39 Shi’antou, China
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My self-summary
I have a very dry sense of humor, which often gets me in trouble in Rhode Island - because it is a very humid state. People often don't seem to know quite when I'm joking and when I'm being serious. When I say something inane in a deadpan, deliberate voice and a woman laughs I think: "I need to meet her."

In relationships - both friendly and romantic - I often pair well with someone who is quieter, more observant and perhaps a bit shy. I think shy, observant people are fascinating. If you're an ENFP or an INFP, let's chat!
What I’m doing with my life
I work at a university. I travel for work, so I also make frequent appearances in DC and NYC.
I’m really good at
For fun I sometimes write riddles. In the universe of poetry, riddles aren't beautiful so much as they are engaging and educational. I write riddles that rhyme because I think the rhyming makes them more fun to speak aloud (and easier to remember). Here's a sample of two riddles I wrote recently:

Short men in a well-known book
Work alone but sleep in packs.
Each man lives a brief, bright life.
Each head scrapes a scratchy back.

Looks without seeing and speaks without sound.
Stares straight at me from impossible ground.
An uncanny mimic with ease unrehearsed
Except that to me he appears in reverse.

Both riddles have answers which are common everyday objects or concepts. (Answers at the bottom)
The first things people usually notice about me
People assume I'm from England. It must be the tall, pale, self-deprecating quality.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read constantly for work, and most of what I read is well-written but not that spectacular. My career is remarkably similar to spending entire days reading OK Cupid profiles.

I don't read novels as much as I used to, but when I do it's usually escapism: fantasy, science fiction and young adult fiction are my favorites.

I also read magazines and newspapers. I read the New York Times daily and also like The Economist, New York Magazine and the Bloomberg Business.

I don’t own a television, but I do consume some series all at once on DVD or Netflix: Dr. Who, Arrested Development, Battlestar Galactica GoT, MST3K, etc.
The six things I could never do without
Peanut butter, dental floss, dogs, espresso, exercise, fresh fruit
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I’ve been a Democrat all my life, but Democratic politics sort-of bores me. There are definitely gradations of difference between the mainline Dems and the progressives in our party, but overall it feels like we are a political class that mostly agrees with itself on most issues.

On the other hand, I find Republican politics generally and Republican presidential primaries specifically, fascinating! This year there are so many interesting things going on in the Republican primaries. First, you can see the real spectrum of conservative politics in America, and the fissures that exist between the social conservatives, the economic conservatives, the Libertarians and the angry white men.

Donald Trump feels to me like the antidote candidate to a system of politics that strikes many people as fundamentally elitist and fake. His appeal is that he has utter contempt for political correctness. I think this also explains the popularity of certain stand-up comics like Louis C.K. and Amy Schumer who earn people’s love by making jokes about things that “aren’t supposed to be funny”. Other Republican candidates and various media outlets seem utterly flummoxed by Donald and by his inscrutable appeal. They disregard him and his supporters at their own risk. He IS a racist and a xenophobe, but he also seems more authentic than everyone else on the dais.
On a typical Friday night I am
Lately my alcohol tolerance has gone waaaay down. So, if you're thrifty, I'll make an excellent drinking buddy. I'm always game for an unusual Friday night adventure. That could include: visiting a new watering hole, using the playground across from my house at 2 AM or exploring an abandoned building. I keep my mind open late.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Lately I’ve communicated with several women on OK Cupid who say that they are looking for a “partner in crime”. I’ve pointed out to several of these women that if they plan to break the law they probably ought to be more discreet about it. This helpful advice on my behalf rarely seems appreciated.

The other day a woman chatted-me-up and asked if I liked piña coladas and getting caught in the rain. I told her that I neither liked sugary drinks or being caught out without an umbrella. She thought this was utterly hilarious. I think she may have been mentally ill.
You should message me if
...you genuinely like people and are curious about their lives.

...you're GGG

...you have red or auburn hair

...you love Northampton.

...you play Settlers or Scrabble (and you usually win)

...you're looking for a long-term relationship and you're more interested in going on a date than you are in corresponding, at length, online.

Answers: 1. A book of matches 2. My reflection