering into new legal covenants again, but I'm all about secure, committed partnership.
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